I was following the other thread but didn't post because everything I wanted to say I had been covered pretty well. I just wanted to tell you that I was so sad reading what you were going through and I'm so happy it looks like it will work out. Who knows, once Pixie is trained he might even start to love her and at the least, if he accepts her and is kind to her, he is showing you how much he loves you! Yay! I love happy endings! :cheer:

i'm so glad to hear you and your bf had that conversation. open communication, understanding and mutual respect are always the keys to a good and long lasting relationship.

good luck with the training!!

PixieStar,

QUOTING YOU --- He understands that I love my dog and respects it. He told me that as long as I train her and figure out a way to avoid this from happening he wouldnt mind living with me and her. He want to invest in nice things and is fearful of her messing everything up.
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He's willing to try - that's good.

But - I think (as the Dog Whisperer says) -- you're going to have to realize that you are working with a little dog - and not a child. And, it sounds like your little dog is doing "all the bad things" that little dogs do.

Remember to "puppyproof" your home and put things away and out of your dog's reach that you don't want it chewing on. Both of you have to do this consistently. The one time you forget - you'll be having problems.

Don't think for a minute that training the dog should be your sole responsibility. You'll have to do this together - or it won't work.

I agree with everyone who said that your boyfriend has valid complaints. Of course, he would like to have nice things and not have them ruined by the dog in the house. But, he has to help train this little dog right along side you to get it to behave in a more appropriate and acceptable manner.

It would be sad, indeed, if you end up losing your boyfriend because the two of you can't manage this little dog. I'm not trying to be mean, but it sounds like your pup has been babied and spoiled and knows no boundries. And - if better trained, it certainly can become an enjoyable part of the family for both of you.

I think the first thing you need to do is go to some training classes -get professional advise, and get some good books and other references that will help you know how to train your dog. The two of you need to read and learn as much as you can about dog training - and then you need to work together to get a happier little dog that is a better behaved member of your family.

Don't give in to your "cute little puppy." He's ruling the roost in your house and is very close to being responsible for you losing your boyfriend whom I'm sure you are very fond of too. (And, in all likelihood, a new boyfriend won't want to deal with these problems either.) Losing your boyfriend because of a not-so-well behaved dog is a serious problem. And, you are at a point now where you have an opportunity to salvage this relationship. I hope both of you are willing to work hard together to retrain your pup and save your relationship.

Please realize that your little dog will be just as loveable and even more enjoyable if he is taught to behave better. And, he will be happier too. No dog wants to be in trouble all the time.


I wish you the best of luck!


Carol Jean

congrats, hope everything works out for you

That's Great!! Good luck!