lOVE AND hATE
 

HI ALL
Sometimes I love and hate my Yorkie Lexi, I have had her 18 months, after losing my Elliemae who I had from a baby at 8 weeks old till she died at 16 and a half years. Lexi is a dominating dog who insists on having a cup of tea or coffee dosen't matter what you drink. She will always sit and watch what you are eating at meals although she might have or not eaten her own dinner, unfortunately I am a softie and always give in to her, if I close her in another room all she does is bark. I do not know what her previous owner did with her.
I would think they spoilt her then could not cope with her demands.

Be strong with her. Although I find myself compromising with my Yorkie. But, we know each other well so it works out.
Try feeding her a doggie meal when you eat.

unfortunately I am a softie and always give in to her...
I would think they spoilt her then could not cope with her demands..


Umm...Sounds kinda like what you're doing at this time, yes? Lexi is just being herself; she's her own dog and she's in your life for a reason. Celebrate and enjoy the differences between her and Elliemae, try not to compare. And at those times when Lexi is being ridiculously adorable and you're feeling calm and patient, try to implement a little training. Baby steps and deep breaths don't hesitate to ask for help!

JK Pal
 

I think that is the problem with Lexi. I think her previous owner spoilt her so much in the end she could not put up with her, maybe she was an elderly person. I do not know her background all I know is she is very clever and always knows what she wants. Isn't a pity they cannot speak, I know 1 thing she is devoted to me.

My Ziva is very smart and my son and I love to challenge her, the more we teach her tricks and play games with her the happier she is. If she gets bored she becomes very demanding.
Abby on the other hand is not too bright and gets very confused and upset by games she cannot understand. She prefers the safety of my husbands lap!

My boy was 2.5 yo when I adopted him. He was a surrender VERY spoiled by prev. owner. VERY demanding. We are a team for 2.5 years now and he is a diff. dog. I wasn't allowed on the phone, he would bark until I couldn't take it anymore, the person at the other end couldn't hear me because of the barking so I would just hang up. I wasn't allowed in my home office unless he was on my lap petting him. He DEMANDED I go to bed when HE wanted me to lol. He DEMANDED all my ATTENTION. With much patience I ignored all of the above, phone calls took a bit longer to get him to see I was NOT going to hang up to give him he ATTENTION he WANTED right then and there, he was jealous lol of anything that took attention away from HIM lol. I started with training commands, spending time in theyard, him hunting,me baby sitting. Fortunately for me the prev. owner requested who ever adopted him would they be kind enough to let them know how he was. By time I finally got in touch with the prev. owner Cody was well on his way to being a changed dog, NOT a DEMANDING boy. I found out a lot of history on him. From owning several yorkies and other small breeds I have learned once you start something with a dog you MUST ALWAYS continue, the expect it, they DEMAND it. I DO NOT feed Cody table food, I NEVER feed him food from my dish, he does not beg while I am eating. YES, it's hard for me to not give in as I did with ALL my other pups, so I have to be VERY strong. The tea and coffee made me laugh lol. NOT ONE of my girls EVER stole sips of my coffee or tea, but Cody did, and that is the ONLY thing I allow him. I leave a tiny amount in my cup on my end table beside the sofa, I'll get up, go in the kitchen and there he goes lol, face in my cup enjoying that tiny bit lol. Be patient, be firm, mean what you say, and say what you mean and stick with it, do NOT give in when you say NO, NO means NO, WAIT means WAIT. You have no idea what her life was like before she came to you, YOU have to re-train her to YOUR ways with constancy and MUCH patience.

I think that if you really do feel actual *hate* at times towards your dog, as you stated -- then I genuinely don't think this dog should be with you. I really can't give any other advice bc I can't relate to feeling anything even remotely close to hate for a dog.

Have you thought about re-homing her?

I'd agree with Jkpal. Try not to be a softie and give in, if you don't like how she begs for your food. If you give in, you're fueling her motive to beg... they're smart creatures.

Putting her in another room probably wouldn't solve your food begging problem. The barking in an isolated room sounds pretty normal to me :rolleyes: I wouldn't like it either if I were her lol...

And yes! Try not to compare. All dogs, like people, have different personalities. Celebrating their differences is such a good way to think about it.

I read original post like it was meant in classic love/hate relationship (like having a love/hate relationship with chocolate). HOWEVER, I agree completely with Wylie's Mom, in that if you experience 'hatred' in any way toward the pup, she in no way can be yours; she deserves better and most assuredly deserves to be loved unconditionally and unwaveringly...!

The easiest way to stop the begging is to say "no" and then ignore any subsequent begging. If you give in once, the begging will continue.

My boys never begged until I handed them something off of my plate. They went to their doggy beds while I had my meals. Now they will perform sits under me if they know I have something that they might get a taste of. I tell them, "That's all. Let me eat." That is their cue to stop the begging.

If you are 100% consistent, the begging will stop.