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Husband hates dogs--- including Ours! :eek: Help! My husband hates my poor little BeanSprout..... He isn't mean to him or anything. He just ignores him. Beanie tries sooo hard to get him to warm up, but Hubby will have NOTHING to do with him. :eek: What can I do to bridge the gap??? How can I get him to like Beanie??? HUbby says Beanie is too playful, too stinky (even after baths), too loud. Argh. I am sooo sad :( Hubby said he is going to start sleeping in another room. Suggestions, please! |
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Yeah, no kidding. I admit that Bean is not the best mannered puppy in the world (16 weeks), but he is sooooo sweet. He try to nuzzle next to my husband every morning to spread a little puupy cheer, and Rob rejects him. It is awful :( |
How long have you had him? Is he a dog personal at all? What about a compromise? |
That really is too sad. I wouldn't try to bridge the gap, you can't force it. Maybe when your little sprout calms down...of course by then he probably won't want anything to do with your husband...then you'll get the satisfaction of seeing the tables turned. Maybe your husband is jealous, or maybe he just really doesn't like dogs. Just enjoy your puppy to your fullest ability and don't let anyone take that joy away!!! |
We got him on May 20th..... Rob has never been a dog person--- I think he had a bad experience as a little boy. BUT STILL--- Beanie weighs 5.8 lbs. I love sleeping with Beanie. Sure, he wakes me up to potty 1x per night and he wakes up early. But I don't mind. Rob never has to do a thing accept try to keep Beanie away from him! |
Is he possibly jealous of the affection you're giving to BeanSprout? Try to give your husband some extra attention over the next few days and see if he just feels replaced. I would think that if he really dislikes dogs to the extent you describe he would have talked this over with you before you got your dog. Men act so tough on the exterior, but they're really just a bunch of softies inside. Try not to talk about the puppy at all while you're giving him attention. (believe me- I know it's hard!) Leave your husband a little note on the bathroom mirror telling him you love him and have a good day, give him a backrub, make his favorite meal... Don't let him move out of the bedroom!! It's not a good step anyways, but if he's jealous and you let him go, it will probably make things worse. See if it's the jealousy thing first. If not, ask him to explain his feelings. (The dog smelling is not a valid explanation!) He owes you an explanation of some sort. Good luck, and keep us posted. |
Jealousy. Hmmmm. That could be it. Duh. Honestly, that NEVER occured to me. Wow! You don't understand how much time I spend with Beanie!!! THANKS:) |
Did he say he didn't want a dog before you got beansprout (lovely name btw!) |
lol..centralnewyorker may have hit the nail right on the problem - I'd suck up more to hubby then gradually talk to him about how much little Bean seems to love HIM and lay the guilt on gradually.....he may one day look at your baby in a new way .... |
Unfortunately, he did mention that he did not like dogs. But, he agreed that I could get him. Thanks for the name compliment! |
You have to respect him for that! Sounds like you probably have a pretty good man there. All the more reason not to force it, and like someone else said, do not let him move out of your room. If you try pushing this, you will no doubt hear, "LOOK! I said you could get the *#!# dog, what more do you want?!?". Don't let your precious little puppy become a sore spot between you and your husband. He said you could have him, so have him....he will be one of your most favorite gifts EVER! |
[QUOTE=BeanSprout]:eek: Help! My husband hates my poor little BeanSprout..... He isn't mean to him or anything. He just ignores him. Beanie tries sooo hard to get him to warm up, but Hubby will have NOTHING to do with him. :eek: I had to use a little reverse phycology.. My husband is a rancher and his Australian Cattle Dogs are his REAL dogs. When I got Maggie, he didn't much want anything to do with her. My husband is 1970 graduate of Texas A&M University, which they call the students Aggies. The female Aggie is called a Maggie. That is why her name is like it is. When I bought her clothes, I made sure there was one that said, "Daddy's Little Princess". I even will ask him to babysit every once in a while. So far, it's working. I think he was jealous at first, but now she is truely his "Little Princess". |
hhhmmm....sounds like you should have not gotten the dog. I mean, he was upfront with you about how he felt about dogs, you cant really be surprised at how he's acting towards Beansprout now. Maybe if you got Beansprout some training he can try to impress his way into your husband's heart? |
In my most humblest of opinions I think you forced the issue too much at the detriment of your marriage. If he told you he didn't like dogs and didn't want them you should have left it at that. You might have been a little selfish and now your dog and you will suffer because of it. If he can't fall in love with a yorkie then dogs are really not his thing. Good luck though. |
It sounds like he's just a little jealous. He may not be a dog person but I would bet money that the reason he's acting the way he is, is b/c he's not getting all of your attention anymore. |
I dont know about that. If he were trying to get more time with her, then I'd agree with you on that one. But he just doesnt want any time or anything to do with the dog. I'm not a cat person, never was, and I know I never will be. Some people are just the way they are about things, you've got to respect that and move on from it. |
I like to look at marriage as a compromise. I would not expect my husband to like or love everything that I do. Nor can I really appreciate some of which he finds passion in. (golf) However, because a husband and wife love each other and have respect, I feel possibly each spouse can appreciate the affection or passion that the other one has in their life even if it isn't shared. I hope your husband can see how much you adore Bean Sprout and because of loving you, find this a great quality about you even though he might not personally take interest as much as you do. Best of wishes with you all. :p |
He'll come around :rolleyes: he said he didin't like dogs but he loved and respected that you do! and gave you your right to have a dog! So love him for that and be sure to divide your attention to both and eventually just maybe he (your baby) will accepted. Patience :) |
My husband isn't much of a dog person either. He really doesn't pay much attention to Willy. He agreed to get Willy for me as I really wanted a dog. I love to go for walks & he agreed that I needed a walking partner (he doesn't like to go for walks)& Willy loves going to the park for walks. Willy is my shadow & I enjoy him very much. All my husband does is complain about Willy. But he complains about everything so I write off most of what he says. I tell him all the time what a really good dog Willy is & he tells me he's ok for a dog. He like our cats better because they are more independent. He feels dogs are needy & he simply cant be bothered. Enjoy your new baby, as long as your hubby isn't abusive to the dog dont let it bother you. Some people just arent dog people. He obviousley loves you enough that he wants you to be happy, and if this baby makes you happy dont push him. Desiree |
I actually really believe little Bean Sprout will grow on him - |
My mother has a picture of a little dog holding a sign that says "husband for sale. .25 cents...i love it..... |
I have to agree. Try to give hubby more attention. I have to say if he's not a dog person to begin with then a not-well-behaved dog would be especially hard for him to adjust to. Try working on Bean Sprout's training, and between that and how adorable he is he just might grow on hubby! Good luck |
Thanks Everyone! I really appreciate your feedback:) |
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