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Bitter Sweet - Getting a puppy The thread is titled bitter sweet because I am overjoy that I'm getting a puppy but I have to keep it from friends and family for now. Its such exciting news I want to share it with the ones I love, however I don't want to hear their comments because the minute anyone hears how expensive yorkies are or there's talk about them being pure bred, you have those individuals that judge you. Is it such a terrible thing that you want to spend your hard earn money on a puppy, even when the price is high?? And I know a lot of dogs in the shelter need adopting, but is it wrong with my desire to raise a puppy? Has anyone else dealt with this? |
No, it is not wrong to spend your money on something you want. To tell you the truth, if I had known how much I would spend getting Copper, I probably would have thought about it a little more. The breeder was a friend of mine and said she would give me a good deal. It wasn't as good a deal as I thought it was going to be. By the time I fell in love with Copper and was committed...the deal ended up about $1500. Way more than I ever thought I would spend on a dog. After being on yorkietalk for almost 2 years now, I feel like I'm a little more educated on yorkies and realize that they do cost this much and occasionally more. I would do it again in a heartbeat if I could get my hubby to agree to two dogs. And it isn't about the money. :rolleyes: I say go for it. It is nobody's business how much you paid for your dog. Tell them you "got a deal!" :D |
I am in the same boat as you! I pick up little Zhoe tomorow and very few people know Im getting her. Only a close friends knows how much she cost. Honestly, its none of their business. I agree with citygirl123, getting all of her things she will need to come home is adding up big time! maybe I could have waited , and planned a little better. At the end of the day they are our babies and there is nothing anyone can do to change that. My husband tried to give me a hard time about shopping for her but I told him everyone has their thing they are into, and mine is Zhoe. You spend thousands of dollars on Simone ( his car) and I dont say a peep. |
I'm sorry that you have friends and/or family that would judge you based on what you would pay for something that you will love and will love you back unconditionally. First I want to say welcome to YT. :) Second don't worry what other will think. This is for you not them. Third, you came to the right place for info. and support. :D My hubby to this day doesn't know what I paid for our little Ahi. He knows it was a lot but he doesn't care. She makes our whole family happy and complete. Our family members adore her and don't care if we paid 10,000 or got her free. I hope your family and friends will see how loving and adorable you little one will be instead of $$ or status. In most situations that will be the case. They fall in love with their cute little faces right off. Good luck with your search for a Yorkie pup and please read up for info. on here and most of all please do your breeder research. |
Really, it is no one's business what you spend. You just want a healthy puppy from a reputable breeder - that is the important thing. I have learned so much from YT through the years and glad you have this time while you are waiting to learn. Oh, and also want to say - welcome to YorkieTalk! :) |
I had the same family reaction to me buying George. I put the end to it by saying to my husband who is a musician that he would spend thousands for a guitar that would say look no different to me then the one that cost a few hundred and same with a car to me they are just a mode of transportation can't see why some are worth hundreds of thousands of dollars when they all do the same thing get you from point A to B. Finally made him realize its all relative and a dog is not just a dog .:D |
i agree/ i got the same thing when I bought morgan. He is the love of my life. he is priceless. My family thinks that I am stupid for spending that much but it is none of their business. |
Don't discuss with them how much you spent. When I got my bichon the only person in my family that actually knows how much she cost is my daughter and that's because she was with me. She will be with me when I get my yorkie too. I know she knows not to discuss my financial affairs with other family members. It's my money I am spending and it is my business. |
Exactly dont discuss how much you spent. Just say something like not enough for the love I get back if asked. It is no ones business how much you spent or if you adopted from a breeder. Now I believe in all the good work rescues and shelters do and I believe we should support them but it doesnt necessarily mean everyone needs to adopt from them to me. People for a variety of reasons want to adopt a puppy and I think everyone should be able to experience the joys of having a new puppy at least once. Later on in life when they want to adopt another they may decide they dont want to go through puppyhood again and want to adopt an adult and go through a shelter or rescue and thats great for them and great for dog. |
Hey! I'd say as long as it's your money and you are not depending on anyone else or need financial help from anyone else then go for it!!! Its your money and your choice. My fiance family are very poor at managing their money and very broke all the time. They resent us for what we spend. It used to bother me A LOT... but over the last year or so, I just came to the conclusion that whether I spent it or saved it, it was still my money. So we now buy what we want and to heck with them. They can get mad and stay away if they want to. That is their choice. We pay all our bills first and then spend what we want. We save for things that are bigger expenses and never asked for a dime from anyone to help us financially.... if you are responsible and independent then GO FOR IT! :) |
It's nobody's business. They don't support you or pay your bills, they don't need to know how much you spend-on rent, electricity or even on your dogs. |
" Don’t worry about what people think, they don’t do it very often! " |
Glad your getting a puppy but sorry you have to hide it for now. My dad thought they were way to expensive but me and my mom knew with my grandmas breathing problems it would be the best breed for us. So we fibbed to my dad about it and had my grandpa asked we would have fibbed to him to. Had it been 100% my money I would have said what does it matter how much she cost it was my money. |
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I've never understood this philosophy, but heard it more than a few times from people when I got both my yorkies...basically implying I was some sort of horrible person because I chose to spend what they perceived to be alot of money, on the kind of dog I wanted, rather then getting a dog for next to nothing, from the local humane society. Like I shouldn't get what I want from where I want because of all the other irresponsible people in the world. Where is the rationale in that? My Money...My Choice! Dogs are a lifetime commitment. For yorkies that can mean alot of years..well into the teens. Get what YOU want and YOU will be happy with! |
Here's a response with tons of love and kisses over 12 plus years, it was a steal! |
I aggree that it is not anyone elses business. I am happy you are buying from a breeder. Too bad that some people think they know how to run other peoples lives. I have seen the other side too. At the Humane Society people complain about the adoption fees and Spay/Neuter they have to sign for when getting a young puppy. I have heard things like they ought to be free, and geeze they should be glad to find them a home. Why all the nosey questions ? And when I had a litter of puppies, I had a person tell me, "I will wait a couple of weeks, then you won't be so picky about who buys your puppies and lower your prices." Needless to say She did not, and will not ever get a puppy from me ! |
I agree with everyone. Its your money!! Through some devastating circumstances, my husband and I are more financially set than my mother. Because of this, I felt like I couldnt even tell my mother about Bella and what DH spent on her. Sad, but true. After a while I was like "its my life, my money, my decision. I shouldn't have to hide her from the rest of the family! Bella is a part of my family!" Now when it comes to my brother-in-law, he thinks he runs the whole family....not true. I don't tell him how much she was. Its not his business. He doesn't pay my bills or mortgage, or even live with us! All he needs to know is that we care for her and she is ours. |
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I agree that it isn't anyone's business, but I understand also that you don't want the grief from them. Unfortunately, so many people think they have the right to say whatever they want to people. It would be nice if they would just shut up or be supportive. Oh well, it is what it is. As for your puppy... well, it's money well spent for truly unconditional love! Enjoy your new baby! |
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Wow the reponse I got on this is incredible. Thank you everyone! Its so nice to hear what others have gone through. This yokietalk forum is awesome. I love that I've found people who share the same love and care. My puppy isn't born yet, I'm hoping for a boy, but of couse a girl pup would be just as great if theres no boy. I'll share with everyone once he/she is born. |
I wouldn't feel pressured to tell anyone what you paid for your Yorkie. Do these people ask you what you paid for your car, your clothes, your dinner at a fine restaurant? Do they want to know how much money you make? Sorry, none of their biz! Regardless of which way you go, adopt, rescue or reputable breeder, bringing home a Yorkie, or any dog for that matter, is a labor of love. As I type, Bailey, who we adopted, is sitting on my lap asleep. His heavy breathing as I type each stroke of this keyboard puts a smile on my face that erased the potty mistakes he made this morning on the kitchen floor. They are so worth the price, regardless. |
I have taugh my children there are some things it is rude to ask... like how someone is... adults, mostlly ladies?:cool: How much money you make?:eek: How much you weigh.. adult ladies:D and how much you pay for your:) dog. I just lied.. and said oh.. not much.. and changed the subject. I really did not think about it when I got Remy. I was lucky that she is a healthy happy puppy!!!! Now I do feel a little bad on how much I spend on her, I have to control my spending:eek::p:D Good luck and enjoy every minute! |
When I told my dad that I was getting a yorkie he was concerned about the cost as well as the size of the dog. He's a big dog person and felt that I needed a more "substantial" pet. There are many decisions I make as an adult that my friends and family don't necessarily agree with however it's my decision. I have to live with the consequences of it not them. So I understand that it is bittersweet that you're not able to share your joy with them, but don't not tell them for fear of judgement. Roll with the punches because everyone will not always agree with everything you do. Agree to disagree and stand firm with your choices. |
I agree that it is your hard earned money and how you spend it is your business and no one else. Don't let anyone get you down. They are well worth their weight in gold!!! We are in love with our new arrival and would of paid whatever it took to bring her home as long as we were able. We love her so much!!!! My family does know how much we paid for her, but no one has said anything. They all have been very supportive where I thought they would criticize, so I guess that goes to show that you never know. I hope people in your life will be supportive. Surely when they see how in love you are and how happy the Yorkie baby will make you, they'll forget all about dollar signs. Good luck and Congratulations! :) |
I also agree,it is nobody's buisness but yours and the breeder. I have actually had strangers ask me how much Suzi was, I thought it was very rude. nobody asks a person how much their house was do they? It is totally your choice and buying from a breeder is a smart thing to do. |
My Marley was free -- he was turned in at my office by a good samaritan who rescued him off the busy highway in front of the office. He's the most wonderful, well behaved, sensitive, handsome 9# Yorkie ever. Vet's guess at the time was 2 years old. He's now about 3 1/2. My Maxie is a wild man. Got him from a show home after he didn't make conformation. He's about 2, now 6# and Heck-on-wheels! I paid what I thought was a hefty adoption fee and drove hundreds of miles to pick him up. Money doesn't matter. I liked the comment from one poster that said the right answer to "how much did you pay for your dog?" is "Not nearly enough!" I wouldn't take a million for either one of them. |
I get asked how much Rhia was when I tell people she's purebred. =/ It kind of..irks me. My first dog was a rescue and Rhia came from a breeder and I love both dogs dearly. While in the future I'd go rescue one, I don't care where you get your dog. Get a dog that makes you happy, treat it well, and live a long, happy life together. |
Just to play Devil's Advocate here: Why keep it a secret? In the end, aren't we doing a disservice to the breed when we hide it or lie about the amount? How often do we see threads starting with "I want to buy a Yorkie, but I won't pay more than $500..." Are we pushing buyers into the arms of very willing greeders when we won't tell people what a well bred Yorkie really costs? Just a thought. |
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