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could he have been abused? I brought an 11 month boy yorkie almost 2 weeks ago for a playmate for my little girl Tia. Anyways he has been fantastic in bonding with her and me however when my sons, 22 yr old, 19 yr old and my husband go to stroke him he starts to pee. He also cowers when any of the men approach him quickly. im really starting to think that maybe the man and lady whom I brought him off of abused him , I hope not , but what do you guys think? |
I think you are probably right, especially since he does this with the men. That is so sad. Why did they rehome him? He will need time to adjust, training and lots of TLC. |
It does sound like he has a fearful response around men. :( As horrible as it is that he might have been treated poorly by men in the past, he is so lucky to be somewhere better now. I'll bet with some time your husband and sons can gain his trust. |
That's classic submission. He may have been abused and is just flat out scared of men. Or he may have had the fear of God instilled in him by a man and he's trying to show he's not challenging authority. Either way, may I suggest that the males in your family shower a little extra attention on him so he understands he has nothing to fear? Extra treats? A head ruffling once in a while? Walks? Hopefully, he will get over it, but it may take some time. |
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:) I forgot to say when she put on his lead for me to take him he dragged me out of that flat and on the way out the couple said "at least now we won't feel guilty going to the gym in the evenings":eek: |
:mad: oh julie , olly seems scared of men for some reason poor little mite , :( thank god he is now in the safety of your family :) hopefully as time goes by he will get better , just be patient , love jill n poppy xx :aimeeyork |
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My Stormy was always afraid of men. She was just terrified of every male that came around. She was excellent with children and boys under 13. |
Thank heavens he's safe with you now. Yes, I would agree his fear of men IMO would mean some man scared him. He's young and has to learn to trust the men in your family. He will, with love, gentleness and lots of treats. I would let the men in your family take over feeding him his meals. Food is the most important commodity to a dog and those that feed them are important to them. I am sure in time he will love them and trust them. Good luck, |
I saw one that was submissive with men, but not with women. I suppose the key question would be: were there men at the previous home? |
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:thumbup: you will eventually take his fear away , its just so nice for him that he has found a loving home that he deserves :) you can see how spoilt he is already , well done julie , love jill n poppy xx :aimeeyork |
1 Attachment(s) thanks for all your tips I will start straight away thanks guys and heres a pic , Ollys the one on the left, Tia on the right Attachment 312921 |
Awwww poor little thing :( I hope he comes around to trusting men again, I am sure he will with love, patience and time :) |
:) julie they are adorable , they look like they have been together for years :) i bet they have loads of good times to come ;) love jill n poppy xx :aimeeyork |
thanks again everyone, this may be corny but I just love yorkie talk ,I was stressed half an hour ago about this but now I know what I can do to make things better:) |
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:mad: They sure weren't sad to see him go. They left him for 112 hours and went to the gym!!! I bet to go out to dinner and who knows what else. holding him prison in the kitchen and mad at him???? He's a BABY!!! They were stupid and didn't deserve him. I am so happy Tia loves him. He will soon know that he is loved now and be happy in his new home :) |
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:) WOW!!! He is a HANDSOME little :aimeeyork fellow! |
They look so at ease together... he's such a handsome fellow! Lucky Little Tia! Have your husband wear a T shirt for a few days and put it in the dog's bed or near it so he becomes used to his scent. Have hubby stir his food with his bare hand... scenting again. Hubby should never approach the dog, hold out a treat and allow the dog to come to him for the treat... And lastly, have all scratch this dog from under his chin, I would avoid a hand over his head for petting until he becomes more relaxed with everyone. Be very patient, he will come around. (If he is fearful when this is done overhead) Most important: Say "What a good Boy!" The "W" word gets their attention quickly and makes it more special than a plain 'Good Boy!'., and say this at least once daily, even if he didn't have a good day. Some dogs don't have a clue and have never heard these words... too sad! But it's a great self-esteem builder for him or any pup. My oldest rescue took eight months before he bonded with me. I kind of gave up trying and just decided to accept him as he was: a non-bonding dog. So sad... until one day he kissed my cheek. I cried for quite a while.... now I can't get him to stop! JK! Good Luck with him and wishing you all the best! :D |
I agree with everyone. He is submissive because he is so scared! Lots and lots of praise will do the trick, right along with patience. The couple that had him before should be locked in the kitchen for hours on end! ;) |
Awe. Poor little guy. My girl Cooper was like this when we rehomed her and I KNOW for a fact she was mistreated by the sorry excuse of a "man" who previously owned her. She has been with us almost 9 months and will not pee if she seeks the attention from hubby. However, if he reaches to her first she sorta cowers and pees a little. However, now she wags her tail now. We did little practices with her at first. He would pet her while I held her, give her a treat, always keep their interactions positive and I was the 'bad guy' in training. :) Good luck to you and I hope your little one feels safe soon. |
it is possible but I have a Maltese and she used to do that since she was 8 weeks old. If you called her she would crouch down and pee a little.Or if you picked her up she would pee a little. She stopped once she was about a yr old. She later had 1 puppy and he did the same thing lol. He is 20 months old and he doesnt do that anymore. It takes time, love and patience but it is possible that it will stop. Gen |
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Thank you I had hubby do that this morning with his food. You know that expression , never judge a book by its cover, well they seemed such a nice young couple .Looking back I must have been blind not to see the signs. 1. what kind of puppy doesn't know his name at 11 mths 2. the obsession with my garden and having trouble getting him in lol 3. cowering and wetting when men touch him 4. havn't cried once about his old owners The only regret I have is not getting him the first time I viewed him therefore putting him through an extra few days of what he was going through. We travelled 2 hours to see the little guy with Tia and as soon as we walked in he went mental, jumping on Tia laying on his back weeing when we tried to stroke him.I thought he was far too hectic for my little girl.Three days later , I don't know what it was but I turned to hubby and said "I think we have made a big mistake not getting the little guy". Anyhow I rang the lady again and she said she has a 15 year old looking at him later that day:eek: I told her I deffo want him and can be there in 2 hrs . She said ok. he loved the journey back in the car and funny enough when we stopped off(me needing the loo) my hubby said he was crying for me! Vet check the very next day and the vet said he was around a pound under weight. When you put all the pieces together it doesn't look like he has had a very good 11 mths does it. Quote:
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I forgot to add , this is a pic of them right now together as I write this. |
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:) oh my gosh julie , you are lucky , they are very , very , cute :) love jill n poppy xx :aimeeyork |
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