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Maybe I'm too polite? Ugh I hate when this happens and I know it has been written about a lot lately. I was in our chiropractors office in the Soo. I brought Layla in the waiting room like I always do and this women comes in and sees Layla. We talk about dogs and how she had one that she just had to put down- and she is kinda emotional or maybe just a bit off... anyways... all is well until she takes layla out of my arms told hold her.... and I'm just dumbfounded because this has NEVER happened to me... I did not want her to do this and had she asked if she could hold Layla I would have said no because she gets upset (lie- i just don't like strangers holding her) So- what should I have done once she took her out of my arms? i mean i think it was like a comfort for her lost dog to hold Layla- I don't know... I was very uncomfortable and just didn't know the polite thing to say. i don't want to be rude in my response but I do want my dog back.... |
I would hate it if someone did that to me with Scooter. While it may be comforting to the lady to see another dog, she should have asked you first. This may sound mean but I think it is important to be upfront. It is your dog and if you don't want others to hold your dog (or take them from your arms), just tell them you aren't comfortable with that. They should respect that. Let them pet your baby in your arms all they want but just tell them they can't hold your baby. Be strong and straightforward. They may not like it but you are telling the truth so they can't hold that against you. |
This is a hard one, obviously that lady wasn't thinking at all... because what she did was rude. I don't know what I would have said:confused: I have had people pick mine up from the ground (which drives me crazy) I held my arms out while we were still talking and they usually just hand them back with out thinking or having to say anything it is like they are just reacting to my gesture to hand them back. I don't know if it makes sense how I explained it but basically they do not hold them for more than a second and get the point that I would like to hold my own dog but go ahead and ask me whatever you want about them. I find that being rude back doesn't really make me feel any better. |
If I don't want someone holding my pup I tell them... You can say they wiggle a lot, or she isn't feeling well today or just say you don't feel comfortable. Usually when someone goes to take a pup out of my hands, I back up and they get the hint. |
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Well we never ever let anyone pick ours up :eek: and I will tell you why. We have friend who HAD a yorkie and her son came(16yr.old) home from school, picked up the puppy as he always had and the pup wiggled right out of his hands and fell, hit his little head on the hardwood floor and died instantly:( So I tell everyone who want to pick mine up that we don't really want them to because they are very small and tend to be very wiggily. I would rather be safe than sorry. |
i've never had anyone try and take morgan from me without asking. I almost always have her in her carrier and no one ever tries to take her out of there. i don't know what i would have done in your situation. i probably would have felt bad for the lady and let her hold her. its weird that she just took her from you but maybe she just didn't realize what she was doing because she was sad thinking about her lost pet? |
It's too bad people are rude like this! Bailey would sqirm away from strangers and NOT let anyone take him away from me. He won't even let people he knows take him away from me. He's such a momma's boy! |
I agree that the best thing to do is back away and wrap your arms around Layla more securely. Body language like that is pretty obvious. |
This has happened to me twice. The first time I panicked, gasped, and said "Omg, you're holding my dog! I don't let anyone hold my dog", and I grabbed her back. An extreme reaction, I know...but I kinda freaked out. :p The second time, the person had only *just* started to pick Missy up and I said, "Please don't pick up my dog!". She set her right back down. I've learned first hand how easily these little dogs are broken. *I* broke Missy's leg by letting her pounce off of my hand 4 inches off of the floor. Plus (and this is the excuse that I give people who ask why they can't hold her), I don't allow my 3 children to hold her unless they are sitting down and she is in their lap, so I don't feel it's fair to them if other people get to hold Missy. And they are wiggly! Missy doesn't like being held by most other people. She will constantly be looking at me like, "Ok Mom, you're going to grab me now, right?". She's kind of a snob ;) |
I've had people ask all the time can they hold him. I just tell them no because he doesn't do well with strangers. I've never had anyone to abruptly take him out of my arms. They almost always pet him without asking though. She would have understood if you told her you are not comfortable with anyone holding your furbaby. |
This has happened to me twice. The first time I panicked, gasped, and said "Omg, you're holding my dog! I don't let anyone hold my dog", and I grabbed her back. An extreme reaction, I know...but I kinda freaked out. :p Perfect Response lol!!! Let them think you're the one who can't handle them holding your dog, so they won't get offended...And who cares anyway, it's our babies and we make the rules for them; we don't make the rules for the rude people, they make them for themselves.... |
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I would just tell her she doesnt like to be held by people that she doesnt know. I think that response is true without being rude. Im sure it meant alot to her to hold Layla and she did not think it through |
I probably would have said she gets nervous and might pee on you. I don't want that to happen to you, and I would have taken her back. |
No, you're not too polite, you just have a good heart. You had a difficult situation. If it was just anyone, it would be easier to tell her no, you don't let people hold her and take her back immediately. But you had sympathy for the woman because she told you she had lost hers. So, you let her get by with what really was rude and presumptuous behavior. It was a no win situation once she just took Layla from your arms. I never understand people doing that. I always ask even to pet someone else's dog, unless they have let them come right up in my face, or jump on me as many a large dog has. Then I might pet them as I am trying to tactfully get them off me. But to come up to someone holding their dog and just pet them seems too familiar for a stranger. I really hated it when strangers would come put their hands on my human babies too. Absolute strangers would just come tickle their cheeks, hold their hands, a couple of times even plant kisses on them! I really did not like that. |
Thanks guys. I think I'm going to hold tighter from now on. Layla LOOOVVEEESSS people so she gets all excited and her ears go up and down- so maybe people think this is an invitation? I'm used to no one asking to pet her (although- to my surprise- the people who ask MOST often- are children- at least soemone is teaching them right!). In the future i'll go with- she is not comfortable with strangers holding her. I mean- no one goes to pick up a german shepherd- why should they assume they can pick up Layla? And she DOES become a squiggly worm when she is excited which is just a recipe for disaster if someone is not used to holding her. I am definitely going to be more prepared next time. |
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