Having a very hard day today I have always had a lot of pets. I love animals with all my heart. My husband just returned from deployment (8 months). While he was away I gave birth to our 2nd son. We have now moved into a bigger house and I have been struggling to keep up with the babies, the house, my marriage, and our 4 animals. So yesterday I did something I thought I would never in a million years do. I gave up my parrot. I brought him to a parrot rescue. He is a double yellow headed amazon and he was very attached to me. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. For a while now I haven't had time for him and he was left in my room most of the day. I knew it was coming and I knew he would be happier. I know he will be. There are people there that are going to work with him and find him a good home. He gets to be around people all day and other birds instead of in my room. I know deep down I did the right thing but it hurts so bad bc I know that even though I explained it to him he will never truly understand and he will think I abandoned him. He will think I don't love him. I love him so much. Parrots are incredibly social animals and I was as close to him as he was me. I wokee up this morning and cried when I didn't see his cage and hear his noises he makes every morning. It is so much harder than I thought it would be. I was selfish for a few months in keeping him bc I knew how much I would miss him. His name is Echo but he thinks that's my name and calls me all the time. When I put him in a cage at the rescue I kissed his head and told him I loved him whille I cried. I can only hope that he felt that emotion. The stress I have been going through lately is so much at times that I simply do not know how I will continue to cope. I don't know when things got so hard. Echo, like all my pets, is like one of my babies. I had to do what was right for him but I wish the hurt and saddness I feel in my heart would listen to my brain telling me that. I know this has nothing to do with yorkies (other than that Bentley does feel how sad I am and hasn't left my side since yesterday) but I don't have anyone else to talk to. Even if no one reads this, it feels good to get my emotions out somewhere. I always knew military life would be difficult but I never expected to be alone so often. I never expected to feel so sad all the time. Its so hard to make friends when they all leave so often. I feel like all I do is say goodbye to the ones I love. Including Echo. Thanks for listening. Sorry for the pity party. |
I'm sorry. You must be in pain, to give up any animal is hard. You did the right thing by taking him to a rescue, I'm sure they will find him a good home! Don't be so hard on yourself, it will get better! |
It doesn't matter if they are covered in fur or feathers, we love our animals. You did what was best for Echo. You put his needs first. I'm proud of you. I know you have a heavy heart right now. I hope tomorrow is a brighter day. |
I am so sorry you had to give up one of your babies. I imagine just the stress from your husband being gone is hard enough without all the other things you have to deal with. I hope he finds a good home with someone to love him. Prayers and hugs are with you. Have you talked to a doctor about how overwhelmed you feel? Maybe he could give you medicine that would help. |
I'm so sorry you are going through this. He will always love you and i'm sure he will be grateful once he's settled in and enjoys all the attention he's getting. Sometimes life brings us to having to make decisions we might not want to or be ready to but everything happens for a reason. Enjoy your children as they need you now. Congrats on your husband's return. Stay strong and enjoy what life has brought to you! |
I am so sorry you are going thru such a difficult time - I think you did the best thing for your Echo - take care of yourself and hoping things will go easier - sending a hug..... |
I feel your pain, you did a very unselfish thing by putting Echo 1st. You have alot going on in your life give it some time and you will feel better knowing he has a better life then you can give at this time. |
I feel your pain on your words, my heart hurts for you. I know how hard it must of been to leave Echo, you did the right thing by giving him to a rescue that will work with him and give him the attention that he needs. Hopefully things will be easier for you in the days ahead...HUGS:) |
I'm going to echo everyone's sentiments; I think you did the right thing for eveyone ~ and the unselfish thing. I pray that things will get a little easier for you. |
You will never forget Echo, but you will also remember that you put him first. Be proud of yourself for doing that for him. Blessings. |
I am so sorry to hear you are having a bad day. I know it must have been hard giving him up. I pray that as the days go by things will become easier. I trust he will find a great home! :hug: |
im so sorry you had to give up one of your babies, fur feathers or scales, they are a part of our lives. you did the right thing.. *hugs* |
It is ok you did the right thing. I know alot about parrots. I worked at an Avian Rescue years ago. These birds are very smart, maybe even smarter than most dogs. They get very bonded and require a lot of time and attention. A hand tamed amazon will be adopted by some doating 'bird person'. My Friend got her bird from the rescue, and has had her African Gray for over 40 years now. Maybe like me, when your children are grown and you are retired, you can how ever many fur and feather, babies you want and will have plenty of time to give them. Hugs |
I am so sorry that your heart hurts so bad. Sometimes the right thing is also the hardest thing. When our first child was born I had a Lilac Crowned Amazon (Ceasar),he loved me so much and hated everyone else including our new child. So that he wouldn't spend the rest of his life in a cage I sent him to live with someone else. I know the sounds that you are missing at dawn and dusk. I know that living the military life can be so hard. Continue to make new friends because you will always either bless their lives or they will bless yours for the time that you have together. The people that suffer for our country are not only the ones that deploy but their loved ones that have to stay here and keep things going for the family. Blessings to you and your loved ones. |
I too gave up my senegal parrot, Jelly, because I wasn't able to take her out due to her being scared of the kids and would fly or try to bite them. Plus I left her alone a lot in a room as well and it bothered me so much I gave her to my aunt. You did a loving act. Many people just leave their pets in their current situation even though their life quality is poor or not the best. You wanted her to be happy and be well taken care of. Maybe you can find a support group or moms group to join and be with others. Even if your not making life time friends it feels good to be with others. Good luck and keep your chin up. Your a great person!!:) |
I am so sorry that you had to give him up. I can feel the hurt in your words. I feel very sad for you. :( I can only imagine how hard it is to have to give him away and also live the military life. I know that the families make sacrifices as well as those who serve. Do know that we all appreciate that sacrifice. I wish that I could tell you words to comfort you. I really feel like you just need a good hug. So, here is a hug from Arkansas {{{hugs}}} and two little yorkie girls. :hug::hug: |
so sorry for your pain! you did a selfless thing for Echo!! |
Thank you all for your support. It really helps. Last night I told my husband I just couldn't sleep upstairs. I sat in the living room after dinner dreading going to bed. I told him it was giving me anxiety. Bc I knew if I went up there that there would be a an empty space where his cage used to be. I know I sound crazy. I told him that as long as I was downstairs I could pretend he was still here. So, he slept down here on the couches with me. It was incredibly sweet of him and I am feeling better today. I'm just going to busy myself cleaning and with the babies to keep my mind off of it. Going to the dog park later with Bentley and Charlie. Thank you all so much. I know it will hurt for a while so I need to keep busy. I want to call to check on him but will wait a week or two when the pain is less fresh. |
I am sorry you are having a rough time right now. My husband was and one of our sons is in the Navy and they have web sites that you might look at and find you are not alone in your feelings and what people in your situation do to help cope. Just google the particular branch of service as I believe all military branches have this help available to you who serve at home, too.:) |
I'm sorry. I am going through a similiar situation with my Cockatoo Boo. As you know but many do not, parrots require a lot more attention, feeding etc. It's equivaltent to having a toddler for the rest of your life. I aquired Boo as a baby out of an egg and she is about six now. Having had her six years I'm now an advocate against parrots as domestic pets. For one they outlive us and two almost always circumstances in our lives change and that is when most are put in rescues (If they are lucky). For us, my sons are now older teens and I went back to work. I'm not home much at all anymore. What I did do was take a room and bird proof it and I leave Boo out all day with toys and fresh food and water. That however does not make up for the lack of attention. Parrots are very sociable and NEED human contact. They can be very demanding with their ear piercing screams as well as plucking when they don't get what they need. Their food habits are expensive as well as time consuming. It's not just seed. It's home cooking the variety they need as if they were in the wild. I too go through whether I should place her for adoption with rescue. I'm struggling with that now. One one hand I know she's safe with me and won't be abused but on the other hand I know she's not as happy as she could be. She's very lonely. It's different with our dogs, my husband is home all day with them and he plays with them, feeds them etc. and when I get in they sit on my lap and watch TV with me. He's afraid of the parrot. Not a lot of people can handle the size and beak and damage they can do. Which is the other issue with parrots. They can never be left unattended in an area that is not bird proof. They are very destructive. I'm sorry you went through this. It's something I think at some point I will be going through. Elaine |
When Bunkey passed away last March I had a problem with his doggie couch and bed being in our bedroom,so I removed them. That didnt help because it left a big space in my room. So I moved a piece or two of furniture in my room and it helped. Sounds silly but at least when I looked in his corner,it wasnt just an empty space. |
One of the measurements of true love is doing what is best for the one you love. That is what you did. I hope you hold that in your heart eveyday, and remember that when you miss him. He is happier.. being in a room all day was not what was best, he will go to a home that is in the right place to take care of him. Maybe one day in the future you will be there to rescue another pet that needs you... play it forward. Hugs Shinja |
I am sorry you are going thru such a difficult time. I think you did the best thing for Echo, you are a good mom and i am sure he knows that. Hope u r feeling a litlle bit better today. :hug: |
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Just wanted to update on Echo. I called the rescue and they say he is doing great. They told me they have been handling him a lot and expect him to find a great home soon. I still am missing him dearly and have times in the day when I feel anxious knowing he isn't here. But I feel better knowing he is doing well and getting the attention and love he truly deserves. Thank you all for your support. |
I am so sorry for all you are going through. Not many of us know the true sacrifice military and their family go through to keep us safe. Thank you and your husband for that. I am glad he is doing well at the rescue and it sounds like he will go to a good home. Hugs |
Don't feel bad. I had to give up my daughter's conure. It was a present from me to my younger daughter after her bird died unexpectedly. Give her conure to my father-in-law, who is retired and has all the time to dedicate to him. Better than being all alone in my daughter's room waiting for attention. So don't feel bad. You did a very unselfish thing. |
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. That is really very very hard! I can just sense the heartbreak you feel in your words. I had to place a bunny for adoption once. My heart was broken, not to mention, no matter how nice the rescue people are, I still felt like they were condemning me in their heads. I owned a house with my fiance, and we had just gotten a yorkie puppy. I had the bunny, which I rescued from a shelter only a month prior. The bunny and puppy were doing so well together I would find them laying side by side on the couch together all the time, sooo cute. One day my fiance pretty much came home and told me he didn't want to get married and he didn't want the pets, I could have them. Well I kicked him out of the house, so suddenly I was taking care of the house alone, the 2 pets alone, working full time and going to night school. (my ex was home a lot since he was a Firefighter and worked 2, 24 hour shifts a week, he was home 5 days a week). Plus I had to pack up the house, sell it, move, cancel my wedding, and deal with a broken heart (we were together 10 years) ... I just couldn't do it all and my pup was only 5 months old. So with a heavy heart I gave up my bunny to a rescue locally. It was the best thing I could do for her at that point in my life and hers. My mom helped me with my puppy, often taking him overnight until his sudden unexpected passing. 5 years later, I got the opportunity to rescue another bunny and I did! She passed this summer, but she was with me until the end and very well taken care of! She died a happy bunny at least! :) I paid it forward, and I will do it again! (((HUGS))) to you! |
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