first off, let me start out by saying that i am the one who left her dog alone for 24 hours. i would have left it at that until of course i read everyones replies.

to each their own, your entitled to your opinion. first off no one knows me or knows anything about me other than that incident and you dont know the circumstances of that even. so

if your comparing a child (person) to the scenario i had with her dog (animal) then you need to take some classes on how differentiate the two, because a baby and a dog are totally different. so stop trying to compare the two.

as far as the lady and the cheating thing. im sorry it happened to you, but dont ruin a happy home by putting ideas in her head. just because someone took advantage of you doesnt mean its happening to everyone else when they are by themselves.

the funniest part of this thread is how most of you are trying to advise her to leave me. im like yeah ok :thumbup: lol. its funny how people on a forum can give advice to someone and not know the person. then again maybe thats why some of you are single. if you are able to break up with someone for leaving an animal alone ( b-cuz in the end he is a dog) for a day then i have some bad news for you.

Im sorry but im not being left :rolleyes:

You are a very brave man to join and post your response. Be prepared for what you hear.

Whether you believe this "dog" is not as important as a human really isn't the issue here. The issue is that you agreed to care for living, breathing being. Unless this dog is wee wee pad trained or you have a doggie door, leaving the dog home alone for 24 hours is totally irresponsible, whether or not he had adequate food and water.

You can argue all you want, but to many of us these babies are just as important as our "skinkids" are. Whether you agree or not really doesn't matter. The bottom line is you agreed to care for a living being and you didn't do a very good job.

i mean like i said a lot of you do not know the circumstances. i know im very responsible with life and if you knew me you would know why. you also do not know my relationship with the dog. how do you know that i dont treat him great and love him?

but just to clarify yes a pad was left, yes he had plenty of water, and yes he had plenty of food. i always plan for the worst. i mean i could have gone home, but me being responsible decided not to drive home and stay at friends house nearby.

in the end you are entitled to your own opinion, but i believe the question in the begining of the thread was would you be mad? and do you think i overreacted? it wasn't do you think i should leave him? or do you think he is cheating on me?

im not here to explain myself to anyone or justify what i did. but i am also not going to sit here and get bashed. so if you got something to say to me shoot b-cuz now im here listening.

I've been married for 20 years to a great guy. I understand fully the difference between dogs and people. But, if my husband left my dogs unattended for 24 hours because he got too drunk to come home...well, I guess that's a mute point. MY husband would NEVER do anything like that.

So, to answer the original posters question about her boyfriend. Yes, I'd have been furious. Yes, I'd have been questioning his commitment to what matters to me.

The simple fact that you're on here defending your actions makes me wonder if it's even occurred to you how upsetting this was for her?

I just hope that you've thought about her feelings in all this, and are taking her concerns seriously. Anyone can screw up, sometimes it's what you do afterwards that shows your true character.

I agree. Regardless of whether or not it seemed like no big deal to you as the boyfriend, it was a very big deal to her. When you truly care for someone, anything that upsets them, upsets you. The fact that you are making light of this whole experience troubles me. You are more interested in excusing yourself rather than trying to make up for your lack of responsibilty in something that matters very deeply to your girlfriend. If the situation were mine, I would have issues with my boyfriend and would definitely reconsider the relationship. Not because of "just the dog" but because of the fact that my boyfriend didn't care enough about my feelings. One of the reasons why I love my husband so much is because he respects my feelings and whatever is important to me, is important to him too.

way to go necee, way to go :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:
he needs his head examined..

Preach it sister!!!!!:D How come we haven't heard anything from his girlfriend and he's online and she isn't? Super Dad my a$$ more like Super Jerk...JMO!!!

im finally glad someone gave me credit on the username i chose, thanks Mrs. Chris. im not going to apologize to anyone here b-cuz to you it would be meaningless. like i said you dont know me nor probably care to.

i made peace with this issue to the person that means something to me and thats it all said and done. you can say whatever you want and feel. its fine im not getting all fired up aout it. there's a lot more in life to stress about then some people on a forum all trying to attack you.

its like wearing a fur coat to an animal rights protest. what do you expect. same thing here, i expected this from everyone. so im glad i provided some stress relief venting to some of you and a jerk i am not. maybe to you but not to the people that matter.

maybe some of your husbands and b/f's have never drank more than they should of while they have been with you. but then again take into account how old you are again? but if they havent since being together at a young age, then good for you. but trust me they dont know what they are missing. dont knock it until you try it and dont sit here and say you have never had a little more than you should of unless you dont drink at all. its always more fun to stir the hornets nest up in the morning.

#1 Super Dad ;)

Would I be upset???? you bet your sweet A$$ I would! Would I kick you to the curb??? NO! I love my furgirls as well and would EXPECT anyone that I asked to watch them to do just that! However, when alcohol is involved stupid things happen, I know I was married to an alcoholic for years so believe me.....I KNOW! I'm sure you are a nice guy and we shouldn't be judging you because we don't know you but, you have to understand what these little creatures mean to us....And you are right, we do not know the circumstances we only know what your g/f has told us. However, you should have just stopped by your place to check on the dog to make sure he was ok. JMO

I was defending you before you came on here posting as #1 Super Dad. I think you are mocking people on here and your not taking any responsibility for what you did

You are definitely MOCKING everyone on here. If it is so ridiculous to you then why are you getting so worked up? Remember, we don't KNOW you. Why would you care what we think? I wouldn't dump you over the incident with the dog, I would dump you for your attitude. As for people sharing their personal experiences with drinking and their significant others not coming home, etc....that is what this site is for. I think you may have forgotten that your girlfriend got all of this started. You ask for advice, that's what you're gonna get. And a guilty party will always be defensive.

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Personnally, I believe leaving a dog alone for 24 hours is wrong. I completely understand why she got upset with him. He did agree to take care of the dog and was very irresponsible and thoughtless when he did not go home first to take care of the dog before going out. But at least he was responsible not to drink and drive. I hope these two people learn of this and move past it.

A few definitions:

Responsibility

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The state of being responsible, accountable, or answerable...
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Irresponsibility

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Want of, or freedom from, responsibility or accountability

I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I went through college together. So I can definetly say that there have been plenty of nights when one of us has had too much to drink. For graduation, he got me my yorkie as a present. I can guarantee you this - if I had to go away for a few days and left my furbaby in his care he would NOT neglect him for 24 hours because he had too much to drink. Sure, he would still go out but he would make sure that the dog was well cared for. He understands how much that dog means to me and even if he didn't give two craps about the dog (which he does) he cares enough about me to know that I would be devastated if my dog was left alone for that long. I don't care if he had pee pads and fresh water; yorkies are needy, dependent little dogs. Their whole existence in life revolves around us, their owners and caretakers. Your going out like that was selfish and irresponsible and if I were your girlfriend I would be PISSED.

And another thing.. this is a peaceful forum where yorkie owners and admirers come to share stories and advice with each other. Your girlfriend came on here asking for advice from us. Don't come on here and bash us for giving her advice that she asked for. We don't appreciate your rudeness.

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To #1 Super Dad:
Ok. Here's my two cents worth.

Do I think you were wrong for not going and checking on the furkid?..........Yep.

Do I think it was irresponsible of you to go out and drink? Yes, but, we've all done that. For anyone can say that they would NEVER do it, either hasn't been there/done that, or they're too young.

Do I think you'll ever do it again? Nope.

Do I think she should leave you over this? Hell no.

The thing that gets me the most about some of these posts is that nobody has even mentioned the fact that at least you didn't lie about it!!! You could have lied to g/f, she'd never known it, she wouldn't be so upset, and you wouldn't have to defend yourself. I am in no way vindicating what you did, and I highly recommend that you NOT do it again. But at least nothing went wrong. Unless you didn't clean up the poop! But that's another thread!!

I'm gonna get bashed for this, I know. But like I said. You didn't lie to her and that counts for something in my book!!
Suz

big deal he didnt lie,, so what, the fact is , he still did what he did and is defending himself... admit you were wrong and go on...period!!

:thumbup: :thumbup: Well said!:thumbup: :thumbup:

like he said, we dont know him or even care to.. so why is he even on here TRING to defending himself, over what he did?

His Girlfriend asked what he thought and we told her what we THOUGHT . NOT what to do, but THOUGHT!! Nothing more!!!

If he only cared what the people he cared about, thinks of him...then why is he even on here?

He dose not even know us, so why dose he even care what we think?

well im not here to bash anyone nor did i mean to. if i did i apologize. i just came on here to defend myself from the bashing. i was only defending myself from the bashing. you are all right she did come on here asking advice, but remember what she asked and what she didnt.


i also never said that it wasnt wrong. it was wrong, but i didnt think that she should have gotten so mad about it. i was only defending myself from the bashing.

will i do it again no. especially now that i know how mad/sad it made her and how much it means to her. all i was doing initially was giving back the off topic attitude that was giving to me.

i have read a lot of good points from people that opened up my perspective some more on feelings. but i have also read some sarcastic ones and if you dish it out expect to get it right back.

i didnt come on here to start trouble or say what i did was right. you can read back and see i never said it was ok. but what i did come on here to do was give my opinion and even the playing field out. its easy to jump on a band wagon and say all kinds of bad thigs about someone when they cant defend themselves. i mean by this point you either hate me or not. either way the harms been done. have a great day and dont get so worked up. ;)

Peace Brother...

It counts for something in my book, too.

We all make mistakes. Come on, people, admit it. Who among us hasn't done something that we are ashamed of? It takes a mature person to admit that they have done wrong and try to go on from there.

Would I have been mad? I would have been upset. I wouldn't have been as furious as most people here. That's because I doubt the dog suffered any harm.

But, that's just me.

I just wanted to let you know.....
1. I have 4 kids and I also have dogs. I know the difference between the two but dogs are like kids in the sence that they need someone to help take care of themselves.
2. I have never left my dogs for 24hrs alone. I am in my mid 30's so saying that people are either young or been there is wrong. I have never gone out drinking and gotten so drunk I couldn't go home.
3. I did not say she should leave you. I said if it were me I would've been so mad I would've left you.
4. I am happily married but if my husband would do something like that I would leave him. I feel like my dogs are my children and if he doesn't respect them then he doesn't respect me or my feelings.

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I would like to thank everyone for responding to my original post. I know how much everyone here love their furbabies. I love my teddy bear and I wouldn't have a bf who did not like or care for my dog, and one of the reasons why I left Teddy with my BF was not only because I trust him, but the way he interacts with Teddy. He lets Teddy lick him all over his face, he babies him.
I was just disappointed in him for leaving Teddy alone for 24hrs. I couldn't believe someone I care about could do that, knowing that Teddy means soo much to me. After we spoke about what happened and I forgave him, yet I still felt as though he really didn't understood why I was soo upset. So after I posted this thread, I had him read a couple of the replies everyone had posted. I wanted him to see that I wasn't the only one that felt they way I do about my Teddy. I didn't think that he would go as far as to create an acct and join the forum, but I guess he wanted to defend himself. Thanks for your replies!!!!