I have a suggestion that may help with the older girls... (I'm not a parent but this is what my mom did when my step sisters went through this phase when we were younger).

If you're with them and they are getting mad at you, just kindly walk up to them and give them a big hug and say I love you... they'll probably think your nuts, but later on they'll remember that later on...

Hang in there, we're all praying for you. Just take it one day at a time, we're all here to listen if you need a theraputic rant!

Chrissy, I can relate to what is going on with you at this time and I understand your pain. My 37 year old daughter was blind sided 2 1/2
months ago when her husband asked for a divorce. Doesn't love her....yada yada.
Anyway...they were stationed in Virginia and she ended up coming back to Texas 7 weeks ago with my 2 grand daughters 17/19. She personally drove a huge moving truck by herself with her daughters following her in the car. She found a job within 2 weeks, we moved her into her rent house this last weekend she appears to be settling nicely.
I am so proud of her strength and you can do this too. It is painful and your questions will never be answered to your satisfaction but you will survive and look back on this one day with a different view.
By the way she brought her 2 French bulldogs with her and her Schnauzer and they are making the transition very well.
Now that they are near us again we are all enjoying life together, supporting each other emotionally and moving forward. I have more grand doggies to love, I get to see my grand daughters again and my daughter has the emotional support she needs.
She has cried many tears and will cry many more but she is beginning to realize that in many ways she is better off.
Best of luck to you and if you need to chat feel free to contact me.

Wow. I give you coodos right off the bat for handling this so well. I hope everything works out for the best, and in a few years, you're able to look back on this and know that it was for the best.

I wish you the best of luck and sincerely hope that everything works out for you, your girls and your two boys.