Doesn't want to sit on my laps :( Hello First of all i want to say that this forum is wonderful. A lot of great info and great people :) I have a yorkie puppy who is 4.5 month old,and he is real hyper. He can't sit even for a minute, always need to do something. The thing is....he is not a lap dog at all. he HATE to sit on my laps, and don't like when people touch him. (he is very friendly but he only want to play and play). When i hold him, it's like a huge punishment for him, he start to cry and try to do everything to get out :( I wanted to ask , what do you think... there is a chance he will became a lap dog when he will grow? Or he will stay like that forever? I just want to know from your own experience with your yorkies if you had similar problem. Thanks and i am sorry about my english :) |
Hello, your english is great!!! Luna used to be like that... I think they become better with age... now she is 7 months and is much more calmed than when she was 4. Now, she allows me to pet her until fall asleep, so hopefully your little one will settle down. I've heard that neutering helps, but I am not sure.:) |
Thanks Isabel Your replay give me some hope :) Maybe he will change as well. Quote:
But if it will be the only thing that help, i will consider it for sure. |
Hi! Welcome to YT!! I too think he will calm down with age. But if you are not planning on showing or breeding, in the long run he will be a calmer pet, and easier to house train if he is neutered. Good luck, and I'm so glad you have found YT! |
They do calm down. Cali was a holy terror at that age. In to everything and only time she wasn't in to things she was sleeping. SHe is so much better now at 11 months but still is chewing and getting stuff she shouldn't. Like my dtr's Cd today. It does get easier. |
I think your puppy is going through the "I'm a big boy and independent" stage. I'm sure he'll grow out of it. |
Take comfort in this: Nikko was exactly the same way at that age. He was a total squirmer and if you tried to hold him or hug him he would squirm and wiggle until he would get loose from your arms. Now at 1 year old, he is MUCH calmer and actually climbs on my lap when I am watching tv. I kiss and hug and squeeze him and he doesn't even move. I think he even likes it because he kisses me back!! :p The trick is to keep hugging him and petting him even if he doesn't like it. I think eventually they get used to it. |
Thanks. It was so great to read your replays, now i have a hope :) Here is my boy by the way: http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...587#post580587 |
my kayko was the SAME way now hes on one of our laps soon as you sit down still hyper but once you sit hes there lol |
A lot of people want "lap dogs," but this is really us wanting a dog to meet our needs --- it isn't not our meeting their needs. Personally - I think that a dog that prefers and is content being with himself rather than climbing on top of or being with a person all the time is a much better adjusted and well balanced pet. A lot of us tend to make our pets dependent on us and encourage them to want to be with us constantly or in our laps most of the time. These are the same little guys that usually end up with "separation anxiety" and a host of other problems. My little Yorkie is definitely not a "lap dog" ... at least not in the sense that he wants to be with me or on my lap all the time. He is really a very well adjusted, happy little guy that loves other people and will readily stay with anyone and be happy. He doesn't cry or whine when I leave. He loves playing by himself and will sleep anywhere. He is extremely friendly and likes everyone he meets and other dogs and animals as well. I know he loves me best, but I am certainly not the center of his world. He does jump on my lap and sleep or cuddle for a few minutes now and then -and sometimes longer. But, it always on his terms and when he wants to do it. Otherwise, his favorite place is using lying at my feet on the floor.....or sleeping at the other end of the sofa still being near me. He seems to be very content just being close by. And, if I need a puppy-fix once in a while (don't we all?), I pick him up and lay him on his back beside me or in my lap and rub his tummy for a while. He'll usually stay quiet for a minute or two when I do this, but the minute he wants to get up and move - I let him go. This way he enjoys the few minutes he is quiet beside me because he knows he's not going to be forced to stay there. And - like many people have mentioned, I am noticing that as he has gotten a little older with a little less puppy energy, he's willing to spend more quiet time beside me. And, I enjoy these times a lot; we both do. I am really so proud of the little dog that my pup is turning out to be - he's not a barker, he's not a whiner, and he's not afraid of other people, or animals. He doesn't mind staying with other people, and he doesn't mind being left home alone. I wouldn't trade this happy-go-lucky, friendly, adventureous, little pup for all the "lap dogs" in the world. BUT - like all of us, I certainly do enjoy the times he decides to jump up on my lap and just visit with me for a little while. It's a very special time for both of us when this happens. Good luck! Carol Jean |
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the thing is...that even if he HATE to sit on my laps, and being touch, he still love company, and when we leave him alone, he bark like crazy. He love people so much, and i don't like it as well.. I know that maybe i am wierd here, but i prefer dogs that don't like stranges that much. It's looks like when he see new people come, he is much more happy than when he see his owners. :( |
Most dogs are happier to see other people than they are their owners.... We are with them all the time. They love us most - but certainly (if they are happy and secure) they take us for granted....and they should. It's when those other people come over, those new people, or that little girl from down the street that they get so excited....after all, these visits are a real treat. It's not something that happens every day. When my two dogs are outside, I can call them until I'm blue in the face to get them to come in. And, they won't come in until they're ready. But, if I say, "Sammi is here. Come see Sammi! (my granddaughter)" -- they about knock me over getting into the house. I can even say, "Come see who's here!" and they'll about knock me over getting into the house. Or - they can only hear a car coming (one whose sound they recognize), and they're at the front door - oh so excited - even before the car's engine has been turned off. BUT - when push comes to shove - it really is us that they love, trust, and rely on. I took my two dogs to the lake last summer. We were out on a dock (that was moving) - a strange and frightening place for them, and, believe me, they had no time for anyone else but me. They were frightened and wanted to be right on top of me the whole time - on my lap! The second time we went to the lake, they were no longer afraid - and I got very little attention from them that trip and haven't since..... They are more secure now and can just be their adventureous little selves without needing my protection or care. Carol Jean |
you should take him for 3-4 moderate walks everyday. this should burn up that excess energy. |
Hi Everestgirl! The reason I came on to this forum was to ask advice for a very similar problem with my Badger. I got him at nine weeks and by 12 weeks I just wanted to give him back to the breeder! He seemed very unaffectionate, never wanted to sit in my lap, was always more interested in everything else except me. Some people on here may remember how upset I was - I even offered, half-jokingly, to ship him to Lexi's Mom. Now, I wouldn't give him up for a billion gazillion dollars. I think it's just a phase they go through of being very boisterous and puppy-like but this phase does pass and they start to settle down. I did a few little 'tricks' like putting him in the bed with me to sleep, feeding him on my lap, playing with him on my lap and so on. Just making him feel that mum's lap was the most comfortable, safe, and interesting place in the world. At about sixteen weeks, I noticed a big change with him and he even started asking to sit in my lap when I'd sit down. I think we forget sometimes that they don't really 'know' us when they are so young. They kind of have to get used to us and they're little worlds but you'll see in a few months that he'll be a lot more affectionate. This is a particular quality of the breed (stastically Yorkshire Terriers need human companionship more than any other type of dog) and I think it would be very rare to find one that wasn't affectionate at all. I also agree with Carol Jean to a certain extent that there is something about having an independently-spirited little dog who is well-adjusted. The vet told me that he has Yorkies go in where the owner's have made them neurotic and afraid of everything just so the dog is more affectionate and needy. I would rather my Badger never wanted to sit in my lap rather than sit there because he was scared of everything else And he's gorgeous by the way! You sound like a great mum, so just give it a bit of time and you'll see how much he wants to be with you ;) |
I just looked at his pictures, and I think you should get rid of him immediately. Send him to Anchorage, Alaska, c/o AlaskaYorkie. He is adorable, and the pictures are excellent! He reminds me a lot of Eddie, the coloring, the rambunctiousness at that age. But Eddie mellowed out at about a year. He's now the most affectionate dog I've ever owned. Post more pictures, PLEASE! |
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