I have a VERY important decision to make...Please help!! I love all my animals.....Me and my bf of 2 years have 4 dogs, one is technically his and 2 are mine and the other we bought together. I am going to "leave" him soon and I honestly can't handle all the dogs. I am going to rehome my maltese and chihuahua.... I will keep my yorkie and he will keep the pekinese. Should I feel guilty about this? All I want is for them to have a loving home. I just feel that me trying to get my new life in order it will all be too much for me. What do you think?:confused::confused::confused::confused::con fused::confused: |
Sorry you are going through this, why don't you each take one of the remaining dogs? Wouldn't the dogs you each are taking feel happier with a buddy? |
well ive thought of that but honestly i can only handle one and im sure hes the same im hoping to get someone to take the other 2 together though |
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I think rehoming dogs should be the last resort. You are their owners/parents and they probably love you very much. It doesn't sound like the the situation is desperate enough to rehome two of them but maybe I am missing something... If you rehome two together, it wouldn't be quite so bad though. |
Just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear you're going through such a hard time right now. Dont think I can advise you what to do with your dogs as it's your decision but I wish you luck and hope you make the right decision. Dont think I could do what you're intending to do. Jess :heart to |
When I left my first husband I took all of our pets- the cat I had never wanted lol, and our three dogs. The love and support they provided, and the stability they created by their routine and their "needing me" really kept me going through a difficult time. What you will go through will probably be a temporary hard time, don't make your decision based on a fear of that, make your decision based on what is really best for your pets. |
My first husband (total jerk, and I didn't show much improvement in the second and last..lol) took my dog in the midst of our divorce, ripped my heart out. I know I couldn't make the decision you've made. Best of luck to the furbabies, they are the ones who don't understand and are left to deal with the mess. |
Trust me this is not easy. My very good friend has offered to take them in he has a pug. I still haven't finally decided I am really trying to think of whats best for them and giving them a good home....My BF will try to keep them but I know for a fact he wont take good care of them. |
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I don't know what you mean by all you can handle is one, you mean financially, the food, and vet care costs? Or do you mean time wise? If you are going to be gone for long periods, it just seems like a littermate is so helpful. I would hate to see you then buying a new dog to keep your old dog company. The chances of getting someone to take the other two are very slim. Hope you can find a solution that works out for all of you. |
I used to be in the "how could you?" camp. Then we got Sammy. Sammy was 10 months old when we got her, now she's 2. She was re-homed. Sammy is amazing. We got her housetrained, got her the surgeries she needed and she has Loki and someone home with her almost all day every day. She and Loki love each other, which is saying a whole lot because Loki has anxiety around dogs but these two wrestle and play and snuggle and I never thought I'd see Loki do any of those things! She's happy, we're in love...I couldn't be happier if we'd picked her out as a puppy, in fact I don't think I could have picked out a sweeter pup. It's true that I could personally never give up my two, but I have the resources to take care of them and a support system of people who love them too. Not everyone has that. If you find them a GREAT new home, you shouldn't feel guilty. You'll feel sad, but you'll also be making someone extremely happy!!! It's a very difficult decision to make and of course you only make it if you have no other choice, but I just wanted to tell you the other side of it. Unless they have major separation anxiety or are unusually attached to you (Like my Loki is) then the truth is that they will be fine. Look at their personalities - do they like strangers? If they are generally happy dogs they will adapt. Good luck to you. |
I just have to say, if it were me, and I had to rehome pets, and could only keep one, I would let others have first choice. I would take the one that was harder to place, to ensure it was going to a good home. |
Honestly.... I am just very confused right now, these are hard decisions to make. But we will see what happens. I'm just trying to start a new life now. I love my animals and they will be a couple miles away with my friend, IF i choose to rehome them with him. I may think about keeping 2 for me and 2 for him. I don't want his peke to be lonely she is so sweet and playful and they all get along so well. |
Be careful separating them if they have been together a long time. Dogs grieve and the ones left alone may be very unhappy. Good luck - I know this is a tough time for you. |
Best of luck with whatever you decide. I know its not an easy decision |
What is the reasoning behind each of you only being able to handle one? I'm certainly not trying to tell you what to do with your dogs, but it seems to me, you guys had 4 dogs when you lived together... so why would 2 dogs for each of you be too many to handle now? Unless you can financially not provide for them, I guess I am missing what the issue is with splitting them two by two. As far as deciding which furbabies stay with who, I think you should both sit down together and look at each of your schedules, finances, and which dogs energy and personality would match best with you or your boyfriend. |
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