So lets suppose: Suppose you post a question that generates some very strong heated opinions. Opinions that you do not agree with. The opinions are coming from people that have the knowledge of the breed, experienced and are familiar with AKC standard, hours upon hours of research as well. You get your feelings hurt because you felt they were too harsh or mean.

I would bet you money that those same, "mean", people would be there for you day or night in an emergency for you, talk you through it no matter how long it took, and give you the reassurance needed when you are terrified about your little one.

I agree ! You brought up some good points. This was one of the first thing that I noticed when I first joined YT. When I see those post I really try to avoid them and go the other way. Like it or not.. there have been a lot of these post. It is really no wonder that a new member turns and runs.

I also have to say that I have met some really great people on here. Some have been just as helpful and kind as they can possibly be. DOn't give up just yet. Welcome to YT!!!:)

Kimberley ... that's exactly what I was thinking as I was reading this thread!! :thumbup: :thumbup: Great minds ..... ;)

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Hang in there. This site is wonderful. Lot's of knowlegable yorkie lovers.
Maybe so passionate with thier feelings they can get carried away at times but not deliberately. Most of the time they realize it and apoligize. It has happened to me. There is always someone to help. Opinions differ in every aspect of our lives. I, too, like Carol Jean, if looking for another yorkie, would not hesitate to purchase one from a pet store. Most would not agree with me but that is my own opinion. To me it is not debatable. You just need to know when to walk away. Enjoy your new friends here and learn, learn, learn.
Carol & Buddy:aimeeyork

I love this site for the most part, I wouldnt leave because of snooty or trouble maker people, every site or aol list has them lol Its not worth the aggrivation...
but here on YT if i see a thread getting argumentative, i leave it... if i type a post reply i read it, if my reply might hurt someones feelings i delete it before i post it..makes me feel better that i answered it ( even though only to myself lol)

I see alot of new members with 1 or 2 posts reply to a thread as if to start trouble or maybe stick up for a breeder who has been questionable..those are the kind of threads i stay out of once I see it happening.

I replied once to something then later in the thread come to find i should have kept my mouth shut because I didnt know all the facts before i typed...I learned a lesson there.

life is too short and stressful at times to come on here and add to it for anyone.

I talk to a very few members in pm's, I wish it was more, maybe someday I'll get to that point, but I love coming here especially when I'm feeling down, which is alot lately. I read posts, look at all the beautiful furbaby pics. I've learned so much since ijoined. this really is a great place to be a part of.

I try to remember this.....behind this screen is a real person, you dont know their story, are they having a bad day? feeling down? think before you type.

have a great day..Elaine

I have not been a member long, and I have seen some threads where people are maybe rude, maybe opinionated, but for the most part I have seen encouragement, humor, sincerity, and a common love for our furbabies. I didn't find this site until after I got my baby, but when I did, I learned sooo much! Even if I don't agree with someone I learned from them. If I don't like what someone is saying I move on. There is something for everyone here....and thank you to all of you who take the time to post your knowledge when I know you would rather be getting wet kisses from your :aimeeyork

been here a while....
 

Some are very opinionated. But I must say I did read a post just befoe this one and I was shocked by the rude comment someone made. Didn't discourage me though. Someone apparently has too much time on their hands. And people need to realize that their opinion about certain things is just that. AN OPINION. Stay. Lots of great people here.

yep, I'll admit it I am just plain MEAN!!!!:p

THIS IS MY POINT. WE ALL HERE TO GAIN KNOWLEDGE NOT PUT EACH OTHER DOWN. WHAT YOU WROTE WAS NOT NEEDED. REMEMBER EVERYONE WAS NEW TO THE BREEDING FEILD OR PARENTING FIELD BEFORE.

WOW! I didn't see that she was putting anyone down. Susanbee is actually one of the nice ones! What you don't know is that some that are considered rude or hateful will also be the first to help you out when genuinely needed.

I know that one of the "mean girls" was the first to help me out one time and I called her in the wee hours of the morning and she's not only done this for me, she's done it for many other members...but no one remembers that.:rolleyes:

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Yikes! I didn't see anything at all mean with her comment.:( I think she was just offering an explanation?

I UNDERSTAND THAT BUT THERE IS NO REASON TO BE MEAN OR RUDE. MY MOM ALWAYS TOLD ME THAT AN FIRST IMPRESSION IS THE ONE EVERYONE REMEMBERS. YOU DONT HAVE TO BE RUDE OR MEAN. ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY HOW YOU SAY IT. I AM NEW TO THE YORKIE WORLD AND I LOVE MY BABIES TO DEAF BUT IM NOT GOING TO ASK SOMEONE THAT WAS JUST RUDE TO ME FIVE MIN. AGO A QUESTION AND OR BECAUSE I'LL BE AFRAID THAT THEY WOULD PUT ME DOWN AGAIN. THATS ALL IM SAYING.

hmmm...some would consider it rude that you type in all caps.

I was thinking the same thing.

Well i wasn't trying to be rude. SORRY:(

I will just say that I hope you stick around long enough to see all the positive attributes offered by this site and it's members.:) I wish I could understand completely where you are coming from, but I am honestly cohaving a hard time following you and making sense of what has you so upset. :( Just give everyone here a chance. You have to have some thick skin sometimes, but it's worth it to stay in the long run.:thumbup:

We know you weren't trying to be rude but when you type with Caps
It signifies you are screaming or yelling... Sometimes my caps would get locked in and not even give it a second thought until I started my conversation.. But I really think you misunderstood Susanbee51
It appears what she is saying is that if someone came off rude or mean due to their knowledge in the field of the question would also be there for you and all of us... sometimes we interpert different meanings from just reading and think it sounds mean or rude but the person behind the words are sharing the facts as they know it... I always know when someones is being rude... because Im guilty of that by not reading and understanding the post...
Uh... txshopper73 :rolleyes:

I would never be mean...that's just not me. If I can't say something nice (or supportive), then I won't say anything at all - and go onto the next thread ;)

I know for myself, sometimes when I read what I have posted it sounds not at all how I was meaning it. I feel it comes across not nice or (I'll admit it) dumb. Although, when I was writting it, it sounded great in my head....hhmmm:rolleyes:

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Although, when I was writting it, it sounded great in my head....hhmmm :D

If what Susan sd. sounded rude or out of line to her, then MAN, no WONDER she thinks this is a mean site! Cuz, Susan was disagreeing with her and offering another perspective in the most gentle and kind way possible.

I always have to laugh when people think this site is harsh. I mean sure, it has a few moments here and there, but man, I've been on some other sites, including a guinea pig one, that would chew YT up and spit it out and not think twice. :D

[. One girl wanted advice about buying a puppy over the internet - she thought she was scammed. The responses ranged from you deserve it for being so stupid to you should be killed for adding to the pet over-population.[/QUOTE]



:lol tears :lol tears I'm sorry.....what you wrote sounded hysterical!


Francie

When I first read this, I had to do a double take. I thought I was quite clear when making my point, and then reread my post wanting to see where I was rude and putting someone down. Nothing in my post is rude and/or putting others down. Yes, I did think it needed to be said otherwise I wouldn't have said it. My post was not offering an opinion, it was offering fact. I for one have no problem with people asking and getting answers to their questions. I ask tons of questions. When they ask and do not like the answers they get, do not heed the advise given, and then become defensive with answers they didn't want to hear in the first place, then why ask.

I am sorry that you missed my point completely. Thankyou to those who saw what my point was.

I am very surprised to read this. Obviously I did not read the thread you are referring to. But I have to just add that: I am a person who was scammed by an internet ad/site; who them posted my experience on this board. I have to honestly say, no one on this site has ever called me stupid, or told me I deserved to lose my hard earned money, nor has anyone ever suggested that I should be killed. My experience has been quite the opposite. I have had people express both empathy and concern/interest over the ever growing prosperity of puppy mill pups, especially since the dawn of the worldwide internet.

I don't think this is off topic, but I wanted to share what my daughters and I were talking about this AM.

My girls are 21, 18 & 16.

It had to do with life.

I told them that I tried to teach them that in order to learn, they needed to ask questions. That the only dumb question in life is the one that does not get asked.
You can not learn if you do not ask!

We also talked about how I raised them to not be rude, but that their opinion was theirs, & theirs alone and that no one could take that from them.
No me, not their dad, not their sisters, no one.
It does not mean that their opinion is wrong nor does it mean that it is right! It just that it is their opinion and that it belongs to them and they should not feel belittled if someone tells them that they are wrong. Because after all that is just their opionion.
An opinion, is someones thought and it belongs to them.

Sometimes one of the hardest things to do is to let go.
I really hope people that feel this site is mean and uncaring will take a step back and see how many wonderful things go on, on this site. Because I promise you, you will be blessed by the people on this site. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but it will happen.

I cannot imagine how you are thinking anyone is being rude or putting you down here -- maybe it is time for you to re-evaluate how you perceive what people say. A person can look between the lines and find whatever they are looking for -- look for friendly, helpful people and that is probably what you will read -- look for meanness and hate and that might be what you read. In other words, try to look at posts with a positive frame of mind -- it might make all the difference in how you perceive the words. People are trying -- but you are putting them off with this deprecating attitude.

Smile -- it will make you feel a lot better!

First off I would like to apologize to sussy. I was wrong and you wasn't being mean. To everyone thanks for your help and hopefully we could share more tips from each other. I would love to learn more from each and everyone.:yelrotflm

That was my point. Even if someone tried they wouldn't get away with it here but they do on plenty of other sites.

Francie (you nut ;) ) was responding to my post (18) in this thread. I was agreeing with Safire's post about how mild mannered YT is compared to other boards.
I read those hateful comments on another site. The girl's first (and only) post she was asking for help and they ripped her apart. I felt so bad for her.
Something like that would never be tolerated on YT.

I'm sorry you were scammed. I feel I was too in a way. I paid so much more than I should have for my first yorkie. It was ridiculous.
Thanks to YT that won't ever happen again.
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