What If : Why would you do?
 

What If: You're Dying

Have you ever stopped and thought about what you would do if you knew you were dying and had little babies at home?
Take for instance: Say they are 5 years old, never been away from you and only had you to rely on since they were born. You're with them 24/7 and they have been treated exceptionally well. Too the point your own children would comment. You love them more than us and they come first.
Say, the children weren't able to take them because of their own family situations.
They won't let me out of their sight even when company arrives.
It's suprising how smart they become and know your feelings when things just might not be going too well.
When you can say to one of them, where's you sister and she goes and finds her and then comes back to get you. She leads you into the bedroom and shows me where's she at. They both do it. They would be lost without each other.
Say, they had their own care giver when needed but he's unable to take care of them in case something happened.

How would you respond or feel, if you friends keep telling you, if something were to happen to you, they would be lost. THIS WOULD WORRY ANYONE.

Just looking for comments: How would you handle this situtation, if it were you?

A very hard situation.... hypothetically or not.....

I suppose I would have to try and be strong for the kids sake and search for an adoptive family the best I could. One in which they would be loved and could stay together. Maybe even have them come and spend time with us all now. Like an advance rescue/adoption but not giving up rights beforehand.

So hard... I suspect 10 fold more difficult being in the situation versus on the outside looking in.

I pray this is not a situation you personally are dealing with or anyone you know. If it is, my heart weeps for you/them.


(((huggs)))

My parents or my sister would get Edie. We have already discussed it. I know Edie would miss me, but she would adjust in a loving home.

We have discussed this. If something happens to only me, hubby will continue to care for the girls. Lord forbid something happen to us both, my mom and dad have agreed to take them in.

I have instructed my family that they are to contact a certain friend who will find the best home for them hopefully with a YT member, if my family couldn't take them.

My daughter would take my pup if anything were to happen to me. Her busy lifestyle would not be suited to a small dog, but she has promised to make sure my Daisy would be placed in a good home with maybe an older person who stayed home all the time and would keep her spoiled!

Oh, wow. Hard to think about. Jackson is very attached to me, but he also loves loves loves my entire direct family (mother, stepdad, sister) and my dad, stepmom, brother and their 2 dogs. They know how much I love my dog and he is a part of our family. They would never let anyone else take him. My aunt would also be a prime candidate if for some odd reason my parents didn't work... she's a huge dog lover and treats her own dogs like her kids.

Wow...this is VERY difficult for me to even think about...My husband would care for our boys, and he would do it very well. If my husband were taken along with me, my babies would probably go to my parents or one of my sisters in law...but I hope and pray I never have to put my furbutts into that position.

My wife and I have put a clause in our wills that my sister will take care of our pets and she will get a very large sum of money to take care of them.

we've discussed this in the past about our cats (they are gone now) and I made hubby promise to me that he would care for them no matter what. The same for the dogs. I guess we need to figure out how to handle it if we both were to be gone.

This is something I have thought about more than once.
Hopefully my sister and brother in law would take him. He loves
going there if not my daughter knows to go on YT under my user
name and ask for a new home for him. Only a YT member would
be acceptable, hopefully someone who already knows his
devilness ways and accepts them. He' such a good boy:p

I have 3 children ages 18, 16, and 14. I also have my 2 yorkies and a cat. I have thought often about what I wanted in the event I passed. Both of my parents are deceased and I am divorced from the children's father and remarried. My current husband is great, but I would not leave my children in his care in the event of my death for various reasons. Not that he is bad in any way, but I want a woman to raise my daughters. (long story)

I choose to carry very large life insurance policies and have a will even though I'm only 39 years old. My will also provides for my dogs and cat. My 18 year old daughter will be given a very large sum to care for the dogs and cat, including providing a home that will allow the pets to live with her. (She starts college this summer and will be majoring in pharmacy.) She is extremely responsible and takes care of our pets as well or better than me. LOL

In the event that she is unable to care for them, there is a provision for the pets and money to go to my sister in law.

No one wants to think about death, but after my son was diagnosed with cancer at age 13 I got a big wake up call. I also lost my father and brother to the same type of tumor that my son was diagnosed with.

We are not guaranteed tommorrow. We would not leave our children to whoever wanted them, so why not provide plans for your furchildren also.

I pray that you are not going through this personally and it is just something that you are considering. You have friends here if you need to talk.

I often tell my mom if anything should happen to me, she has to take lexi.
she just tells me to shut up!!! and that she doesnt want to talk about that.
but i know she would take her of course, shes a part of me and she would love her.. my b/f just told me the other day that lexi would die without me.
He also said he wants her, but hes not getting her..

Wow.... this never even crossed my mind. Kaji and I have only had the pleasure of being a family for four months. Now is as good as ever to start thinking about this. As the last poster said, we're not guaranteed a tomorrow. Thank you OP for bringing up an important issue I had not considered yet.