| Yorkies*Forever | 05-14-2005 04:22 PM |
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Originally Posted by Trixie's Mom Hey everyone. I am the "lady" that was going to adopt Beau from Yorkielover9 but lost out to a fostering family. I feel like those adoptive parents, who are shown a picture of a baby they are told can adopt, you know, they fall in love with that picture, get so excited and even begin to prepare the home for the grand homecoming, then fall in that big disappointment when they are told that the parents changed their mind. Sigh. That was me. I'm only grateful that I didn't let my boys know as this was going to be a big surprise for them, boy I don't think I could have dealt with breaking their hearts!
So I'm here posing this question that I would love for all of you to help me understand. First, I am asking this sincerely, with no ill malice and just hope that yorkielover9 can in the end, keep Beau because I know how precious he is to her, as we all know how we all here love our babies.
But, how can you offer to foster a baby for lets say 3-6 months, knowing that in those months, your baby will begin to get used to the "fostering" family, along with any other babies they might have and not feel that there will be any kind of impact when you come back and take him/her away from a family that you hope will have given them a great love? How do you deal with the sadness of letting him/her go from that fostering family, knowing that there will be an impact on the foster parent plus any additional dogs that might be in the home? Does the fostering parent love this said baby with the same love and be able to let him/her go when lets say, 6 months rolls by?
Do you think this will have an effect on your baby wondering who his mommy is? Is it the person who let me go in the first place? The new people who are taking care of me?
Can anyone help me out here?? I just need to understand this.
I hope that God will send me another little baby to love!! Like the saying goes, all good things come to those who wait and I hope Yorkielover9 will get to keep her baby!!
xoxoxo
Trixie's Mom
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When there are a lot of people looking into adopting the same dog, you can't say for sure that are getting that dog until you have worked out all of the details with the mom. Remember, only one person/family can get the dog.
Fostering is a very rewarding thing. Although you can get very attached to them, you know that you have kept them alive. I know that wasn't the case here. She would have NEVER taken him to the pound, but many people do. If they go to a shelter then they usually go to the first person that shows interest in the dog which may not be the right home for it. If no one shows interest in a certain amount of time it's put down. Even "no-kill" shelters have to put them down to make room for incoming dogs. Some places will turn new animals away rather than put them down and that can be fine except that dogs that are in shelters for too long can go stir crazy and then get put down for that reason. If they are in a foster home then they may not go to the first person that comes along. If that isn't the right family then they stay in their foster home for longer is all, but they are much happier, don't go stir crazy, are healthier, better behaved because the foster mom can work with them more etc. As a foster home it is sad to see your foster baby go after having them so long, but if a good home is found then that can help you feel a lot better.
Check petfinder.com daily. There are currently 249 yorkies and yorkie mixes on there. There are also a lot on there that may be listed in a state, but they are fostered nationally. You just have to look at the city or read the bio. The right one will come along. | 