To rehome or not is the decission of the owner. Im not sure that I would be able to give one of my babies up,havent been put in that situation. I have had someone be mean to my dogs,they are not allowed back in my house and cost me a very old friendship with his wife. I had a family member harm one of my dogs when I was very young and told them that they were NOT to ever touch my dog for any reason.
This guy broke a trust with his wife and no matter what she does with the dog,she will NEVER see him the same way or trust him to touch anything that belongs to her be it herself,dog or child. He did alot of damage to his entire relationship with his wife. Im not sure what I would do personally,but I think that I would consider me and the dog moving back to the states.

I really hope that this little one will be ok. I hope that this lady is able to make the right decision for herself and the dog. The guy will at some time reap what he has sewn.

If my spouse did something like that, I would be afraid to leave the pup alone with him and probably re-home him. He definitely broke a trust that would take sometime to rebuild. If he is truly sorry he will work to rebuild that trust. Only his actions will determined if he is worthy of a second chance. Unfortunately giving him a second chance will risk putting the life of that little pup in danger.

That poor baby... I feel so bad for the little pup... its a shame that someone would do this to a defenseless pup... could you tell us how the vet visit go? Did you talk to your friend?

That just makes me sick ! years ago I raised poms....One that size may have health problems anyway. If he is that mean now there is no telling what the poor dog will have to endure if it stays in the situation. She needs to re home it. I would not keep a pup that was going to be mis treated. I feel sorry for her but more for the pup. Don't mean to sound mean but the pup should not be there. It can not help itself but she can help it. Please talk to her & tell her the best thing for the pup if she cares for it is to give it up......Sorry but i can not help how I feel

I hope Kimchi is feeling better and I want to thank you for looking out for the puppy and encouraging her to take it to the vet. I hope your talk goes well and wish the best to you, your friend and the dogs.

Yes, the puppy did suffer and that is the sad part. What I meant in my original post was that she (the friend or wife) may not have known what her husband was going to do. If she had known then it would be a totally different story and different situation. We do not know the whole story on where the friend's whereabouts when the incident happened so we cannot say that she was at fault. People lose their tempers, and as I stated earlier, that does not make it okay for them to take it out on anything or anyone.

It is not the wife's fault that it happened but if it happened again it would be because she now knows her husband cant control his temper with a small animal and its her job to keep the puppy safe.

So she took her fur baby to the vet, and she is fine, from what they can tell. they gave her some seizure pills to take if their is another seizure, and to take her back ASAP!

She says her husband is going to stay out of puppy training from now on, and I dont really think that is the answer either.

As far as rehoming the pup, I dont think that is an option in her mind. I would offer to take her for a bit, but overseas we are only authorized 2 pets and we have our two. Rehoming is also not so good here in Korea, mostly the pups bounce home to home because military personal usually does not want to pay the money to ship them back home. There is a big problem with people letting their pets "go" here in Korea, you see lots of dogs roaming the streets.
What I really hope happens is that he takes what happened seriously and realizes you cant treat a puppy or anything in this way. Its not right, and its not OK. I think that enough people have found out what has happened to make him thoroughly embarrassed as well. Im really hoping that things turn around for them!!
Here are some pics of my two pups and her pups. Hers is not that well socialized I dont know if its because of what goes on at home. She told me Her husband also hovers over her, until she pottys which causes anxiety, she said sometimes her pup holds her pee/poop all day when he is home =/ We talked about that as well. But you can see in the body language with her and my pups she is uncomfortable, and in the second pic, its cute, but she terrorizes them a bit. lol

Very cute pups!

Your babies are precious and so it's your friend's poor sweet baby. She is lucky to have a friend like you for sure...this makes me so sad for her and her pup!

Very cute babies!! I have a blonde pom that is from a family member and she is the same way with other dogs. She thinks that she is the only dog in the house and that just isnt the case around here.

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so unfortunately the situation has escalated. Very very sad. My friend 'V' and her husband 'J' had been fighting. V left the house for some breathing room and when she came back her puppy was limping and was whimpering when her back leg was touched. Her husband says that ellie the pup had tripped over a toy when she was running.

the next day she took ellie to the vet. her femur was fractured in her back leg, she had to have emergency surgery getting a metal plate, several screws, staples, a cast and surgery in a few weeks again. V confronted her husband about this and he said "Im not ready to tell you what really happened yet" implying it was something he had done.

As of now V wants to divorce J but they are in a sticky situation. they owe the vet about 2 thousand dollars right now, the pup is not fully vaccinated, needs another surgery, she cannot not afford the plane ticket from korea to cali right now, the dog cannot be removed from the country for another 2 months because of quarantine laws, she is "stuck".

Im so sad for V and especially ellie. how can you do that to a puppy?? I can't understand. I encouraged her to talk to his chain of command in the military, tell them what happened, they will FORCE him to get help for anger, and they will FORCE him to pay for the vet bills, and especially they can provide protection if needed for her and her puppy.

This type of behavior is scary, and he has serious issues. I hope that she realizes this. Its unacceptable and the military WILL and CAN keep him in line. I hope she does the right thing and goes to them.

That's very sad to hear a grown hurt a tiny puppy my sister also has a 1.5 pom and I know how easy they can be hurt hopefully your friend can talk to someone an get help go not just the pup but her husband and her

That is the sickest situation I have read about in a long time. I believe she knew, before she brought a puppy into their home, that it was not a proper or safe environment. If I knew who that was, I would report them to the military authorities. That's a disgrace.

I honestly dont think she did. They have been married for a year and these last 4 months are the first of their marriage they have spent together. he was away for several months in basic, then AIT and then moved to Korea, where later she was able to join him. From what I have heard he has changed, and that is what scares her the most. This is the first 4 months they have ever even lived together, so its a new situation for her.

But again, I really hope her husband gets the help, and I hope the puppy and her are removed from this situation. =(

At this point she does definately report him to the uppers. She also needs to seek help placing herself and the puppy somewhere else or the husband needs to live somewhere else.
If my daughter or even a friend called and told me they were in this situation. I would be making phone calls to get them home! I would be asking everyone I knew to make a donation of flite miles or $$. She needs to get away from him and never look back. Any man that would harm a tiny baby dod is a coward and I would not want to be on patrol with him.

I agree. I keep urging her to report her husband, there is not much anyone else can do to report him since she is the only witness to this behavior =/

Her father paid for her to come home once, and she ended up backing out (when things got bad before) and she owes him a lot of money, I think this time her sister is trying to help her come home, but she has to wait two months for the pup. I think she needs to stay somewhere else and get in contact with his chain of command until that happens.

I hope she and the puppy will be safe from that monster. I'm sorry she has found herself in that situation so far away from home. That is really sad.

This is so sad! I hope he gets help, and your friend finds a safe place to stay. Can she stay with you temporarily?

That is terrible what he did to that puppy I'm sorry but if she knew that he was mean to the puppy before why in the heck would she leave the poor thing with him when he was mad? It only takes time for someone who hurts animals to hurt people. Maybe sense her life could be in danger now she will take it seriously.

Good news!!

Today I urged my husband to talk to the chain of command and tell them whats going on, and he did. After that they started an investigation and had her husband on lockdown. she didnt know this. Then I urged her to talk to the chain of command, after hours of me pressuring her, and telling her things would work out she finally did.

her husband is on 24/7 watch. he can not be alone for any time at all. He has to take mandatory therapy for anger, abuse and alcohol. he is not allowed back into their home and is not allowed to leave a barrack room, except to work. He cannot contact her in any way, FB, text or call and that is a zero tolerance policy. He cannot return to their home at all except for 30 mins while she is gone to collect his belongings. after that he cant EVER go back not even after she leaves Korea. They are paying her way back home, and trying to figure out what will happen with the dog. Their number one priority right now is her safety.

Im so glad she took this step for her and her pup. I think she was scared that the army wouldn't do anything or that her husband would cut her off financially and she would be stuck but I told her they wouldnt let that happen, and that the army is on her side. im so glad she got to see how many people are taking this seriously.

Thank you all for your concern.

I understand his wife needing to get out of the situation before it escalated to him harming her or killing the dog. However, his life is officially ruined, he will now be paying at lrast half his paycheck to her for the rest of his career because unfortunately the military cares more about dependents then the members themselves. I get that she needed out of the situation but you meddled and his career and possibly life is over. The dog should have been removed and wife should've left but there were ways she could have done so without destroying his career. There are family advocacy groups on every base. Guess what his unit thinks now, that he is a wife bearer. Another shinig example of a military spouse f-ING the member.

He F'ed himself.

Myself having been a Military Wife for 22 years and having volunteered with Family Advocacy, I can say I most certianly support what she did. So it was he who &*&* himself.

Really? He screwed himself over and I think it is great that the military is helping her.

A military career is more important than the safety of a human being?

This young man made poor choises and yes will have to answer for them. That is not paying a price that is justice. You do NOT abuse anyone,tiny dog,child,wife or another member of the Army. If he had injured an officer he would be behind bars or receive the same punishment. This is SO not her fault and the armed services does not care more for the dependents. They feel a responsibility to the dependents because they are making a sacrifice by folllowing their loved one all over the planet or even making the ultimate sacrifice and being a widow/er or learning to live without a parent.
This young lady should not have to go hungry,do without her dog,or be stranded in a country overseas because the man that stood at an alter and gave his word to love,honor and cherish her failed miserably. You do not abuse someone physically or mentally,by harming something or someone important to them and call it love or cherishing that person. He has shown a great lack of honor and integrity by being cruel and being a coward by harming something weaker than he.
Hopefully he will see there error of his ways and will be able to rebuild his personal and military life. Hopefully she will be able to rebuild her life and be able to trust others and not spend the rest of her life hurt and afraid that the next young man will do the same.

Wow!!! What a horrific series of events!! I salute the military for taking this situation under control...how can it possibly be said that the wife screwed up the husbands life and career!!! How?? Im speechless!! That jerk screwed himself! If he could be that violent towards tiny pup that weighs only a pound with no remorse, do you not think its possible in the future, he could turn to bigger victims, like his wife????

I am so very happy she is getting the help she needs, not only for the pup, but for herself. And to those who thinks this man is a poor victim...WAKE UP!!!!

To the OP: You did not "meddle" you stepped up for someone that was to afraid to do it for themselves. The advocasy groups would of done the same.
If his unit thinks less of him it will be because they already knew what type of person he is and just had it proved to them.
You did what was right and so did your husband.

I agree with both of you. I will admit I don't know the ins and outs of military life. However, I do know one thing. No person is superior to another. This person, the husband, broke the little dog's leg simply because he could. In a moment of anger, he took it out on something that couldn't fight back. Eventually, the Pom will be gone. It will either be rehomed or it will have passed away. There is no doubt in my mind the wife would have then become his punching bag if she had not spoken up. Enough of these cases have been recorded to know this episode of domestic violence would have escalated. The wife is one of the lucky ones. She's going to get out of the situation. I don't see how his employment choice makes him the victim.