Originally Posted by TOY (Post 2729008)

To the OP,

I think I am probably much older than many of those responding to you in this thread and may have a much different perspective for you.

We haven't had our Yorkie all that long. She's 7 months old today so we've had her 4 months. Frankly, it seems like only yesterday that we got her and yet at the same time, I can't remember what our house was like without her. She has brought laughter and joy with her very presence and has brightened our very "retired" lives with her antics.

I don't even intend to give advice about puppies since I probably don't know more than about 4 months more than you (LOL) although like you, I read lots of books and lots of posts before we brought our girl home.

What has alarmed me in the thread (in addition to the comments that border on insensitive and rude) has been the advice concerning your parents. My parents would have been opposed to my bringing an "inside" dog to their home, too. Notice the past tense.

What would I have done? I don't have to pause or think this through even though I love our puppy immensely. I would honor my parents' wishes. Even though I was reared (raised, really) in that home and it was the location of my childhood, when I left as an adult, I did not assume that I was a voting member of that household any longer.

I know that I will not be able to express this with the intensity that my heart feels, but I would give anything to have the opportunity to make arrangements for Taffy so that I could go visit my parents. They are both deceased and I still miss them with a raw grief that no puppy can entirely heal. Part of our reason for getting our Yorkie was to help heal the grief of losing my very last family member.

I know it's a moot point right now since your puppy needs shots, etc. but I would encourage you to find a kennel you like or a pet-loving friend or relative that you trust to keep your puppy if your parents do not change their outlook over time. I cannot imagine anything sadder than to think that a child's bond with a parent was damaged because of a pet regardless of how beloved that pet is.

Our parents sacrificed so much for us. I think it is such a small repayment for us to honor and respect them. In the natural scheme of things, there will come a time when we no longer have those parents' presences in our lives. The depth of that loss is great enough without regret that we lost precious time with them because we couldn't bring an animal to stay within their home.

I love our puppy so much and hope that you will find as much joy in yours as we have found in ours. I only wish I had the opportunity to demonstrate to my parents once again how very much I love them.

I would encourage you to remember that there are many people in the world (relatives included) who view our Yorkies as the animals they are. This does not make them less human or hateful people, it only makes them people with different opinions. (I don't think it takes a Yorkie owner very long to forget the basic biological fact that a Yorkie is an animal. I think you'll understand after a couple of days with yours...LOL)

My parents were both smokers yet never smoked in my home because they respected my smoke-free house. Respect is a mutual thing but I learned it from my parents. I've never believed that respect and manners were dependent upon age nor just a Southern way of life. I just hope it's a value that continues into the next generations. With all the attention given to the natural resources we leave the generations to come, I hope we don't fail to consider the human resources they also need to treasure.

I want to believe that our love for our Yorkie, Taffy, enriches and expands our lives instead of shrinking and diminishing our relationships with people. There is no way I can become a "love me, love my Yorkie" person because it would make me such a hypocrite. You see, I have dear friends with cats and were I to have to love their cats to be their friend, I would fail miserably!

Originally Posted by TOY (Post 2729008)

To the OP,

I think I am probably much older than many of those responding to you in this thread and may have a much different perspective for you.

We haven't had our Yorkie all that long. She's 7 months old today so we've had her 4 months. Frankly, it seems like only yesterday that we got her and yet at the same time, I can't remember what our house was like without her. She has brought laughter and joy with her very presence and has brightened our very "retired" lives with her antics.

I don't even intend to give advice about puppies since I probably don't know more than about 4 months more than you (LOL) although like you, I read lots of books and lots of posts before we brought our girl home.

What has alarmed me in the thread (in addition to the comments that border on insensitive and rude) has been the advice concerning your parents. My parents would have been opposed to my bringing an "inside" dog to their home, too. Notice the past tense.

What would I have done? I don't have to pause or think this through even though I love our puppy immensely. I would honor my parents' wishes. Even though I was reared (raised, really) in that home and it was the location of my childhood, when I left as an adult, I did not assume that I was a voting member of that household any longer.

I know that I will not be able to express this with the intensity that my heart feels, but I would give anything to have the opportunity to make arrangements for Taffy so that I could go visit my parents. They are both deceased and I still miss them with a raw grief that no puppy can entirely heal. Part of our reason for getting our Yorkie was to help heal the grief of losing my very last family member.

I know it's a moot point right now since your puppy needs shots, etc. but I would encourage you to find a kennel you like or a pet-loving friend or relative that you trust to keep your puppy if your parents do not change their outlook over time. I cannot imagine anything sadder than to think that a child's bond with a parent was damaged because of a pet regardless of how beloved that pet is.

Our parents sacrificed so much for us. I think it is such a small repayment for us to honor and respect them. In the natural scheme of things, there will come a time when we no longer have those parents' presences in our lives. The depth of that loss is great enough without regret that we lost precious time with them because we couldn't bring an animal to stay within their home.

I love our puppy so much and hope that you will find as much joy in yours as we have found in ours. I only wish I had the opportunity to demonstrate to my parents once again how very much I love them.

I would encourage you to remember that there are many people in the world (relatives included) who view our Yorkies as the animals they are. This does not make them less human or hateful people, it only makes them people with different opinions. (I don't think it takes a Yorkie owner very long to forget the basic biological fact that a Yorkie is an animal. I think you'll understand after a couple of days with yours...LOL)

My parents were both smokers yet never smoked in my home because they respected my smoke-free house. Respect is a mutual thing but I learned it from my parents. I've never believed that respect and manners were dependent upon age nor just a Southern way of life. I just hope it's a value that continues into the next generations. With all the attention given to the natural resources we leave the generations to come, I hope we don't fail to consider the human resources they also need to treasure.

I want to believe that our love for our Yorkie, Taffy, enriches and expands our lives instead of shrinking and diminishing our relationships with people. There is no way I can become a "love me, love my Yorkie" person because it would make me such a hypocrite. You see, I have dear friends with cats and were I to have to love their cats to be their friend, I would fail miserably!

Originally Posted by MaddiesMommie (Post 2729077)

I have been following this thread and find it hard to believe all the turns it has taken. I just wanted to say to TOY, you seem like a very nice person and your post, I felt, was wonderful. Although I don't like being reminded Maddie is a D-O-G. :p

Originally Posted by Britster (Post 2729140)

TOY, beautifully written.

To the OP... I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed by peoples responses. I think sometimes people on this site forget that newbies come to YT not really knowing much of anything and come here to LEARN, not to be bashed. It's difficult when you're on a forum full of mostly females to not get differentiating opinions which can sometimes be harsh and uncalled for.

I just wanted to personally say... Congrats on the pup and welcome to the world of Yorkies!!!

Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom (Post 2728922)

My thoughts exactly. Kind of like the kettle calling the pot black!!!!!!!!

Originally Posted by RachelandSadie (Post 2728888)

i actually didn't see the bottom part where you addressed me for some reason...hmmm...

that sounded a lot less negative when i did see it though,

i try pretty hard not to argue, but i've been relentlessly attacked over my own personal choices and decisions regarding my puppie so i guess i'm getting a little over reactive about it.

i'm just trying to be nice to everyone and respect them, and i wish they'd do the same for me. and yea we're not going up to see my parents even if they did let Sadie come in the house, it's too soon, but i still need the advice about how to get him to love her in the future..he's even said that he thinks dogs shouldn't wear sweaters because it takes away their ability to adapt to the cold, i tried to explain about them not growing the undercoat, but he wanted to argue with me so my mom whispered "drop-it" and i did...must be where i get it huhh?? ;) j/k i really don't like to argue, i just have to defend myself a lot in life, dad and now YT, it's tiring, think i'll go make some food for Sadie with my auntie and see Bailey

Originally Posted by TOY (Post 2729008)

To the OP,

I think I am probably much older than many of those responding to you in this thread and may have a much different perspective for you.

We haven't had our Yorkie all that long. She's 7 months old today so we've had her 4 months. Frankly, it seems like only yesterday that we got her and yet at the same time, I can't remember what our house was like without her. She has brought laughter and joy with her very presence and has brightened our very "retired" lives with her antics.

I don't even intend to give advice about puppies since I probably don't know more than about 4 months more than you (LOL) although like you, I read lots of books and lots of posts before we brought our girl home.

What has alarmed me in the thread (in addition to the comments that border on insensitive and rude) has been the advice concerning your parents. My parents would have been opposed to my bringing an "inside" dog to their home, too. Notice the past tense.

What would I have done? I don't have to pause or think this through even though I love our puppy immensely. I would honor my parents' wishes. Even though I was reared (raised, really) in that home and it was the location of my childhood, when I left as an adult, I did not assume that I was a voting member of that household any longer.

I know that I will not be able to express this with the intensity that my heart feels, but I would give anything to have the opportunity to make arrangements for Taffy so that I could go visit my parents. They are both deceased and I still miss them with a raw grief that no puppy can entirely heal. Part of our reason for getting our Yorkie was to help heal the grief of losing my very last family member.

I know it's a moot point right now since your puppy needs shots, etc. but I would encourage you to find a kennel you like or a pet-loving friend or relative that you trust to keep your puppy if your parents do not change their outlook over time. I cannot imagine anything sadder than to think that a child's bond with a parent was damaged because of a pet regardless of how beloved that pet is.

Our parents sacrificed so much for us. I think it is such a small repayment for us to honor and respect them. In the natural scheme of things, there will come a time when we no longer have those parents' presences in our lives. The depth of that loss is great enough without regret that we lost precious time with them because we couldn't bring an animal to stay within their home.

I love our puppy so much and hope that you will find as much joy in yours as we have found in ours. I only wish I had the opportunity to demonstrate to my parents once again how very much I love them.

I would encourage you to remember that there are many people in the world (relatives included) who view our Yorkies as the animals they are. This does not make them less human or hateful people, it only makes them people with different opinions. (I don't think it takes a Yorkie owner very long to forget the basic biological fact that a Yorkie is an animal. I think you'll understand after a couple of days with yours...LOL)

My parents were both smokers yet never smoked in my home because they respected my smoke-free house. Respect is a mutual thing but I learned it from my parents. I've never believed that respect and manners were dependent upon age nor just a Southern way of life. I just hope it's a value that continues into the next generations. With all the attention given to the natural resources we leave the generations to come, I hope we don't fail to consider the human resources they also need to treasure.

I want to believe that our love for our Yorkie, Taffy, enriches and expands our lives instead of shrinking and diminishing our relationships with people. There is no way I can become a "love me, love my Yorkie" person because it would make me such a hypocrite. You see, I have dear friends with cats and were I to have to love their cats to be their friend, I would fail miserably!

Originally Posted by TOY (Post 2729008)

To the OP,

I think I am probably much older than many of those responding to you in this thread and may have a much different perspective for you.

We haven't had our Yorkie all that long. She's 7 months old today so we've had her 4 months. Frankly, it seems like only yesterday that we got her and yet at the same time, I can't remember what our house was like without her. She has brought laughter and joy with her very presence and has brightened our very "retired" lives with her antics.

I don't even intend to give advice about puppies since I probably don't know more than about 4 months more than you (LOL) although like you, I read lots of books and lots of posts before we brought our girl home.

What has alarmed me in the thread (in addition to the comments that border on insensitive and rude) has been the advice concerning your parents. My parents would have been opposed to my bringing an "inside" dog to their home, too. Notice the past tense.

What would I have done? I don't have to pause or think this through even though I love our puppy immensely. I would honor my parents' wishes. Even though I was reared (raised, really) in that home and it was the location of my childhood, when I left as an adult, I did not assume that I was a voting member of that household any longer.

I know that I will not be able to express this with the intensity that my heart feels, but I would give anything to have the opportunity to make arrangements for Taffy so that I could go visit my parents. They are both deceased and I still miss them with a raw grief that no puppy can entirely heal. Part of our reason for getting our Yorkie was to help heal the grief of losing my very last family member.

I know it's a moot point right now since your puppy needs shots, etc. but I would encourage you to find a kennel you like or a pet-loving friend or relative that you trust to keep your puppy if your parents do not change their outlook over time. I cannot imagine anything sadder than to think that a child's bond with a parent was damaged because of a pet regardless of how beloved that pet is.

Our parents sacrificed so much for us. I think it is such a small repayment for us to honor and respect them. In the natural scheme of things, there will come a time when we no longer have those parents' presences in our lives. The depth of that loss is great enough without regret that we lost precious time with them because we couldn't bring an animal to stay within their home.

I love our puppy so much and hope that you will find as much joy in yours as we have found in ours. I only wish I had the opportunity to demonstrate to my parents once again how very much I love them.

I would encourage you to remember that there are many people in the world (relatives included) who view our Yorkies as the animals they are. This does not make them less human or hateful people, it only makes them people with different opinions. (I don't think it takes a Yorkie owner very long to forget the basic biological fact that a Yorkie is an animal. I think you'll understand after a couple of days with yours...LOL)

My parents were both smokers yet never smoked in my home because they respected my smoke-free house. Respect is a mutual thing but I learned it from my parents. I've never believed that respect and manners were dependent upon age nor just a Southern way of life. I just hope it's a value that continues into the next generations. With all the attention given to the natural resources we leave the generations to come, I hope we don't fail to consider the human resources they also need to treasure.

I want to believe that our love for our Yorkie, Taffy, enriches and expands our lives instead of shrinking and diminishing our relationships with people. There is no way I can become a "love me, love my Yorkie" person because it would make me such a hypocrite. You see, I have dear friends with cats and were I to have to love their cats to be their friend, I would fail miserably!

Originally Posted by TOY (Post 2729008)

To the OP,

I think I am probably much older than many of those responding to you in this thread and may have a much different perspective for you.

We haven't had our Yorkie all that long. She's 7 months old today so we've had her 4 months. Frankly, it seems like only yesterday that we got her and yet at the same time, I can't remember what our house was like without her. She has brought laughter and joy with her very presence and has brightened our very "retired" lives with her antics.

I don't even intend to give advice about puppies since I probably don't know more than about 4 months more than you (LOL) although like you, I read lots of books and lots of posts before we brought our girl home.

What has alarmed me in the thread (in addition to the comments that border on insensitive and rude) has been the advice concerning your parents. My parents would have been opposed to my bringing an "inside" dog to their home, too. Notice the past tense.

What would I have done? I don't have to pause or think this through even though I love our puppy immensely. I would honor my parents' wishes. Even though I was reared (raised, really) in that home and it was the location of my childhood, when I left as an adult, I did not assume that I was a voting member of that household any longer.

I know that I will not be able to express this with the intensity that my heart feels, but I would give anything to have the opportunity to make arrangements for Taffy so that I could go visit my parents. They are both deceased and I still miss them with a raw grief that no puppy can entirely heal. Part of our reason for getting our Yorkie was to help heal the grief of losing my very last family member.

I know it's a moot point right now since your puppy needs shots, etc. but I would encourage you to find a kennel you like or a pet-loving friend or relative that you trust to keep your puppy if your parents do not change their outlook over time. I cannot imagine anything sadder than to think that a child's bond with a parent was damaged because of a pet regardless of how beloved that pet is.

Our parents sacrificed so much for us. I think it is such a small repayment for us to honor and respect them. In the natural scheme of things, there will come a time when we no longer have those parents' presences in our lives. The depth of that loss is great enough without regret that we lost precious time with them because we couldn't bring an animal to stay within their home.

I love our puppy so much and hope that you will find as much joy in yours as we have found in ours. I only wish I had the opportunity to demonstrate to my parents once again how very much I love them.

I would encourage you to remember that there are many people in the world (relatives included) who view our Yorkies as the animals they are. This does not make them less human or hateful people, it only makes them people with different opinions. (I don't think it takes a Yorkie owner very long to forget the basic biological fact that a Yorkie is an animal. I think you'll understand after a couple of days with yours...LOL)

My parents were both smokers yet never smoked in my home because they respected my smoke-free house. Respect is a mutual thing but I learned it from my parents. I've never believed that respect and manners were dependent upon age nor just a Southern way of life. I just hope it's a value that continues into the next generations. With all the attention given to the natural resources we leave the generations to come, I hope we don't fail to consider the human resources they also need to treasure.

I want to believe that our love for our Yorkie, Taffy, enriches and expands our lives instead of shrinking and diminishing our relationships with people. There is no way I can become a "love me, love my Yorkie" person because it would make me such a hypocrite. You see, I have dear friends with cats and were I to have to love their cats to be their friend, I would fail miserably!

Originally Posted by Ladymom (Post 2729047)

Unfortunately, Missouri puppy mills are a very profitable industry and legislators don't enact laws to restrict it. Even existing laws aren't enforced as as the facilities are not being inspected regularly as required by law. That's why the state has earned the shameful nickname of The Puppy Mill Capital of the United States. :thumbdown

Puppy Mills - Missouri State Auditor reports