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Lioncross4 02-08-2010 09:49 PM

Breathe..............deeply...............and then, follow your head. Many guilt messages can get in the middle of it all, but, when your heart is quiet...what is your head telling you?

If it's time to re-home, do it well. Find a good home, with the resources and the right situation and then send him off with a light heart. Don't look back or waste time in guilt. Just choose to go forward and make great decisions with your dog, kids and life.

I'm a long time home school mom. Just sent my first off to college-schooled all the way through. If you need encouragement on that front,just PM me. My godson is aspergic and he lived with us while I homeschooled him for 3 years. Schooling a child with aspergers is a day by day walk. Make the most of every day, and at the end, let it go and begin anew the next day. It's a beautiful and difficult journey.

HUGE (((((hugs))))))

DvlshAngel985 02-08-2010 09:57 PM

I'm sorry that you are feeling so pressured. I know you are thinking of re-homing one, but maybe you should re-home both? You already have a plate full with kids, school, and work. Adding two active puppies that want nothing more than to play would put me over the edge too. Instead of just emptying your house of all dogs, you just let these babies go to a better suited home, and you can adopt an older dog. I adopted Kaji at 1 year old and he is an absolute blessing. The benefits of an older dog is they are through that puppy stage, the teething is older, they are calmer (some anyway), and they are sometimes easier to train. Of course that depends on who you get them from. At a year old, my boy was potty trained (outside only) from day 1, he learned to control his obsessive habits in 3 weeks, learned to not mark inside in 1 week (after his neuter), and overall is my calm little lap dog that still plays like a puppy when it's playtime. It really does depend on their personality, and the dedication the breeder or rescue has invested in the pup. At an older age, most of these things are already evident and a dog to fit your lifestyle is easier to find.

It's just a suggestion. You don't have to do it, just thought you might be able to find a better fit for your family that way? I really just wanted to give you another option so you still have the joy of having a pup in your home, and have one that is right for your home.

DvlshAngel985 02-08-2010 10:03 PM

*disclaimer* Just thought I would add that no dog will ever be issue free. Some are barkers, some are stubborn as heck, and others are afraid of their own shadow. Kaji is afraid of everything and anything. BUT, that was something I knew I could handle, and we're working on it.

pancakepat 02-08-2010 10:32 PM

This is a good example why shelters/rescues screen all applicants. At least these little babys were saved from pet store/puppy mills. Now if you can only do right by these yorkies & see to it they get a better forever home. I"m praying you DO.

JeanieK 02-09-2010 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by ellabee (Post 2994989)
what would the difference be between separating siblings at 15 weeks, and separating them at 12 weeks (which is when breeders let them go)? wouldn't they cry for their siblings in either situation? and then adjust eventually?

good luck in your decision, please follow your instincts and your heart. i believe that the information on here is so valuable, but i also know at the end of the day the decisions I make (even though they are much more informed!) are still mine alone to make.

just in terms of your feeling bad about separating these guys, I am about to get a puppy from a breeder and I know I am separating him or her from the sibling group and their momma, but I also know that in the long run thats okay to do.

well it is just my feeling that because they were separated from thier mother so young and perobably had little to NO human contact, that they probably bonded more closely than puppies from a reputable breeder who have been socilized and not traumatized by being separated frolm their mother too soon.

Just my feelings on it.

also, the constant rough housing, they are puppies, puppies do that. They will outgrow it. But since they have each othjer to play with and wear themselves out, and she has a special needs child, having two puppies to keep each other company might be better in the long run. The rough housing is nothing compared to listening to a puppy whine for hours on end.

Just separating them for short periods to play is in no way comparable to what they would feel when the other is totally gone.

Those are just my thoughts.

I would not advertise on kijiji either. You could post them on here. Perhaps rehome them both and get an adult rescue, might be a better choice.

JeanieK 02-09-2010 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985 (Post 2995102)
*disclaimer* Just thought I would add that no dog will ever be issue free. Some are barkers, some are stubborn as heck, and others are afraid of their own shadow. Kaji is afraid of everything and anything. BUT, that was something I knew I could handle, and we're working on it.

My dogs don't have issues. A well bred well socialized dog should not have issues. They develop issues when they are not properly socialized and when people try to humanize them instead of letting them be dogs first.

But all puppies will be puppies. they will whine, they will chew they will rough house they will potty on the floor. You don't expect a kid to behave like an adult, well the same goes for puppies.

It sounds to me like the puppies are doing well with the pee pads, it is just the rough housing that is disruptive. But if she gets rid of one, it is my opinion that she will be trading one problem for another.

JeanieK 02-09-2010 07:01 AM

QUOTE=Nancy1999;2994837]I'm so sorry you are having problems, this is just one of the reasons I'm against dogs being sold in pet store. Pet stores as well as breeders who sell for profit, aren't interested in placing a dog in a home where he fits, they are only interested in selling a dog. A good breeder probably would have refused to sell you a Yorkie, because of the ages of your children. I have had lots of different dogs, and experience in training, and I can tell you that Yorkies are much more difficult to train than other breeds. They also don't seem as eager to please as other breeds, and this can present a challenge to people with limited training skills. The yorkie is a smart dog, and stubborn as well, and I think they are best suited in homes, with a calm stable environment. There are so many breeds that are great with children, and they are docile and calm, yet eager to please. I'm not sure rehoming just one will solve the problem either. Good luck with your decision, but I hope in the rehoming you don't present the dog as easy to train and great with children. You have a responsibility to find him a permanent home, even if you have to lose money. At 4 months old, you have no idea what he'll be like with children. Joey liked kids at 4 months, but he hates them now. :rolleyes: Didn't the pet store have any type of guarantee? A good breeder would have taken the dog back, for any reason. Please don't take this as me judging you or thinking you are a bad person, but it sounds like you have so much going on in your life right now, the yorkie is perfect for a person who wants more going on in their lives, like the empty nester[/quote]

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megansmomma 02-09-2010 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by DvlshAngel985 (Post 2995102)
*disclaimer* Just thought I would add that no dog will ever be issue free. Some are barkers, some are stubborn as heck, and others are afraid of their own shadow. Kaji is afraid of everything and anything. BUT, that was something I knew I could handle, and we're working on it.

You are a wonderful mom to Kaji. I commend you for opening your heart and home to a rescue. Him making progress~he is a work in progress :)

DvlshAngel985 02-09-2010 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by JeanieK (Post 2995345)
My dogs don't have issues. A well bred well socialized dog should not have issues. They develop issues when they are not properly socialized and when people try to humanize them instead of letting them be dogs first.

I guess the word issue was too strong of a word, and I didn't mean that all dogs are problematic, so I'm sorry if my words offended you. However, there is still work that needs to be done even with dogs from impeccable breeders. I'm not trying to say that dogs from breeders will have the same extreme issues as SOME of the rescue babies out there, but training is still important, and their personalities can be a challenge sometimes. If their fearful, that limits what kind of outdoor activities you can do. If their pushy, they might test you all the time, and so on and so on.... So maybe not issues, but dogs are work. Well behaved show dogs are not born that way, a lot of work goes into teaching them how to behave. That was the point I was trying to make.

DvlshAngel985 02-09-2010 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by megansmomma (Post 2995370)
You are a wonderful mom to Kaji. I commend you for opening your heart and home to a rescue. Him making progress~he is a work in progress :)

Thank you so much. But he's not a rescue like some of your babies are. He was just older but he did come from a breeder. I did learn a lot from your posts though. I had him neutered the first week he came home. I definitely did not want to contribute to shelter babies, not even by accident.

greenlove 02-09-2010 12:56 PM

Thanks everyone. After a very long talk with my husband (and a lot of tears), we decided to rehome both of our puppies. I am going to try to find someone who will keep them together. I don't want to see them go but I know I am not able to give them attention they deserve between my hectic life. I do want to have a yorkie, but I think it is best to wait until my kids are out of the house so I can focus on the yorkie. Thanks again and hopefully I find a good home for them both.

yorkieusa 02-09-2010 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by greenlove (Post 2995840)
Thanks everyone. After a very long talk with my husband (and a lot of tears), we decided to rehome both of our puppies. I am going to try to find someone who will keep them together. I don't want to see them go but I know I am not able to give them attention they deserve between my hectic life. I do want to have a yorkie, but I think it is best to wait until my kids are out of the house so I can focus on the yorkie. Thanks again and hopefully I find a good home for them both.

Your decision is a good one, I think. Your unselfishness shows because of the decision you made. I just hope and pray you are very, very selective where you place them - in a great home with all of the advantages and time for them that they deserve. Good luck.:)

Ladymom 02-09-2010 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by greenlove (Post 2995840)
Thanks everyone. After a very long talk with my husband (and a lot of tears), we decided to rehome both of our puppies. I am going to try to find someone who will keep them together. I don't want to see them go but I know I am not able to give them attention they deserve between my hectic life. I do want to have a yorkie, but I think it is best to wait until my kids are out of the house so I can focus on the yorkie. Thanks again and hopefully I find a good home for them both.

I congratulate you for making such a difficult decision based on what is best for the puppies. When the time is right, you will find a wonderful Yorkie to add to your family.

twalla 02-09-2010 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by greenlove (Post 2995840)
Thanks everyone. After a very long talk with my husband (and a lot of tears), we decided to rehome both of our puppies. I am going to try to find someone who will keep them together. I don't want to see them go but I know I am not able to give them attention they deserve between my hectic life. I do want to have a yorkie, but I think it is best to wait until my kids are out of the house so I can focus on the yorkie. Thanks again and hopefully I find a good home for them both.

If you need some help please let me know. I have a friend on here that lives in Spokane. I can ask if she knows of anyone.

YorkieMom6 02-09-2010 06:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lioncross4 (Post 2995090)
Breathe..............deeply...............and then, follow your head. Many guilt messages can get in the middle of it all, but, when your heart is quiet...what is your head telling you?

If it's time to re-home, do it well. Find a good home, with the resources and the right situation and then send him off with a light heart. Don't look back or waste time in guilt. Just choose to go forward and make great decisions with your dog, kids and life.

I'm a long time home school mom. Just sent my first off to college-schooled all the way through. If you need encouragement on that front,just PM me. My godson is aspergic and he lived with us while I homeschooled him for 3 years. Schooling a child with aspergers is a day by day walk. Make the most of every day, and at the end, let it go and begin anew the next day. It's a beautiful and difficult journey.

HUGE (((((hugs))))))

What wonderful advice and what a kind and gentle heart you have. Huggs to you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by greenlove (Post 2995840)
Thanks everyone. After a very long talk with my husband (and a lot of tears), we decided to rehome both of our puppies. I am going to try to find someone who will keep them together. I don't want to see them go but I know I am not able to give them attention they deserve between my hectic life. I do want to have a yorkie, but I think it is best to wait until my kids are out of the house so I can focus on the yorkie. Thanks again and hopefully I find a good home for them both.

What a difficult decision for you all, but I am confident that you are doing what is best for all concerned. I am very proud of you and I pray god will continue to guide you and provide comfort during this process. I will hold your little furbabies and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers.

Huggs


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