The grandparents.......
 

Are killing me I've done my research and know what rules I want my Rox!e to follow, however my parents are playing the spoiling grandparents role when playing with her. My father allows her to chew on his fingers and toes and now a puppy who had AMAZING bite inhibition is now starting to seriously bite. I have trained her with a three clap rule (1st; check yourself, 2nd; warning,3rd; stop the action) it works well with the children in my class and beautifully with my puppy, however when I do it my parents complain that I'm not allowing her to be a puppy:confused:. NOT TO MENTION that just now my dad was offering her a piece of chicken off his plate...when he's the one who HATES when dogs beg for food:angry:. Of all the books I've read, the shows I've watched, and the people I've talked to I've learned that you have to nip unwanted behavior in the bud and give Rox guidance and boundaries however my parents are proving to be difficult obstacles in this endeavor. I'm afraid that when Rox!e grows up she's going to be a diva/prissy yorkie and not the model citizen that I want her to be. As she's my furbutt, and will be moving with me when I move I REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want her to grow into these behavior habits that she's learning now... :mad:

I've talked to my parents...explained the rules... explained my reasoning...and theres no talking to them. My question is has anyone else had to deal with this? And how were you able to overcome these obstacles

Yes, everyone in the pup's life should be consistent in training and rules.

People often need as much training as dogs. :D

Grandpa doggy-sits and walks my boys. He allows them to go off-roading when they walk. Yesterday, Teddy ate plant material on the side of the road that gave him diarrhea. :(

Keep talking to your parents. Give them material to read to back up your position. Good luck!

Thanks I have a feeling I'm going to need it!! :rolleyes:

Yep my mom lets him chew on her finger.. now he tries chewing on me too. ):

My parents and grand parents spoil my dogs rotten but they follow my rules. however when my ex-boyfriend was living with me he taught gatsby to jump at lumps under the sheet or blanket (because then he would bite my toes) i hated this but i did not have to do anything to stop it. one day we wear in bed and gatsby saw a lump and he jumped and bite at it this lump was something that was not a toe and it was something only boys have. after that night he never had Gatsby jump on a lump under the blanket again
my advice would be to watch close they are bound to say something like "ouch" or "stop it" or "i wish you/she would stop that" when they do say very politely and quickly "well if you would let me train her the way i want she would not be doing that"

Oh, it's no different than grandchildren. My mother never did what I asked when she was watching my son ~ because she knew best of course! Guess it's no different with the dogs. This is an age-old battle that can't be won or lost; just try to find a middle ground where you all can meet.

Sometimes it would make me really mad and then I would remember how much they loved their grandson (or granddog) and everything they did for him; and I usually held my tongue.

My parents are the same way. I know what rules I want Kaji to follow, and when I lived on my own, Kaji was a very good little dog. He still is, just that now he begs for food if anyone is in the kitchen. If I try correcting him, my mom right away comes to his defense. *In baby talk* "Poor baby! Mean mommie won't let you have any goodies. Do you want some cheese/chicken/cucumber/carrots?" :rolleyes:

My parents, siblings, and boyfriend do the same. Not as bad as they used to in the beginning, but they still allow Miloh to get away with things. Once I check him on anything he's done out of line they baby talk to him. I always end up looking like the bad person. :rolleyes:

I can't offer any suggestions regarding the grandparents issue, but I wanted to welcome you to YT!!

I wanted to add that my father allowed Max to chew on his fingers during the teething stage. He did it primarily to check his baby teeth. I was upset about this because Max thought it was okay to chew on me too.

Despite this, Max did learn bite inhibition playing fetch and tug-o-war with me.

I guess that's just something your going to have to deal with and try to keep reminding them of your rules. That's what it is like when you are living at home with parents. No matter what your always their child and they will try to do what they think is right.

I was at home and 20 when I had my daughter, I could only stand being there for 2 months after my daughter was born because my mom thought she knew everything and I didn't know what was right for my baby, I moved out and got my own place! Now I only have to deal with grandma spoiling my daughter and letting her get away with everything at her house! My house is MY rules!!

My MIL does the SAME thing!!! We didn't want Claire eating ppl food so that she wouldn't beg or mess up her diet. They fussed and called me mean too! I eventually saw a little wasn't hurting her and gave in some...it was not easy though! I just preparing for when we have children...one day in the far far future lol

Thanks so much everyone!! The responses have been soo amazing!! Roxie and I will have to try some of these outt!!! :)

Well that is a difficult situation. Try to find some vidoes on you tube, or record an appropriate Casear dog training show. Then say on a quiet Sunday look Mom n Dad, I want you to watch some things with me, on dog behaviour issues and training.
I need you to Help me to create a well behaved and trustworthy dog. Bite inhibition is so important even with a small dog. Can you imagine if a toddler went to pet my roxie and she bit on her fingers? How scarey for the child, and oh my what would the consequences be for Roxie? I do so want and need Roxie to be a very well behaved dog, safe for me to take into any situation. I can't do that without your help and support.

Worth a shot.