When your yorkie is dying How do you deal with the rude remark "oh, you can just get another one" I'm getting tired of hearing this! Plus it makes me cry. |
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. What is your yorkie's name? People say a lot of stupid things when you are faced with loss. If you had lost your husband or child, they would say "you'll meet someone else" or "you can have another one." I think it's usually a misguided attempt to make you feel better. Sadly enough, they will experience their own losses and realize how inadequate these words are. |
I agree that they mean well. You really just have to ignore that remark - you know in your own heart just what your Yorkie means to you and that's what really matters. I wish you all the best. ((((Hugs)))) |
I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. It's not easy to lose a loved one, furry or not. Many people fill the void of losing a pet by getting another one, which takes their minds off of the lost one. But for me, if I ever lost Uni I don't think I could ever get another one. Hope you will pull through. Sending hugs. |
He's name is Buddy. He'll be 16 this coming Friday. Two weeks ago I found out that he has a mast cell tumor in his cheek(2nd time). The night before his surgery he had a stroke. But he is doing much better today. He even played ball twice today! |
People don't understand that this is a family member that's been with you for a long time. Some don't treat their pets as family. It's also hard to know what to say to help you cope with the loss. There's really nothing anyone can say to make us feel better, we just go on without. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss my Dad. Just make him feel special, that's all you can do for him. You have friends here that understand and will help you through when the time comes. |
So sorry about your baby. He will never be replaced, but I do agree that sometimes another pup helps ease the pain. However, no one should expect you to be able to do that until YOU are ready & they certainly shouldn't make comments like that. I pray your Buddy's little body would be strengthened and that God will give you peace that passes all understanding. Hang in there! :love: www.healthyhappypets.biz |
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I've heard it in the past too, and all I wanted to do was smack them, but I'd just get up and leave the area. |
Do you want to post some pictures of Buddy, here or in an album? I would love to see him. If you are not up to it, that's okay too. |
I would love to see him too! :) |
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I do not agree, sorry people eeek! I think anyone who says '' u can just get another one'' is so dam rude i think its terrible!! I wud HATE anyone to say that to me and i wud be very upset and angry is someone even made a remark like that, as if my bailey could just be replaced... urm no i dont think so!!! I wud get them told that your dog is like ur baby and after 16 years u can not just replace him and that is it upsetting you that they are even saying that! Sorry if i seem harsh just i think i wud go mad if anyone said to me i could just replace bailey i think its rude and insensitive! Big hugs hun i am sorry about ur little one, enjoy the time u have left and try and rememeber all them wonderful times u spent together ~hugs~ xxx |
I am so sorry your Buddy is sick. I feel sorry for people who think they can be replaced because obviously they have never loved or been loved by a yorkie (or any pet) like we have. Just give Buddy extra hugs and I hope he has more good days ahead. |
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know we will all have too at some point. You have had him for 16 years? How wonderful. I would say you gave him a wonderful life. He is a part of you and you can't replace him. In time you may want to give another pup some of the love you have. If not, you have been a wonderful mommy to him. God Bless you. I pray you have him for awhile longer. I have had my cat for 21 years, so I know the longer you have them, I believe the harder it will be to lose them. Just dwell on the wonderful times you have had together. That's great he was playing with his ball. :) |
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It is extremely painful, if not more, in some circumstances. If I were you, i would tell these people, of yours the truth, let them know how you feel when they tell you that~! 16 years ago I lost a beloved kitty right in front of my eyes. I'll never forget him. The pain has lessened, however, the love i had for Mario I still feel for him lives on to this day. I am very sorry your going through this right now. I am glad your yorkie is feeling better right now, and hanging in there. :) |
I'm so sorry! I know how hard this can be to deal with as I've been through it a few times myself! I do agree with what others have said, people are trying to comfort you and maybe just don't know what to say so something stupid like that comes out of their mouths. Just know that maybe the words are wrong but they care and don't want to see you hurting and if you think of it that way, maybe you can forgive them. But don't be afraid to come here and talk about it as we all understand what you're going thru and you will find the support you need right here! Hugs to you.....:hug: |
I am so sorry for everything that you and your poochie are going through! I think that people just dont understand, it is one of those situations that if you havent went through it no one is going to be able to console you, they just wont have the right words to say. Some poeple dont understand how much theses little guys mean to us. |
I'm sorry that your baby is sick :( My Rat Terrier will be 16 in September and I know that the time is coming that I won't have her around anymore. I've lived more years of my life with her than without her. The only thing that will make me feel better is that I know she had a long VERY spoiled life and was treasured every day. If your baby could talk, I'm sure she would say that to you - that she has had a good long life with a wonderful mommy. |
I'm sorry that people are making such rude comments at what must be such a difficult time for you. |
We are putting our hands and paws together and pray that whatever happens will be the best outcome for you and Buddy... It is hard and we hope that you will soon find some comfort in thinking of the wonderful years you had together... Don't mind people that don't really know what to say in such a situation and just get their foot in their mouth... When I have to deal something like that I only say: "You're absolutely right, dear!" and put my ears on 'pass through' like a friend once told me "you have two ears, one for in and one for out..." Big hug and belly rubs for Buddy... |
I also think that telling you that you can just get another dog is rude and unfeeling. Would you ever tell someone who's child has died that thats ok, you can get another one? No you wouldn't. Some people don't understand how we feel about our pets. I hope you will get to have more time with buddy. |
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers. I'm glad I don't have to go through this alone. I may not know any of you, but you all still a comfort to me. Thank You |
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I think a lot of us have been where you are and know how it is. Yorkie owners are such special people and are there for support. I am so glad I found this site. I will continue to keep Buddy and you in my prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. You can send me a PM if you want. Please take care. Hang in the Buddy. |
I was raised that if your not quite sure what to say it's best to just give a hug, or reach out your hand with a smile or an I'm sorry will due. Sometimes just people knowing your there for them is enough and you don't have to say anything. I pray for you that your little one has much better days. |
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Again, thank you so much. Buddy is doing pretty good. Sleeping more, but hopefully healing. |
I'm so sorry about your Buddy :( All you can do is try to remember that they never had the love of an animal so they don't get it. If you feel mean you could ask them would they say this if a child was sick. |
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