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I had this event tonight called Take Back the Night and it is largely 4 hours which is just a speech and a walk through downtown to protest violence against women. I wanted to bring my baby, but he hasn't had all his shots and I didn't want to risk him getting anything.

I explicitly told my roommate that I would take care of anything when I got home in case he had an accident so leave him in his area in my bedroom. I don't usually ask her to do anything, but sometimes she takes it upon herself...... I am in the process of training my puppy and honestly he is doing well for it to just be the 4th day I have had him and only 1 accident.

Anyway. I come home after just 4 hours maybe 4 and a half. She tells me that she had to spank him and take away his food, because he pooped on the floor and not on the puppy pad. This is AFTER she took him out of his area in my room.

I proceed to tell her that she can't keep food from him since he is a puppy and yorkies don't eat in one sitting anyway so I left his food for him because he only at 2 pieces of kibble when I left at 12pm for class. She just shrugged it off and said that she won't live in filth (while you can smell her cats' litter box from outside our front door:mad:).

I am a little OCD when it comes to cleaning and no one knows we have pets because I am so neurotic about it, so it is not like I wouldn't have cleaned it up when I got home.

She spanked him hard enough to where he was hiding behind our television in the living room and she had no problem with it at all. In her words "it doesn't hurt him. He will just be potty-trained faster"

I had to go on a walk with Hooks because I wanted to kill her. Even if it is okay to spank a dog. He is a puppy and that was his FIRST accident. She didn't have to hit him enough to scare him:(

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SHE TOOK YOUR DOG OUT OF YOUR ROOM ,TOOK AWAY HIS FOOD AND THEN SPANKED HIM?!!!:(:mad::thumbdown:eek:

I would tell her post haste not to ever do that again.
you should never spank a dog and a small dog at that. she could break something or damage his hip their little bones are so fragile (would she also so freely pay for any damage she caused him)

I am so mad :mad:and I cannot say any of the things I really want to say.

you have to let her know this is not acceptable in any form and you will not tolerate her abuse to YOUR pup.
she could have quite possibly already cause a regression in his potty training.

You might want to explain to your roommate that what she tried to teach your puppy and what he actually learned are two different things. Obviously she was trying to BULLY him into being house broken...this doesn't work. What she actually taught him is that she is borderline insane and should never be trusted, he should hide in the closet to POOP because otherwise she'll freak and hit him, and food isn't something he'll always have, it can be taken arbitrarily from him for reason's he doesn't understand. A consistent schedule, proper communication, and a routine involving successful trips to potty and rewards are how to house train a puppy. Every time he gets spanked he'll be moved further from the goal.

Good luck with the situation, maybe if you use a crate your puppy would be safer?

Can you lock your bedroom door?
I would be very upset also.

I totally agree... if you can not come to an agreement as to how your baby is to be trained.... yep a new room mate is totally in order! Wow... I can not believe how she reacted... sure hope she is not ever going to be a real mother... the poor child would need to be rescued and placed somewhere else!:mad::mad:

Your "friend" clearly overstepped here!....This was none of her concern and she was never asked to watch him....Even if you had ashed her to keep an eye on him, spanking a dog is abusive.....That pup had no idea why he was being hit!......All she conveyed to him was pain and confusion.....If a pup is not corrected immediately while in the process of pottying or seconds after there is no connection to the correction.....Spanking is not the correct way to housebreak a pup......I hope you tell her to never touch your pup again it is your concern and you will take care of it.....I swear.....some people!!

oh my!! i really cant say what i really want to say...

I am training him to poop in a dog cage that has puppy pads on the floor of the cage and I keep him in a certain section of my room with the use of a baby gate. He was in my closed room door and the only reason she went into my room was because she didn't want him to be alone for four hours. I am so furious with her and we got into an argument, but I asked her to leave and it is just a big mess.

I already have this intense paranoia about someone mistreating my dogs once they are out of my view, but I never dreamt that I would have to worry about my dogs around her and my own home.

Put a lock on your door until you get rid of her and ask her how she would feel if you hit her cat for hocking up a hairball. Her behavior is inexcusable.

She'd be on the street with her skanky cat, both eyes poked out and a trash bag with all of her belongings! I'll say what I'm thinking!!!:confuse8:

You are a better person than me because she would have been knocked out and put out. Is a lock on your bedrrom door an option? Can you find another roommate? If you can I would throw her stinky cat box out the window!

First id put a lock on my door immediately. Secondly I'd threaten her that if she ever touched my dog again...id call animal control on her and have her removed . She had no right being in your room AND even touching your dog. In my opinion you were too nice by just leaving and going for a walk...i would have ripped her a new one.

I think she did wrong and you did the right thing by telling her off. However, from what you've said I get the feeling that she screwed up BUT I don't think she was malicious. Perhaps she spanks her cats and thinks its ok? Honestly, if she had done this because she's a total cow, chances are she wouldn't have told you she spanked the puppy... I do believe she did wrong, but you know your flatmate better than us and can tell whether she represents a threat in your dog's well-being or not.

I agree! What nerve!

I think she overstepped herself. She may have wanted to make sure that your pup was okay and that was a good thing but to spank him was not necessary. You should never hit an animal, they do no understand. If he was cowering, he must have been really scared. I would certainly let her know her boundaries and that you expect her to follow them. You are much more nicer than I would have been. I hope your little one is okay now.

Wow! I am in shock that your roommate did that. I would feel very uncomfortable leaving your puppy alone with her. Not only could she have hurt your baby by spanking him, but taking away his food could of had an effect too. Specially when little dogs are prone to get hypoglycemic. I am so disgusted with your roommate. I would question living with someone like that!

You NEVER put your hands on someone elses children or pets! NEVER!! She was completley out of line and had no right what so ever! OOhhh i am so angry about that. Once a roommmate of mine stuck avas face in her pee cause she had an accident and i swear i almost knocked her on her A**. we are no longer friends, and i have no regrets. I am sorry your lil one had to experiance that.

i am appalled at your roommates actions. She had absolutely NO right to even go into your room in the first place. for her to decide what is best for your puppy and his training is not her place at all. i would feel the same way. i get upset when someone lets my little Bentley out of his crate if im not home because i dont know what theyre letting him or not letting him do. i agree with you 100%. do not be afraid to stand up for you and your pup.

i think it was wrong that your roommate spank you dog. but i think maybe she thought she was doing the right thing, and was only trying to help? not everyone is educated about the proper way to potty train dogs. (especially if she is not a dog owner herself)

so from her point of view, she might have thought that you were rude and mean to her when she was just trying to help you train your dog.

it's hard to change ppl's mind about stuff. like some people believe that you spank the dog to train them, and they think it's silly to do anything else.

i would just keep my dog in the room, and train him myself, and once he is potty trained, you won't have to worry about your roommate spanking him or anything. and i think over time your roommate might learn the proper way to train dogs. maybe not though. but i think she was trying to help you, and trying to keep the dog company. if she wasn't trying to help, she would probably just ignore the dog and let it do whatever, and not even make any effort what-so-ever. i mean, what she did was bad, but i think maybe she just doesn't know any better??

I THIRD THAT!

It didn't even happen to me and i'm pumping!:eek:

wow... quite shocking... what a friend... you can do better!

That poor pup... its sad...

she had NO RIGHT !:mad::mad::mad:

I also agree with everyone. How can anyone spank a little puppy? Or any animal for that matter! They are helpless creatures who look to up to us to love and care for them. They also are very fragile. You are very lucky she didn't hurt the poor baby physically. Mentally is another story. I remember when my daughter moved back home after college and I had my first yorkie, Auggie Doggie, she was annoyed because he was always under her feet and she went to push him away with her feet and I went crazy! I told her she better never lay a hand or foot on my baby. And If I ever saw her again try she would have to leave my house. After that they became best friends.

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This thread makes me furious and sad at the same time! I can't believe your roommate did this. There is no excuse for her actions and there is never an excuse for laying one's hands on a tiny animal, or any animal for that matter. I think an argument with her was completely justified. I am fiercely protective of my babies and I would have been tempted to give the roommate a taste of her own medicine.

My only "roommate" is my fiancé and I will tell you this.....if he ever tried this with one of my babies, his butt would be out of my life. Pronto! It takes a "special" kind of person to hit a little dog, not to mention withholding food as a punishment. Are you kidding me?????

Okay, I have said too much. I am just really upset about this. My advice....if you MUST keep her as a roommate, get a lock for your bedroom door. But, then again, what if there was a fire or something and nobody could get to your puppy? Hmmm. I hadn't thought about that.

I guess you should probably take your puppy with you everywhere, find a pet sitter or find a new roommate.

Good luck with your pup. I'm sure she will bounce back and be happy again with lots of love and cuddles from you.

Wendi and Tinkerbell

I agree with this one. Get a new room mate or find a new place for you and your pup.

When I was a little girl, I met a dog who was spanked a lot. It was a yellow lab. All it ever did was hide and pee all over itself, which got it into more trouble. Finally, the dog turned on the guy and bit him. The guy took him and got him put to sleep thinking it was just all the dogs fault.

Two years ago, I fostered a black lab that had been hit. It took 3 months just to get it to let me pet her. A rescue had room and took her in. I pray that they could help her more.

Please, please, please, dont let her near your dog again. Dogs can go into a 'shell' when they're abused or even occasionally 'spanked' and its nearly impossible to get them out of it. It will be afraid of ALL people, including you. It's heartbreaking.

Your poor baby:cry: That broad would be out on her butt if it was my dog. She had NO right to deliberately DEFY what you told her and then to abuse your poor puppy? God, your baby may be traumatized for life now:eek: :mad: :cry:

Oh what I would love to be able to do to that #%&#$

DAMN - just reading this post upsets me - I can't imagine "spanking" a little tiny Yorkie. She must be out of her mind. Sounds like you definitely need a new room mate. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!