How to convince DH 2 get 2nd Yorkie?
 

Hi Everyone,

I'm sorry that I'm not on as much as I should be but I've been dealing with a lot of personal issues and things have been very difficult for me lately. Depression sucks!

Anyway, I'm logging on today because I really need help with how to get my husband to say yes to a second Yorkie. He loves Scruffles to death and my DH says that one is enough for now and Scruffles might not be able to handle an addition to our family. Scruffles is 1.5 yrs old. I think he would love to have a playmate and I would love to get another puppy or even an adult dog. My husband said a firm NO and it's not for discussion. I am so upset over this. I'm 30 yrs. old and I've come to terms that I physically cannot give birth to a child. That's ok because I love my fur child so much, just like a human child, and I just want one more. Is that too much to ask for???

Thanks much,
Heather

I agree that these little fur babies are a terrific alternative to a baby!! I was wanting another baby....and my youngest is almost 18, so we'd really be starting over. However, I got a puppy, and then last week got another! They are the girls I never had!
I don't know your relationship with your hubby, but mine also told me no, twice - lol! But he didn't really mean it, cause he would never tell me I couldn't have or do something ;) And he is so attached to them, just like I knew he would be, that he would never trade them in at this point!!
I think what convinced me that I could have another, was when I puppy sat for 6 nights....it was fun and hubby became really attached to that puppy :D
I guess I didn't help any. For me, hubby said no and I just brought one home and knew he'd accept her....

I don't really have too much advice b/c I have 2 already. They are 2.5 and they are the best thing for each other! They play and they fight, but they also keep each other occupied and company. They both love to be with me, but if I have stuff to do around the, they stay with each other.

When I was looking for them, my DH (live in boyfriend at the time), made me wait a few months until I sold my car and then I could get them. Well, months were going by and my car wasn't selling. Then one day I decided to go online and start to look for puppies. After a few days I found my TJ and Roxy and I was IN LOVE :wub: and I had to have them. I contacted the breeder and got the info. Then I printed HUGE photos of them and placed them in front of my DH and told him everything I knew, BUT that if we didn't act ASAP, they'd be going to someone else :eek:

Later that night he handed me with a envelope - it was filled with money for Yorkies!!!! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

It was the best decision ever. Roxy and TJ LOVE each other so much! Just a quick story: Roxy had to have LP surgery last year. She was at the hospital for 3 night and 4 days. My DH took TJ to work with him (he drives around all day to Landscape estimates and sets up crews, etc.) He said TJ was a complete MOPE! And when TJ was home, I could barly get him to eat, and to top it all off - TJ went on a POOP STRIKE. TJ didn't poop the whole time Roxy was gone - 4 days! I had to schedule an appt. for an enima the morning of the 5th. THANK GOD, when Roxy came home the night before TJ enima appt. - He pooped within 10 mins. of seeing and kissing her all over!
There is def. a bond between them that's for sure!

Best of Luck! Keep us posted!

I think you should sit him down and just talk to him about it and tell him EXACTLY how you feel. I am in the same boat with my hubby except for real children, we have two, (one is mine from a previous relationship the other we had together) and now I am ready for our last one (#3). He wants to wait but I would rather do it now and get it done and over with.

I had to convince my hubby to get the one that we have and am now working on him for a second one. Poor hubby feels like I have dumped all the responsibility for the one we have on him since he is retired and home all day and I work full-time. But I think it would be so much easier for our little girl to be home by herself if she had a sister to keep her company. Hubby doesn't agree.

The way I convinced him to get our furbaby who is 8 mos. old now wasn't very mature (especially for someone my age). I had invited my grown kids to come to Christmas dinner a good month and a half before Christmas. They are the only family we have in our area. My husband was a single child and my sister lives 5 hours away by car. Well, my son turned me down, without ever having mentioned that they wouldn't be available prior to this. Now that may not seem like a big deal, but I have to add that I was flat on my back for 4 months over the summer and fall due to a nerve injury, so I had not been able to have our kids over to our house and hostess anything for over a half-year and the prior year it had been discovered that I had a blood clot which nearly got to my lungs and could have killed me. I thought that Christmas, I would do a bang-up job and celebrate getting over a very debilitating injury by cooking Christmas dinner. I had written both my kids my reasons and my hopes and really poured out my heart in an email, but all I got from my son was that he and his wife wouldn't be available for dinner. They were going to his in-laws. I cried and my husband called him and told him I was very upset, and my son wouldn't budge. My husband put me on the phone and I literally begged him to just make a couple of hours available anytime from afternoon to evening to come over for dinner. But he still would not budge. They were spending the entire day with his in-laws. I was feeling very emotional and could not hold back my tears. My son just got angry with me for putting him on the spot.

Anyway, after that fiasco, I was extreeeeemely depressed for days and days, and cried on and off. Then a lightbulb went off in my head. I had wanted a Yorkie for two years, but had never been able to convince my hubby. So I found a Yorkie in the paper for sale and showed it to my hubby and explained how happy this would make me, if he bought it for me for Christmas. By this time, he was desperate to find a way to pull me out of my depression, so he immediately agreed. We had to drive 1&1/2 hours away in a snow storm to get her, but it was all worth it. I did not care at all if no one came for Christmas. My son's step-daughter wanted to come over to spend time with our puppy, but they had burned that bridge. However, my daughter did come over with her husband. It was a great Christmas.

Sorry this post is so long, but it boils down to, if you really want another puppy, I advise you to let your husband know how unhappy you are about not having children and how this would make you feel like you have a real family. Let him know how important it is to you. Don't be afraid to show your true emotions.

What is the reason why he doesnt want another Yorkie? Find out and see if you can fix the problem.

Yes, just talk to him and explain how you feel. I got Cooper when my oldest son had been off to college for a year, and the next one was due to go that fall. I knew I needed something to love on with both of them gone. It was very hard when my first son left and I knew the last one would be even harder. I explained all this to my husband, and of course, he had seen for himself how sad I was even before the first one left, so he grudgingly agreed...or well, he said "do what you want, but I don't think it is a good idea" It wasn't that he didn't like dogs, he is actually so soft-hearted he thinks ahead to when they get old or if they get hurt. Plus, we travel quite a bit. Anyhow, as I knew he would, he fell right in love with Cooper. A few months later...after the 2nd son had actually gone, I wanted a little girl yorkie for myself and for Cooper. Husband says NO. One is enough, hard enough to travel (we take him everywhere)...but then Carley kinda fell into my lap and I told him about her (details is what you need) and he said ok. Carley became "his" little girl. And he agrees every day that it was a good thing to do. My sons now tell me I replaced them both with dogs, and I guess in a way I kinda did, but they really help us bring joy into our lives. I wish you good luck in convincing him, he'll be glad you did!!:D

straight out. no 2nd yorkie, no sex.
lol jjjjkkkk! :P

just talk to him calmly about it. print out some info about the benefits of 2 dogs, make a petition :)

hey the no sex idea would probaly work. haha

I have an only child and The Boy Wonder moved out in December.

The poor Hubster had to listen to me cry for weeks on the weekend when he was home( he was living away working 6 days a week).

I moved to NY Jan 1st, to be with Hubster--but he travels a LOT and I was so lonely.

Well work took him to Australia for 4 weeks in Feb---Milo came home March 3rd.

The Boy Wonder says the same thing and when he can't find the time to visit me I jokingly say, "That's okay my good son spends time with me."

If you figure out how to convince him--please let me know, I'm already ready for another.:eek:

I would try and explain how important getting another one is to you and that you will take full responsibility. I always feel that I am an adult and if Iam taking responsibility for something then I should be able to get it same goes for what my husband wants. The best thing I ever did was get a 2nd Yorkie close on age to Cali. They play fight and snuggle together.

I know how important it is to talk things out and let each other know how they are feeling, but I must say, it would do no good for my husband to give me a "firm NO." If that happened I'd have one just as soon as I could. I'm not a little girl and he's not my Dad. So that just wouldn't work here.

I have 3 Yorkies and soon getting a 4th. I can't wait!!!

If you figure out how to convince him to get another one, let me know how you did it! I want another one too because our kids are grown, and Jake brings us so much joy that I think another one would just add to that. My husband says he thinks that since Jake is so attached to me, getting another one would make him jealous and might upset him.

Good luck to you! I hope you can get your 2nd yorkie!

Thanks for all of your replies...

My husband is working right now. He called me on his break and I asked if we could at least discuss this over the weekend and then I explained to him how greatly this issue upsets me. He's willing to talk about it this weekend but he said that doesn't mean we're getting another one right away. In the end, I think I'll get my way hopefully.

DH does want another Yorkie, but not right now and not within the next year either. He's scared that Scruffles will be jealous and he thinks that Scruffles needs to be older before we introduce another dog. DH is also scared that if they are too close in age, they'll die around the same time. I told him that he can't think this way.

My husband works nights. It's just me and Scruffles together at night. I don't and can't have kids so another furbaby is all I'm asking for. Hopefully we can compromise. And what's the big deal anyway. Financially, I'm responsible for Scruffles and would be so for the new furbaby too. I paid for Scruffles, I pay for all of his vet bills, food and toys too. It would be the same if I got another Yorkie so hubby just needs to get over his reasoning.

My husband is fearful like yours of our baby getting jealous. Scruffles is a mommas boy, but I have more than enough love to share.:)

Me too! If I had my way, I'd have 3 or 4 of them!;)

Heather, I was in a similar situation . .hubby was explicit in his NO. But what I did was continue to search for the perfect girl and when I found her, I told my hubby I found a girl that is so adorable and will go see it . . . he ignored me . . .but at least he knows I am serious about getting another one. I finally went and saw Annika and came home telling him I made a deposit . .end of story :p

Now he says 2 is ENOUGH. Well, I don't think so :rolleyes: but for now I am fine with 2 . . .when I am ready for the third, he'll know . . . :thumbup:

You gotta learn to wear the pants in the house sometimes :p

Good luck :thumbup:

I have a daughter who now is in college . . . my hubby knows how much I adore my 2 furbabies and so I always tell him that he is dad to them :thumbup: He has come a long way and have mellowed :aimeeyork

Good luck and can't wait for pics when you finally get one :animal-pa

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: I agree 100%!!!! I just brought home my third Yorkie this week. ;) My hubby to be was against it which almost pushed me more to do it. LOL!! I am 43 years old, have my own money, take care of my Yorkies, buy their food, toys, groomimg, vet visits, etc. I would support anything he had such a passion for and I expect the same from him. He is just warming up to her today. He loves my furry kids, just doesn't understand why 2 was not enough. I am not sure at this point that 3 is enough. Hehehe!!
Hang in there ang good luck!! :)

:yelrotflm I had to laugh! We got our 1st ever dog last year. I always told my husband that I would have a yorkie one day(We've been married 22 years) Well....I love Riley so much that I started thinking about adding to the family. "Riley would have someone to play with". My husband looked at me & said "That's what you said about the kids & looks at how that turned out!" :yelrotflm My children are 17 months apart & even now as teenager, they fight about EVERYTHING!

Hi Heather,

I'm sorry DH is being a "Man" lol I guess he has to understand your needs and he needs to compromise with you some how.

If you work and help pay your half of the financial expenses I don't see how he can lay the law down on you like this.

Actually 2 is much better then 1. Lillie is much happier now that she has a playmate, now when I go to work she and Baby have run of the house and when I get home they have there toys all over the living room like they had so much fun that day playing.
Yorkies need companionship, having only one at home makes them have anxiety, I think you need to tell him Scruffles needs a playmate and he is at the age where it's the perfect timing!

:D In chinese, we have a saying "daughters are closer to the heart" and not to knock the sons of the world, but, there is a bond between a daughter and a mother that nothing can break. A daughter will always be there for you and support you. :) even if they aren't as appreciated as the "sons".

well I wish you luck, I hope he changes his mind.
I could have had a rescue yorkie a few weeks ago from a fellow yter, but my hubby said no...he never tells me no lol but he did that day.....now I keep showing him pictures of cute little yorkie puppies in the nursery and I say aww I want another so bad and i pout lol well He is almost there and ready to tell me yes lol I can tell......don't give up.... I'm not :)

I'm with you on that. If you knew me well, I wasn't too happy to hear that "firm NO" thing either and it did not sit well with me at all. I had to let it go though because I just wasn't in the mood for a major blowout over that comment.

My husband did not want a second one either, but he also didn't want a first. When I got Hannah he didn't look at her for a few days, but then when he first played with her he fell hard, and now he adores her and calls her his princess. Hannah was our first house dog, we have a golden that is an outside dog, and a few months after we got Hannah we got a black lab puppy (he was my husbands idea and was given to him as a gift) he stays outside too (I know alot of poeple don't think that it is not nice to leave dogs outside, but my golden and lab thinks they are being punished if we bring them inside the house). So when I mentioned getting another house dog he wasn't happy. He said no and I said yes. When he walked in a saw him he just said "you bought another sh** eater", and I said "no he doesn't eat sh** like Hannah" (and he doesn't). But anyway he got over it and he loves them both.

My husband works alot too and my daughter graduates from highschool this month...:cry8: so I was lonely. One of the last things that my daughter needed me for was to drive her places, so when she started driving and was never home I was lonely and felt like I needed something to take care of, thats when I got Hannah. And I got Bentley for Hannah to have someone to play with and because I wanted another one too. I am 35 years old and I only have one child, and even though my husband doesn't have any children, I don't think I could start over right now having more babies, so our dogs are our babies.

I didn't ask to bring my YT home. Duke was #4 dog in our home.
I always say "it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission.:p
Good Luck.
Dawn