first off, let me start out by saying that i am the one who left her dog alone for 24 hours. i would have left it at that until of course i read everyones replies.

to each their own, your entitled to your opinion. first off no one knows me or knows anything about me other than that incident and you dont know the circumstances of that even. so

if your comparing a child (person) to the scenario i had with her dog (animal) then you need to take some classes on how differentiate the two, because a baby and a dog are totally different. so stop trying to compare the two.

as far as the lady and the cheating thing. im sorry it happened to you, but dont ruin a happy home by putting ideas in her head. just because someone took advantage of you doesnt mean its happening to everyone else when they are by themselves.

the funniest part of this thread is how most of you are trying to advise her to leave me. im like yeah ok :thumbup: lol. its funny how people on a forum can give advice to someone and not know the person. then again maybe thats why some of you are single. if you are able to break up with someone for leaving an animal alone ( b-cuz in the end he is a dog) for a day then i have some bad news for you.

Im sorry but im not being left :rolleyes:

You are a very brave man to join and post your response. Be prepared for what you hear.

Whether you believe this "dog" is not as important as a human really isn't the issue here. The issue is that you agreed to care for living, breathing being. Unless this dog is wee wee pad trained or you have a doggie door, leaving the dog home alone for 24 hours is totally irresponsible, whether or not he had adequate food and water.

You can argue all you want, but to many of us these babies are just as important as our "skinkids" are. Whether you agree or not really doesn't matter. The bottom line is you agreed to care for a living being and you didn't do a very good job.

i mean like i said a lot of you do not know the circumstances. i know im very responsible with life and if you knew me you would know why. you also do not know my relationship with the dog. how do you know that i dont treat him great and love him?

but just to clarify yes a pad was left, yes he had plenty of water, and yes he had plenty of food. i always plan for the worst. i mean i could have gone home, but me being responsible decided not to drive home and stay at friends house nearby.

in the end you are entitled to your own opinion, but i believe the question in the begining of the thread was would you be mad? and do you think i overreacted? it wasn't do you think i should leave him? or do you think he is cheating on me?

im not here to explain myself to anyone or justify what i did. but i am also not going to sit here and get bashed. so if you got something to say to me shoot b-cuz now im here listening.

I've been married for 20 years to a great guy. I understand fully the difference between dogs and people. But, if my husband left my dogs unattended for 24 hours because he got too drunk to come home...well, I guess that's a mute point. MY husband would NEVER do anything like that.

So, to answer the original posters question about her boyfriend. Yes, I'd have been furious. Yes, I'd have been questioning his commitment to what matters to me.

The simple fact that you're on here defending your actions makes me wonder if it's even occurred to you how upsetting this was for her?

I just hope that you've thought about her feelings in all this, and are taking her concerns seriously. Anyone can screw up, sometimes it's what you do afterwards that shows your true character.

I agree. Regardless of whether or not it seemed like no big deal to you as the boyfriend, it was a very big deal to her. When you truly care for someone, anything that upsets them, upsets you. The fact that you are making light of this whole experience troubles me. You are more interested in excusing yourself rather than trying to make up for your lack of responsibilty in something that matters very deeply to your girlfriend. If the situation were mine, I would have issues with my boyfriend and would definitely reconsider the relationship. Not because of "just the dog" but because of the fact that my boyfriend didn't care enough about my feelings. One of the reasons why I love my husband so much is because he respects my feelings and whatever is important to me, is important to him too.

way to go necee, way to go :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
he needs his head examined..

Preach it sister!!!!!:D How come we haven't heard anything from his girlfriend and he's online and she isn't? Super Dad my a$$ more like Super Jerk...JMO!!!

im finally glad someone gave me credit on the username i chose, thanks Mrs. Chris. im not going to apologize to anyone here b-cuz to you it would be meaningless. like i said you dont know me nor probably care to.

i made peace with this issue to the person that means something to me and thats it all said and done. you can say whatever you want and feel. its fine im not getting all fired up aout it. there's a lot more in life to stress about then some people on a forum all trying to attack you.

its like wearing a fur coat to an animal rights protest. what do you expect. same thing here, i expected this from everyone. so im glad i provided some stress relief venting to some of you and a jerk i am not. maybe to you but not to the people that matter.

maybe some of your husbands and b/f's have never drank more than they should of while they have been with you. but then again take into account how old you are again? but if they havent since being together at a young age, then good for you. but trust me they dont know what they are missing. dont knock it until you try it and dont sit here and say you have never had a little more than you should of unless you dont drink at all. its always more fun to stir the hornets nest up in the morning.

#1 Super Dad ;)

Would I be upset???? you bet your sweet A$$ I would! Would I kick you to the curb??? NO! I love my furgirls as well and would EXPECT anyone that I asked to watch them to do just that! However, when alcohol is involved stupid things happen, I know I was married to an alcoholic for years so believe me.....I KNOW! I'm sure you are a nice guy and we shouldn't be judging you because we don't know you but, you have to understand what these little creatures mean to us....And you are right, we do not know the circumstances we only know what your g/f has told us. However, you should have just stopped by your place to check on the dog to make sure he was ok. JMO

I was defending you before you came on here posting as #1 Super Dad. I think you are mocking people on here and your not taking any responsibility for what you did

You are definitely MOCKING everyone on here. If it is so ridiculous to you then why are you getting so worked up? Remember, we don't KNOW you. Why would you care what we think? I wouldn't dump you over the incident with the dog, I would dump you for your attitude. As for people sharing their personal experiences with drinking and their significant others not coming home, etc....that is what this site is for. I think you may have forgotten that your girlfriend got all of this started. You ask for advice, that's what you're gonna get. And a guilty party will always be defensive.

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Personnally, I believe leaving a dog alone for 24 hours is wrong. I completely understand why she got upset with him. He did agree to take care of the dog and was very irresponsible and thoughtless when he did not go home first to take care of the dog before going out. But at least he was responsible not to drink and drive. I hope these two people learn of this and move past it.

A few definitions:

Responsibility

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The state of being responsible, accountable, or answerable...
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Irresponsibility

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Want of, or freedom from, responsibility or accountability