Am I Wrong?
 

I have a 2lbs yorkie puppy 11 wks . I love her so much and I just got her yesterday. Well my aunt wanted to hold her but I wouldn't let her because she had a stroke a while back and she has one usable arm and I know london(my puppy) likes to wiggle and I just did not want to take that chance, that she falls and hurts herself or worse. My aunt said I shouldnt praise the puppy but how am I praising her when I am just worrying about her well-being...ugh..AM I JUST OVER REACTING

You are protecting a very fragile baby. No, I don't think you were wrong. But maybe you could find a way for your aunt to hold her so that she can get some puppy love, too.

Yes...I thought about that but my aunt is the type that doesnt want help. She wants to do it herself..I let her pet her and everything but im so scared that she might drop her...

You have every right to be worried these little ones are so fragile but I'm sure you aunti had hurt feelings. Maybe you could just be sure you little one has a harness and a leash on and be sure that whoever is holding her is sitting down and first holding the leash just in case she wiggles away. If you allow any small children always be sure they are sitting on the floor. It is much safer that way.

Maybe you could put her in a soft pet sling...one made of fabric only, like a baby sling? That way your aunt can still cradle your pup, but she'll be more secure in her sling.

:thumbup:You were right, to put your puppy first. What if something would of happened!!!!

No! You're protecting your baby. I know it seems kind of rude/mean to tell ppl especially family members that you prefer them not to hold your pup but it's for her safety....maybe you could say something like "London is really squirmy so I rather she stay with me or on the ground" or "I'd rather not anyone outside of our home hold her til she's fully vaccinated" if neither of those works you can always put her in her crate/xpen when you have company in your room that way no one is tempted to pick her up. Even the most well meaning people have accidents. Id rather come off overprotective and have a healthy uninjured pup than let others hold her(when I had second doubts) and something happen. Pics please!!!

I had told her the she was wiggles and squirms a lot but she did not care. She got mad and was like dont be praising that dog...how is that praising her?

Maybe have Auntie sit in the middle of a bed and hold your pup. Then the pup would not fall. She would just be on the bed.

"Praise" is an odd word to use for that situation. She could have accused you of "babying" her, & you could have said "you bet I am"!!

You weren't wrong. A lot of people don't realize how squirmy these little ones can be. I had Cali jump right out of my arms right after I got her and I have had yorkies for over 40 years. I always tell the vets when they go to take her that she is a jumper and they always appreciate it. Just think how terrible you would both feel if she squirmed out of your Aunt's arm and got hurt. Several people on here have had thee babies jump/fall and break a leg. You are her protector.

How about having your aunt sit down and then old the puppy? Your not wrong many puppies have been dropped and had serious issues.

I completely understand how you felt. I was very careful who held Pixie and not many people did. I still don't people hold her bc she will jump out of their arms except for when I hold her.

I agree. I don't understand at all what you're trying to say with "praise". But if I sub in "babying" then I understand.

If your aunt dropped your baby and she broke her arm, would she pay for the vet bill? If not, then don't feel bad about not letter her hold her!

Lol lol lol @txvicki that's what I was thinking exactly but since it's her dear aunt she probably wants to be less blunt. If it becomes a problem with ppl wanting to hold her(after all she is a cutie who WOULDN'T want to hold her????:D). Just nicely say "No". Give a reason why you said no if you want, but you're not obligated to let anyone hold her. You are her caretaker if something we're to happen if someone was holding her they would probably just say "Oops" or "your dog is so squirmy". Then you would have to deal with the end results whether it be a sprain, broken bone, or nothing at all. Think of it as you being her mama and she's a human baby(a little extreme but the same injuries can and have happened) and as a mom would you let just anyone hold your baby? HECK NO!!!

When Uni was a pup, I got lots of random people asking if they could hold her. Total strangers. How was I to know if they just wanted to hold her or if they wanted to steal her? I would say no politely and say she's very squirmy. Most of the time my response was met with eye rolling and a scoff and then them storming away mumbling something about me being rude.

No! She would not because I had said something about it and she sat there and said nothing.

And it's not only about the vet bill, even if they pay for it, can you imagine the heartbreak when your puppy hits the ground and strts crying, then rushing to the vet, and taking care of an injured puppy, and watching him in pain for weeks? No thanks!:thumbdown

Aunty will get over it. If she asks again, be honest that you are not comfortable with her stability. Offer to help her hold her, or your aunt can just "pet" your yorkie with her eyes. 😊

It's better to be safe than sorry. They are wiggly and fragile, and a handful even with two hands. I would not let anybody hold a pup unless they were sitting down, or better yet sitting on the floor.

We have had several members who have had their pup wiggle out of their arms and break a leg, or get a concussion. It only takes a second.

You are NOT wrong! If she should drop that baby, it could be all over but the hole digging....do not risk it, it isnt worth the risk. You are seeing the dangers in the situation, just like any parent does for their child or their puppy, and you are taking the correct precautions!

I will add my 2 cents and say you were right. Think of it this way, if your aunt had a bad knee and couldn't climb the stairs you would think nothing of saying "don't go up stairs or I will help you up the stairs, etc. So in the same way you are saying because of your arm it's better if you don't hold London.

you are not wrong, in the two years I have been a member there have been lots of threads about people dropping a puppy because of how easily it can squirm, puppies seem to have the energy of a dog four times it's weight. I saw it first hand at a yorkie party I had. A seasoned yorkie owner was sitting on my kitchen chair holding someones very tiny puppy on her lap, the yorkie suddenly jumped out of her arms and landed on the hardwood floor. The puppy was OK, but talk about a wake up call. Tell your aunt it's just not her that you will not let hold your puppy it's just about everyone unless they are sitting on the floor or in the middle of the bed. Your aunt sounds a bit on the crabby side, but that is her problem not yours.

You need to protect puppies from themselves at that age, just like with human babies they know nothing and have no fears. Shortly after I got Lola who was four months old, I stood her on my kitchen counter so I could put her harness on. I just moved from end of the counter to the front, and I took my hands off her while I rounded the corner. In a nano second she walked off the counter and landed on my hardwood floor, she was OK, but I could not stop sobbing because I knew how we just dogged a bullet. Now she would never do that, she has some sense, but as a puppy she just did not know these things. Of course I never let go over her on a counter just in case.

There is absolutely no way I'd let her hold my pup. If she wants puppy love she can go lay down with her. For people who are kind of hard-headed my way or the highway you'd be better off with an unapologetic and firm "No".

I would just have her sit down somewhere comfy, like a couch, a have her hold them there. That's what I do for a few young kids I know that beg to hold Billi. "Only if you take a seat on the couch & only for a couple minutes". Once Billi starts getting antsy, I put her back down. If they only get to hold her for a few seconds, oh well, she doesn't want to be held!

As tiny as your puppy is, I wonder if you could get a cat or ferret harness that would fit her. With a harness and leash on her you could still have control over your puppy and your aunt could hold her in her lap and pet her at the same time. It's just a thought. I understand your aunt's request, oftentimes older people or people with challenges still want to be able to do things they used to be able to do. If this works out for you it would be a win win situation. Best of luck and please let us know what you decide to do and how it all works out. Blessings!