Well grooming didnt work out today
 

The groomer was awesome.... it was Chloe that didnt handle the whole situation very well. It was the first time I have ever dropped Chloe off somewhere and she freaked out. Basically 30 minutes after I dropped her off the groomer called me and said she bathed her and trimmed her sanitary areas and was trying to clip her nails and chloe was such a nervous wreck the groomer couldnt finish grooming her and the groomer didnt want to stress chloe out anymore than she already was which I really appreciate. Basically as soon as I left chloe freaked out. CHloe is extremely clingy to me and I didnt realize how bad it was and that it makes her a bit anti-social and nervous with everyone. The groomer (whom I have talked with a lot over the past 2 days) thinks I really need to start takign her to dog park twice a week or she even thinks I should take her to doggy daycare so that chloe can be without me for awhile and get used to other people and dogs. She thinks I have spoiled her so much she isnt confident on here own which I agree but I have to admit I love chloe being really clingy and happy with her momma. But I would like to be able to take her place without her freaking out also. Im kinda mad at myself for letting it get this bad. Me, my husband and my friend that works with me always joked about chloe being such a "momma's girl" but I didnt realize how bad it was and how bad she gets seperation anxiety when I leave her sight. I take her some places with me but just not enough. Yesterday she went with me to the post office for the first time and she was a complete nervous spaz. Im so sad. So I cant get her groomed professionally for awhile until I get her better socialized and build up her confidence. Anyone in DFW area want a weekly playdate? Know of a good training class?

I want to add:

The groomer was great and Chloe looks so soft and shiny from the products that she used. I am going to try some. And the groomer didnt charge me much either since she didnt get to finish chloe. I would have paid a lot more and I tried to but she wouldnt let me. I guess chloe was such a nervous wreck she felt bad for her. I hope I can get chloe more social so I can take her to this groomer on a regular basis, I really like it there. :thumbup: :thumbup:

aww poor chloe missed mommy....that was really nice of the groomer to call you and tell you everything...sometimes you wonder what really happens at some of these places when your not around...looks like you found a very trustworthy groomer....

awww that poor little girl. at least the groomer was a good one and wouldnt
go further, thank god..

This groomer is seriously awesome. I finally found a groomer that I can trust and that does an awesome job and chloe was the one that couldnt handle the grooming- irritating isnt it? :( Im very bummed but I will work on the situation!

Oh I am sorry the grooming didnt go so well. Maybe next time will be better. Jewels was nervous the first time but now she just sits on the table and lets her do it. I think they get used to it the more they go. Jewels goes once a month so she is used to it

I know you don't want to take Chloe back to the groomers until she is more socialized and not so afraid ... but maybe the groomers can help her get over her fear. Maybe you should take her there once every 2 weeks to get her nails clipped and once a month just for a bath -- that way she gets used to being handled by other people. That is what my vet recommended when Codie went through seperation anxiety. I use to bring him to the groomers every 2 weeks to get his nails clipped and once a month for regular grooming and in the beginning he was a nervous wreck but now he's ok.

Do you have anyone with friendly small dogs that lives close to you?? I'm sure Chloe would love some more friends! :D I wish you all the best with this and I just know it will work out for you and Chloe!

I dont think you guys realized how bad chloe was. I really want to keep taking chloe back but the groomer said Chloe was so bad she doesnt think there can be a next time until I get her a little more socialized and less scared. She absolutely loves Chloe and she told me to bring her up there anytime to have her just sort of hangout so she can get used to them and the place. Chloe seemed to really like thier yorkie leo but I think she was a little scared of thier playful cat (chloe has never seen a cat before). Im going to start doing a little bit of business with these groomers sellign some of my stuff up there so everytime I go up there I will bring Chloe with me and I am hoping she gets used to the place because I really wanted to get her groomed on a weekly basis. Im keeping my fingers crossed.;)

never seen a cat??? wow, i wish lexi never saw a cat... she hates them the little stinker..

Chloe is great with other dogs I think it just me being gone is what she cant handle plus she is not very cooperative with the whole grooming process period and Ive been doign it myself once a week for a year and 9 months so you'd think she woudl be used to it by now but NOOOOO. She is a nightmare when it comes to clipping nails and trimming hair. I think I really spoil her rotten and let her get everythign and anythign she wants. I think she behaves this way because I have given her no structure or training. She is so cute how could I not constantly hold her and spoil her and give into her every demand? As soon as I got back to the groomers after they called, chloe begged me to pick her up and once I held her she was fine. I talked to the groomers for like 30 more mintues and the whole time chloe just snuggled in my arms. Surely you can spoil a dog and train it to be social and get used to grooming sessions and being out in public, right? Maybe I am a bad mommy.

your not a bad mommy, your a great mommy shana... dont worry about it, so you do the grooming thats all.... i do everything except lexi's nails, she wont let me do them and she terrified of the vet or groomer so she just stays still.

Shana.....We had some problems with Magic at first also....it was amazing how badly she trembled!! (And then at times it would upset her tummy from her getting so nervous!) But our groomer is allowing our girls to do doggie daycare at her shop. It started with a few hours while I was in class and then 2 days a week while I was in class. But now that I am working fulltime the girls are at her shop all day most weeks at least 4 days.....and they do not mind it anymore. Our groomer does not kennel the girls....we are lucky....she has a area in her grooming area with blankets that they hang out in when they are not running around. Of course our girls do alot of sleeping during the day, but it works out great for us. (We are very lucky because she charges us very little also!!)

Maybe you could ask the groomer if she will allow you to do something similar?? And start with a very short period of time.

That is a great idea, the groomer liked her so much I bet she would let me do something like that and she told me to bring her up there anytime to let her hangout and get used to the palce. She lets Chloe run around when she is there too. Thank you for the idea :)

Aww poor Chloe! Let me just tell you to start *very* slowly. Only leave her for 5 mins and try to have someone distract her. Do that a few times then leave for 10 minutes. Don't make a big deal out of it.

If you can sign up for Canine Good Citizen classes - one of the parts of the test is a "supervised separation" for 3 minutes. You have to give your dog to a "stranger" in our case it was another dog owner and then go outside for 3 minutes and they can't completely freak out. She may not pass the test, but if you take this class you will practice doing that in a controlled environment where the trainer can give you hints on what to do better.

I checked to see if there were any Certified Pet Dog Trainers in your area and this is the only one i came up with: http://www.richteranimalhospital.com/obedience.html

And here's a good booklet: amazon

I'm sorry it didn't work out! Maybe you could stay with her and she'll be better. IT sounds like you have a real caring groomer too!

Uh-oh! I didn't dream of something like that happening. Kacee has never really been around cats, either, but when she sees one she wants to play with it!:D All of their little personalities are different. I started taking Kacee to a groomer the same week I brought her home - for that reason. I was hoping she'd like it better than Muffin ever did. That first week I took her up to visit her and trim her super sharp little nails. I think it'll work out in the end. Good luck, Shana!:)

I'm sorry about Chloe... I bet she is totally a momma's girl. Dont feel bad, we know you love her very much. Chloe is just like a regular child... sometimes we can just spoil them too much. Its easy to do, but once we do it, its harder to correct. I know I have a 2 yr old and a 12 yr old daughter and Maddie. I agree, maybe try going and staying at the groomers. Maybe the first time you could stay there by here and just let them do her nail, next time do her nails and ears, then keep working up to a little more each time. Maddie was a nervious wreak the first time I took her. I felt so bad. Now she is starting to get a little use to it. She is so spoiled to. Thats what happens when they are our worlds. LOL:p :p :p I think more playdates would be a great idea.

So lets all fly to New York to shop and bring our yorkies for a play date. LOL Wouldnt that be fun!

I used to work for Richter's Animal Hospital's accountant :p . Small world! I will have to give them a call

This cat was soooo funnny but very playful ad probobly at least twice Chloe's size. He would sort of pounce on chloe and "bat" at her with his paws and Chloe didnt knwo what to do because she has never seen a cat and defiently never played this way before, lol. She is normally the pouncer, not the pouncee

Shana, you are NOT in any way a bad mommy!! Chloe is trainable ... it just takes time. But don't ever think that you're a bad mommy ... Chloe is lucky to have a mommy who loves her as much as you do!

Shana...if ever there was a good yorkie mommy, it would be you!

I've had that same problem with Maddie and the first groomer I took her to, she is no longer welcome there because as the groomer said, "She turned into the Tazmanian Devil!" After that ordeal, I decided rather than look for another groomer, I'd just do Maddie myself. I then happened to find a groomer at the pet store here and made an appointment. I bathed Maddie first so all she'd need to do is clip her. That didn't go too bad. The next time I let them bathe her. When I came to pick her up, even my holding her wouldn't soothe her. She was so freaked out and was clawing on me like a cat would do. It took me a long time to get her to calm down. The other night I was at the pet store with Maddie and walked back into the grooming room. When I did, Maddie started clawing me and freaking out just from being in there...the groomer wasn't even there at the time. I think Maddie is afraid of the noises and the dryers and I've decided again to just do her myself. Maddie is scared to death of things with motors. I've tried easing that fear by holding her while I vacuum and she still runs for the basement every time I get the vacuum out.

Maybe it's not totally separation anxiety for Chloe, but maybe she's afraid of the noises and the goings on. If dogs are afraid, they will be hard to handle.

I know how you feel...I've been there. I wanted so badly to keep Maddie well groomed, but I guess since I know how scared she gets, I will just do it myself. She may not look well manicured, but at least she won't have to go through that ordeal any more! I hope you have better success with Chloe getting used to the groomer! One thing...Chloe always looks adorable, so you've been doing a great job!

Ohh Man Shana, that really stinks! Lillie has her 1st appt to get groomed in Oct and I'm so scared cause she has never been to anyone else, I'm the only one who has ever groomed her. When we go somewhere she shakes, but I try to take her out to socialize her offten.

Good luck to you and I think doggy day care is a great idea.

My Tinkerbell is the same way, so I can relate. I need to get her out more also. I once took Tink to my relatives house to stay for about 2 hours, she has a few little dogs to play with. Tink sat by the door on alert for me the entire time, she would not budge, and when I got back, she then played and had fun with everybody. :rolleyes: She has her comfort level, and it's with me. It's hard when I work at home, I rarely go anywhere that she can go so it's hard.

I think Hope will be that way too.. as long as we are home, she is fine with others but if I bring her somewhere and walk away, she freaks and cries until I go back to her... I bring her to work sometimes and when I have to go to a different room, she cries until I come back.... she is sooo sweet! I am trying to bring her out a little at a time so she doesnt get so scared.... it seems to be getting better everytime.

Shana send her to me for a week and she won't be scared of the cats anymore...Bear & Lexie will train her on the finer points of being a cat chaser....Lexie is used to other people and me being gone, but even with me holder her, we go somewhere new she will shake for awhile, then she is over it..:)

Aw poor little Chloe, I think dogs are are like children ,they are all unique! She might just take a little longer to get used to different situation's,she is just a sensitive little one who know's that she is safe with her mum and is wary of everyone else.It will take a while to build her confidence and is best done slowly,wishing you luck Julie

Ohh!!! Poor Chloe!!! Shana, I guess this means we need to have doggy playdates and trips to the dog park more often. Also, you might want to try puppy training classes, I found they are really helpful with socializing since it is a controled environment. Maybe her and Rocky could take one together since she is comfortable being around him. BTW, what groomer did you take her too? I am trying to find one closer to me. I love my groomer in N. Richland Hills, but it pretty far from my house now.

We're always up for playdates, too!!!! I just saw this thread...guess I missed it when you posted it. Hey, wouldn't it be fun if we all did a training class together!!! I'm sure we'd have the three stars in the class! :D