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Unstable neighbor Hello my friends... you wouldn't believe the night Oliver and I had. My neighbor came over and I knew immediately something was wrong... I've been concerned before about her mental status however tonight it was combined with alcohol. She started chasing Oliver around the house screaming that it was her sons dog???!!! I quickly got my baby and asked her to leave... she then fell and said she was going to sue me. Then she tried to grab Oliver from my arms saying it was her sons dog!!! I have never been so freaked out. I don't want to over react but she works at the hospital with me and I think she needs a mental evaluation. Just scared... any thoughts? |
She works at the hospital? Is she involved in direct patient care? If so, then I'd report her so that they can keep an eye on her. As far as the home front, keep her as far away from your baby as possible. Never answer the door if its her and walk..no run the other way with your dog if she's coming. If you ever feel threatened again, I would advise her that you will get her trespassed if she continues to step foot on your property. Does she live by herself or with a husband or kids? Could you talk to someone that she lives with? |
Eek! Glad you grabbed Mr Oliver! If this becomes a problem you need to notify the police. You don't want it to escalate into her breaking into your home to take Oliver because of her allusions. It does scare me that she's working at a hospital. By the way, how's the boyfriend situation with Mr. Oliver? |
Yes she has direct patient care... so I feel responsible for at least reporting something to get her help. I spoke to her husband and he seemed to have no concern. I have spoken to other neighbors that share my same concern bc she seems to have paranoia. I really think she though Oliver was her dog!!! I was really scared |
Do you see her interacting with patients or have you seen her act funny at work? It'll be hard to complain at work about something that goes on at home. I would let her husband know tomorrow what happened tonight. Also let him know that next time for your safety, you will have her trespassed and will continue to take the appropriate steps necessary in order for it to stop. |
Taryn... your the best... the boyfriend is trying to make nice with Oliver but my baby is the most important thing and I really feel those were his "true" feelings... and just bc hes playing nice now doesn't mean that the true feelings will come out again. |
I do not see her with patients.. however I do know we have a confidential program that I can go to... and I do know she has been reported there before. I by NO means want to threaten someones job... I really am just concerned. |
Good, I didn't want to have to send Mr. Gizmo over there to set him striaght!! :p |
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That is very scary, and please don't just let it go. Things may be worse next time. Hope you can report it confidentially at least, to establish a background history. She needs evaluation and help. |
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Glad you and Oliver are ok after that! I would not tell other ppl at work if you are going to utilize that program and report her. She may retaliate, and she knows where you live. Unfortunately, with employment laws these days, if she has a def psych diagnosis the employer will have to "work w her" but maybe they can get her out of direct pt care or keep her away from you. I agree w ORnurse, I would not answer the door again if she comes over. I also would not ever let Oliver unattended as she could be out and about in the neighborhood. If she continues to bother you, I wouldn't hesitate in getting a restraining order or calling police for trespass charges. I once had a psych dr tell me about dealing w ppl w certain psych diagnoses, "you can't reason w the insane, they lack the ability." You probably already know that if you work in direct pt care, but I liked the saying. |
I too work in a hospital and we have confidential reporting. These systems are not meant to get people fired/in trouble but rather to get them help and improve patient care. |
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I would make sure Oliver is safe and that she can't get to him while you aren't at home. If she is this delusional you don't know what she might do. Not sure I would trust the husband either. If you have a confidential site where you can report her I would. We also have this at the school I work at. They need to know this woman is unstable and may have a problem with alcohol. She could be drinking at work. |
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I would immediately file a police report and report her to the hospital. It's a dangerous situation and not one you should just let go. The police can then continue to watch for similar reports about the same person. That is trespassing, disorderly conduct, and an attempt to steal your dog! For your safety, the safety of your dog, the safety of your neighbors, and the safety of hospital staff and patients, report her and consider a restraining order also. |
You and Oliver must have been so scared. I would steer clear of her as much as possible. Maybe a police report is a good thing just to have all of this documented. As far as her working at the hospital, you should talk to someone about her behavior. She could be a danger to patients and also to fellow employees. |
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You should absolutely file a police report ASAP. Having worked for years in psych (years back), you definitely need to take action - bc there is no way to know for sure what your neighbor is experiencing -or- how far they could decompensate. |
Oh my! How scary for you! I would make sure she never has access to my furbaby. And like the others have said, yes report her. I wouldn't want her taking care of me or any of my family. |
Don't open the door to that woman again. Drunk or not she is a danger. It is hard to press charges against someone you have let in the door. If she comes to your door again and starts raising a fuss call the police. You need to have a police report or two to be able to make your case at work. I worked in a medical facility for years and it is unfortunate but they usually will not take one person's word over another. If you have an understanding manager that you can trust you may want to go and speak to that person informally or you may be able to go to a personnel manger or employee advocate if you have one. Right now you need to do what you can to protect yourself and your property. |
Thank you everyone for all of your support and concern over this. To be honest Oliver and I both haven't been the same since. Its just my lil guy and myself living in my home so I have to be very careful. Like I said earlier... this isn't the first time ive been concerned about her mental status bc of major paranoia.... this time she just went to an extreme with MY baby. I have done some research and have decided to report her at work tomorrow. It is all confidential and the hospital will do what is right for the employee but also the safety of patients. Again... I never want to interfere with peoples jobs but I would NEVER be able to forgive myself if something else happened. I found out from another neighbor that she came over and accused them of ruining her marriage etc. So yes... no more answering the door to her and for my own peace of mind I'm taking Oliver to my parents during the day when I am gone. I will keep you posted! |
Good for you, I'm glad to hear you are reporting it. Hopefully she will get some help before anything worse happens. |
This has happened to me, except it was when I was 10. A lady in the camp site we were in yelled at me and my sister saying our beagle/chihuahuas were her dogs and that we broke into her camper to steal them.... my dad talked to her husband and he didn't care a bit, he was like 20 years younger than her though.... but he said he was her husband wierd people out there!!! |
Glad to hear you are reporting her, she may need professional help, and that Oliver will be safe when you are at work. |
Neighbors like that can really make you uncomfortable. I'm glad you're reporting her, even if something does happen, don't feel responsible. She's too unstable to be in a care taking position and could be doing more harm then good. Hope Oliver is okay! Lots of hus and kisses from Gizmo. |
I am sure you were frightened. It sounds like she has something going on. (I once had a neighbor that did really weird things. He even took my clothes off the line and yelled that I was a harlot, while waving a bra at me. Turned out he had a brain tumor.) Keep yourself and your baby safe, do not let her in your house. She may be ill, having a reaction to medication, have a drug and /or alcohol addiction, even be mentally ill. I would report her,and pray for her. She needs help. |
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