Oh, only b/c so many people have said that female Yorkies bond with males easier...that's all. :)

I'm not a non-dog person...I don't hate them or even dislike them...I'll admit I AM more of a cat person, but a Yorkie seems like a cat to me anyway....it's not that big of a leap to me.

I'm more than willing to have a Yorkie, I just am not used to an animal disliknig me....or at the very least, being fearful of me.

MOST animals of any species have personality -- if you look for it. And I think that the shining personality is not found more in a dog or a cat or even a person for that matter. Strictly an individual by individual thing.

You say you think cats are more lovey and cuddly -- I'm sure that's probably true of some cats. And I heard someone say just the opposite about Yorkies, that they are more loving and cuddly. Well, our first Yorkie was NOT lovey dovey AT ALL. Very smart, entertaining and always glad to see you. But terribly independent and just as glad for you to leave as for you to come home. Pick him up and snuggle? NO WAY! He'd be out of your arms before you could settle in.

And animals DO choose people. Our current Yorkie is ALL MINE. He loves my mom and will run to my mom if I scold him -- otherwise, he is on me like white on rice. On the other hand, our 2nd cat, taken in as a stray kitten last year, is a big mama's boy. He will stand outside her door and cry if it is closed and walk through the house crying if he can't find her. He could care less if I show up or not, unless I happen to have food. Then he's my best friend.:D

However -- and this is weird -- he will let me pick him up, hold him, scratch him and just purr and purr. He will lay by my mom. Sit in her lap but will NOT let her pick him up and hold him for more than a minute. Go figure.

Each animal -- Yorkies included -- are as different as any people you'd meet. While the cat will probably never completely warm to me, he no longer jumps up and runs away if I stop to kiss or pet him. He still won't come directly to me when I call (unless I have food) or stop to let me pet him if he is walking by. But I can scoop him up and hold him -- and he'll let me.

So ... give your little guy time. And keep trying. If you get mad or frustrated by this, he'll sense it and resist you even more.

But then what happens if you get a female and she has the same reaction to you as the little male? It isn't always true about females bonding more to males. My little Annie-Belle was definitely a mommy's girl. She loved my husband, but was my girl without a doubt.

Another thing, it could be something as simple as your cologne as to why the little guy you have now doesn't want to be near you. My ex came by one day wearing a cologne that even bothered MY nose and Annie-Belle wouldn't go near him. That wasn't like her at all. Just a thought.

If you are only home 4 to 5 hours a day I feel having any dog is a bad thing to do. Ask Anyone Dogs need more attention than that! and just getting another dog will not help.

Well I consider my yorkies my family, they are like my kids. Even if one of my yorkies bit me or by bf I would still keep it cause I love them that much even though my two are not the bit aggressive in any way and I know they wouldn't ever bite. My boy is more attached to me than my bf because since day 1 I have always carried him, spend time with him, feed him, give him treats so he attached to me. My bf is basically always around so he also bonds with Teddy too, even though Teddy loves him he is very attached to me. My girl London is younger and we both spend the same amount of time with her, I would say she loves us both the same. But you never know what to expect, these little ones usually are more attached to one person, the person that gives them the most attention since day one and really spends time with them and bonds with them. Imo you need to spend more time with him and if you can't then I would say rehome him cause a yorkie needs LOTS of attention.

I know dogs need a lot of attention.

One point I've brought up with Heidi is...what happens when we have children?? She wants 3 children....I'd rather have 2. Regardless, if we have 2 or 3 children...and we only have 5 hours or so a night when home...just how is that dog going to fit in?? I'm just not seeing it right now...children are a HUGE responsibility...the biggest there is....

not always true. I have females and Mine are little butt warmers - one for each cheek :D :D and are right by my side no matter what I'm doing in the house - and my husband is the one home 24/7....When I'm out my little shadows are miserable with their noses glued to the door I left out of...when I say miserable I mean it - they pout and sulk when the shoes go on and throw parades when I come home.

as I said earlier - the only time the girls really pay attention to him is when I'm right there...I didn't plan this - it just happened this way. He's fine with it and loves how much they love me and he knows they love him too - but I'm their main source of affection.

And so are Dogs!

To be perfectly honest with you (not to be or sound mean at all) it is sounding more and more like a dog just isn't right for you and Heidi. At least, not at this time. Maybe rehoming would be the best option for everyone.

:( :( that makes me sad...Dogs are PART of our family ..Children are a huge responsibility but dogs are too. Too many people ditch the dog when having kids and that's very sad for the dog especially when they were there first. You CAN HAVE BOTH in this world ...there's no reason to ever consider giving up a pet when a kid comes into the picture unless it's a dangerous dog or for health reasons

yes, and lexi came before my boy friend and someday to be my husband if
it works out that way, but i wouldnt have to choose, cause he knows the
deal.... why would i even think about choosing... and if he or anyone else asked me
to, the're ass would be thrown out so fast they wouldnt see it coming...
animal lovers are all the same, either you are, or your not.!!!!...
no inbetweens...

No no...what I'm trying to say is that people have said that we don't have enough time for them as it is...and you know, I wouldn't totally disagree with that.

When children come into the picture, the free time is squeezed more...let's say we had 4 hours of good time daily to give the Yorkie...with a child comes in, that's obviously going to lessen...there's so much you have to do with a child....and that's all I'm trying to say...inevitably, that new responsibility will interfere.

So let me ask you this....

What if you got a Yorkie AFTER you got married?? Would the dog still be higher on the ladder?

dog would still be higher on that ladder... thats my dog!!!!!!
the right man wouldnt ask... the right man would know. no animal lover,
your not welcome in my home or anywhere near it....