Need some advise
 

Some of you are aware of the loss of our little boy, Buddy this past Monday.

http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sic...tting-old.html

Our little girl, Holly isn't playing like she has in the past and don't know if she is lonely or just going through a stage at this time. The past year they have not interacted that much because Buddy spent 90% of his time in bed.

Some people have suggested getting another puppy so that Holly will have someone to play with. Not sure if I am ready to do that because NO pet could replace my little man.

Any thoughts on this?

THANKS!

How old is Holly?

My childhood cat was ran over, we had her on a towel. Her sister came over and sniffed her started to meow, then she laid down right next to her. You could tell she knew something was wrong. So seeing that I do believe pets grieve…

Maybe just give her some time? I think you both will need some time. Bringing in a new puppy might not be the "best" idea until you are 100 percent ok with it.

You can try to take her for a nice walk, get her out of the house. Which might help-

I agree with Deanna, well spoken. :);):p

Holly is a little over 4 years old.

Think we are all a little loss at this time. Tired to play with Holly last night and she was in the mood so just held her while watching TV till she went to sleep.

This has been a HARD week!!

My wife Sherry was telling me what her co-workers suggested about getting Holly someone to play with but to tell you the truth I am not ready at this time but wanted to know what some of you thought.

I think Holly is probably also reacting to yours and your wife's grief. And that is completely NORMAL!

As time goes by and things get back to a normal routine (not saying the sadness won't be there..I still mourn the loss of my Pom from almost 7 1/2 years ago), she will start back into a normal routine, too.

If she doesn't, THEN I would look into other options.

Bottom line, you will know when you are ready for another. If you aren't ready now, that will just add more chaos and confusion for Holly. Take it day by day. That's all you can do.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your pup. May Buddy Rest In Peace.

I’m sorry- I know going through a loss is so hard. There is nothing you can do to help get through it any better. I think you all just need some time to grieve. I think that time is important for us, and for Holly as well. Bringing home a puppy might do the opposite you are trying to achieve. If she isn't really wanting to play with you, do you think she will want to play with a puppy? If you are not ready, I would wait on getting another puppy.. How does your wife Sherry feel about this?

Holly
 

We here feel your pain, losing a pet is devastating. So sorry your Holly is sad and disoriented too at the loss of her buddy.
I for one could not even think if getting a new pup when my baby went to heaven . The grief was so overwhelming I could do nothing but cry over her loss. I vowed I would never have another pet and see her go through this kind of illness again. But with time when the grieving subsided some, I started to miss having a pet and did adopt another one. It took me a year to get to this decision. How ever, some overcome their grief by adopting a new pet soon after the loss. We are all different and deal with loss in many ways. How Holly would react, you cannot tell?? But perhaps she needs time to grieve too?
A hard decision, but I pray you will find peace and make the right decision for you and your family.

yah its hard!!

Another pup will never replace Buddy. I look at it like you'd just be adding to your family, and not replacing anybody. So you add a new brother or sister, Buddy will always keep his place in your hearts.

When Peek A Boo was 10 YO, my Maltese and GSD mix had both passed the prior year. He was so depressed. I noticed on one of our walks he took a strong interest in a neighbor's Yorkie. After 4 months of mourning, I had never seen his eyes light up like they did when he saw this pup. Prior to that, he just laid around all the time. I began to worry about his health, and him being so sad all the time. That's when I made the decision to add to our family.

He didn't care for the first dog I got. He and Tink still battle for Alpha spot. Then I added another, Sapphire. They look like twins. Tink is light colored, Saph is black and gold, like Peek. He really tolerates her well, almost protective of her too. And he lets her get away with everything!! Then a Biewer became available, so we added her for Tink to have a friend. They are buddies now.

I am glad I made the decision to add on. Peek has done a 100% turnaround and is now 16.5 YO. Still fights for attention and runs around like a puppy. He has a job now, he has to keep his harum in line! I believe it's the best decision I've ever made.

Sherry really doesn't seem to talk about it other than what she told me about her co-working saying.

She went to work the day after but yesterday she came home, she said she couldn't do any work because she kept thinking about Buddy. Last night, we didn't really talk to each other, think either of us know what to say at this point.

Tues morning I put a baby picture of Buddy on my desk at home because my office is at home so I can look at the picture. In the morning I look at it and say, " I miss you my little man, and I love you". At night, I say good night and I love you. Somehow, I need to get past this and I know that time will help.

I am so sorry for your loss of Buddy. Grieving is hard, and there is no right or wrong way to do it.... you just have to navigate your way through it and know that in time it won't hurt so much.

There is no way to replace a beloved pet, however, when the time is right bringing a new furry friend into your lives can bring so much joy and love, and yes companionship for your other doggie.

When one of my dogs died 5 years ago, I was devastated, but immediately started looking for another one. Six weeks later, I had a new little Yorkie girl to cuddle and care for, and she really helped me out of the dark hole of depression and grieving. She also perked up my 12 yr. old Schnauzer boy, who was missing his little friend.

Let your hearts continue to heal, and I hope that in time the good memories of your Buddy will be comforting and not just sad.

This is very hard, and there's no right or wrong way to handle it. You need to do what's best for you and your family. If you find yourselves wanting another dog, get one. If you don't feel you want another, don't get one. So many people give opinions, but the bottom line is you need to follow your heart and do what you feel is best.

I will share this one story though... We had a 10 yr old cocker that had cancer real bad and we finally ended up having to put her down. That same night, my wife was so upset (has health and blood pressure issues anyway) that she ended up having a stroke. When she got out of the hospital, she could barely get around and was looking in the newspaper and found an ad for some maltese puppies. She called the number and we ended up buying one of those puppies (Lilly). To this day, we swear having Lilly helped my wife recover from her stroke.

It's all about what works for you! I'm sorry for your loss! Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I am so sorry for your loss. Even with him in bed most of the time I am sure she is wondering where he went. Some dogs grieve very bad I have been through that with one of our dogs when I was 15 or so and some just need a week or too.

I think it is great you have a picture of Buddy on your desk. He may not be there in person, but he will always be in your heart and soul. It is an amazing bond these little ones leave on us. Just take it day by day, do what you feel comfortable with, whatever is suppose to happen will happen.

We are always here for you and Sherry for support.

I will be sending prayers to you and your family, praying you guys will get through this together. My deepest condolences go to you and your family. May Buddy rest in peace and live forever in your hearts.

I am so sorry for your loss. When Bunkey passed away suddenly,his twin brother followed me around the house all day for about 6 months. I would find him sitting right behind me while I was fixing my hair,very unusual for him,he is my DD dog. I spent many moments with him in my lap,explaining what had happened to his brother. He still comes to me for comfort but not as often. I still look at Bunkey's picture/ashes and tell him that I miss him. You and Holly both need a little time. You will know when she is in need of a new playmate and when you are ready.

So sorry about Buddy; bless you for being such good doggie parents.
I know many are saying to wait, but a new dog is such a joy it may be great for you. When my little 4 year old chi, Roxy, was dying of cancer she was slowing down but was still happy & had a couple months to live. An acquaintance found out & wanted to hand over her little Yorkie to me the next day. I accepted her & had a wonderful month or so with Teena, a new dog learning what a loving world is like, my original dog, Dolly playing with her, & all of us giving poor Roxy love in her final days. It didn't make Roxy's final days any less sad, just different. I know my Dolly needed a replacement, & I welcomed it, too. Good luck to you!

So sorry for your loss. I think that you will know when it's time welcome another dog into your life.

everybody grieves differently. And there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Losing a pet is as traumatic to an owner as if they had lost a child. Some people dont seem to understand that bond. Replacing a pet with another straight away to me seems a bit of a cop out as you need to deal with your grief, you and your wife need to talk about your loss.I was reading in the pets digest earlier and the author was saying that giving the pet that is left something of the pet that has passed for comfort also helps that pet., like a blanket or toy.
just dont feel that what you feel is abnormal, its really not! huge yorkie hugs for you both

So sorry for your loss. And I am in total agreement about giving the dog toys, bed or blanket from their lost friend.

You will know when the time is right. You can never replace Buddy but a new pet helps everyone change their focus from sad to happy. I still mourn the death of a few special dogs, they will always be in my heart. But there is nothing like the antics of a new puppy and its interactions with your family to put smiles on your faces.

Holly is grieving. She needs your attention and love to get her through her feeling of loss. Even though you didn't see them playing, I bet she always had interactions with him. She's missing Buddy just like you are. Give Holly a hug for me.

I noticed you are from the San Diego area and I looked and there are Yorkie meet up Groups in S.D. Perhaps you could see if the are meet ups happening and take Holly to one. You can see if she perks up meeting new friends and perhaps have a few play dates as you decide if you want to get another Yorkie.
Google.

You and your wife need time too, to grieve. Sometimes just telling each other how you feel helps. Try to remember some goofy incident that happened with Buddy, or some happy time with him that made both of you smile. That's how we got through loosing our dogs. Tearful memories at 1st, but they did make us smile through the tears, and allowed us to be happy that our pups shared our lives even if the time they were with us seemed too short. Most were with us 14 to 16 yrs, so there was many happier times to remember.

Your loss is new, give yourselves time, it will get better.
And like someone else posted- YT members are always here for you and your wife.