what shall i do??
 

Hello, i have a 6 month old Yorkie and a 2 1/2 year old golden lab. I love them both very much. The golden lab is my partners dog and little bailey is my dog. Leah is a lovey lab but she can also be really bad. She crys non stop for my partners attention and no matter how hard we tell her off she will not stop it till she gets a pat and a hug. She is so bad in the back of the car that i have to say we cant take her in the car no more, she crys and yelps and will jump about non stop (she is a big dog too) I find this so upsetting as i like to go on days out to lakes and for walks and its so sad if we can not take her. If we both leave the house she will cry when we leave for about half an hour. My Patner walks her for an hour in the morning and an hour of a night but i just feel so sad that this is the only time she gets out the house as we cant take her on day trips out. I have tried everything to train her even went to a training class she just will NOT listen. She is horrible on the lead just pulls so much that her front paws are off the floor at all times and she is chocking herself we have used so many diff leads an collars and nothing works!! I wanted to know if i am doing the right thing thinking about getting rid of her..... i am not up for gettin rid of any dog no matter how bad they are and we love her to bits but i cant help but wonder if she might feel happy in a home where someone is there all the time to look after her maybe with children and someone who can train her. I just feel sad that the only time she gets out is on her walks when i take bailey everywhere with me! My partner wont even listen to me when i try and explain that its not fair on her he says he will not get rid of her and i defo will not force him as i love leah too. I said we can get another yorkie as they are small and we can take them in the car. We have just started going to the gym of a night time and the summer is coming up so we will be going out in the car alot more which means leah will be in the house alone most days and most nights where as bailey comes with us!! I just dont think it is fair, i feel so sad that we cant taker her with us! Do you think i am askin to much of my partner to get rid of his dog? i am just thinking of her, i love her so much it will also brake my heart if we did decide to get rid of her, but i just want whats best for leah and at this moment i dont think she is having the best in life even tho we spoil her and love her so much! what do u think? I hope you all dont think i am mean.

This is a behavioral problem. I think asking your partner to abandon the dog is very unfair. Instead do some research some info and see if you can get a trainer. I would never give up my dog if say my gf had allergies or some other dislike towards my dog.
Dogs are special, there are plenty of people to pass around, 6 billion.

We have had a trainer, we have even taken her to classes! I just dont like the idea she is going to be home alone most days an nights when we are taking bailey everywhere with us... sorry i just dont think it is fair on her as she is a lovely dog. can i say again i love her very much and will b upsetting for me too. i am just thinking of her and tryin to not be selfish even tho we love her are we really giving her the best of life when all she is getting is her walks :confused: She is 2 1/2 years old we are trying everything we can to train her nothing seems to be workin??? My patner seems ok with leaving her at home when we are off out on days in the car, i am not ok with this and do not think it is fair!!

I don't think she should stay home so much... maybe she needs to go to a dog park where she can run around... does she like to fetch?? Maybe some activites will help her calm down. I agree with you on the fact its not fair to leave her home..

Sorry I really don't have any advice... but I had several labs growing up... and it seemed to take them about 4-5 years to settle out of their "puppy" years. Maybe with time the dog will mature. Maybe a different trainer... I know they all differ somewhat maybe the method wasn't working for her.

Good luck!

i dont think its fair either leaving an animal home all day and night, perhaps
i would suggest giving her to a family who will give her the attention
she needs. she doesnt deserve to be abandoned all the time..

My partner does take her on a walk every morning for an hour and every night and she loves to play fetch. When she comes bk from her walks she is very tired. I just dont like that we cant take her in the car, out on day trips with us and now summer is coming up we are going to be out more of a night time too which means again more time alone in the house for her :( My patner has even sat in the back of the car with her on the trips out and she jumps all ova him yelping and crying, also when Bailey is in the car and leah is crying and yelping he is gettin stressed also which means he then starts to cry which i do not want as Bailey likes the car and i can take him anywhere. I know i must sound like a cow i just really am thinking of leah i know its hard to see :(

I agree with behavioral problem. It sounds like the dog has way too much energy and is excitable. This may sound dumb, but do you ever watch the show "Dog Whisperer"? To me, giving up the dog would be like giving up an unruly child. Just my opinion. The training process will take time and effort on your part but hopefully be rewarding. If you don't want to buy books or DVD's on training, how about research at your local library? Best of luck and please keep us posted on how it is going.

As I have a 2yr. old lab and 2yr. old Golden, both of which who were dumped at the pound, I feel very strongly about "getting rid" of your lab. How do you have a dog for 2 1/2 years and just decide to get rid of her? I am sorry if this sounds mean, which I am sure it does as I am passionate about committing to an animal once you get one. That is why there is thousands and thousands of pets out there, homeless. It sounds a little like you are making excuses and trying to justify getting rid of her, so you can get another yorkie.

You may also want to think of the resentment towards you that your partner may harbor if you push getting rid of the dog. It sounds like you need both need to make a lifestyle change, which will include activity for the lab. Unfortunately, when you make a commitment to having a pet, you can't always do everything you want to do. I would assume it's like having a child. The last time I checked, you can't leave a kid at home all day and all night so you can go to the gym. It seems like walking or running could replace the gym activity and give Leah an outlet for her energy.

I have grown up with labs- have suffered from chewed EVERYTHING, failing puppy class, and being super frustrated. However, we never gave up on any of them, and had years of rewarding love after patiently waiting out the puppy phase, which seems to last until age three or four, unfortunately. It is still a commitment.

Sorry to be so harsh, but I am very passionate about people making excuses to abandon their pets...

We have had leah for 2 1/2 years and we have done everything for her we have taken her to training and classes and nothing is working. We have read up on labs we have books and i have done lots of research. I am defo NOT making excuses to abandon her!! I lover so so much and it upsets me that you think i want to get rid of her as i dont! All i am saying is that i dont want her at home most of the time alone, and she is not listening to anything she is being told or teached, its not that i wanna get rid of her and get a yorkie at all!! She has also chewed everything in sight i have had trouble with people next door and everything and i wud not just give up on her through any old reason i was jujust thinkin it might b best for her to be happy in a home with children and someone who is at home all day as she seems to need more attention that we cant give her as we have to work!! Yes we have started the gym this does not mean that leah does not get walks and taken out? she just cant come in the car with us no matter how much we try to train her. Anyway all i was saying is that she might be better in a home that as people around 24/7 as we cant give her that. I am defo not pushing to get rid of her i was just askin what you think about it? I love her to bits so please do not think that i dont :(

There is nothing wrong with rehoming a dog to a better home when its in the dogs best interest. I feel that is the situation here and think you should rehome her to someone who has more time for her. Labs can be high energy dogs. My Aunt breeds them but she is home wth them all day

Has this dog been behaving like this for all 2.5 years? Yelping and jumping in the car? Constant begging for attention? Or are these behaviors something that have just begun?
The important question: Is she content around the house in general?
A dog is a dog and will not feel jealously if she's left at home.
Obviously if she's jumping and yelping in the car she is certainly not enjoying that trip.
How is her behavior once the car ride is over and it's now time to go out and explore the lake or the forest and have some fun?
I'd suggest that you get her a car safety harness or put her in a crate for car travel.... so that she feels safe in the car. Take her on short trips around the neighborhood before you confine her to the crate for a long drive.
If your partner feels the dog is comfortable and at ease when left at home I'd suggest you not try to force him to give up his dog.
Is your partner thrilled with your 6 month old Yorkie?

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I also agree with Chachi....there's nothng wrong with finding a new home for the dog if you both feel the dog is unhappy all the time. Just ask yourself...who wants to get rid of the dog? If your partner loves his dog and feels the dog is content...you may eventually alienate the partner.
Did he own this dog before you two moved in together?

Yes we put her in the back of the car with the dog gaurd up she also gets a bone to chew on but she really is not intrested. We always walk her before we put her in the car but it never works. Once she it at the lake (which is an hour away) she is fine and loves it! I have defo listened to all your advice and maybe rehoming her to a home which has more time is not the answer. we do love her so much and i was really just thinking whats best for her. maybe that was silly of me to thinking about rehoming her, i just dont like leaving her at home all day when we are out in the car and at work :( Yes my partner loves Bailey he thinks the world of him :)

Right we will try something else and keep you updated :D

Why not crate her to go in the car, no dog should be jumping around loose in a car anyway.

No connie he got Leah when we was together. We go on walks together and he wanted a dog to walk too. Then i decided to get little bailey 6 months ago so i could walk him when carl was walkin leah ..... which we still do alot! Leah has never liked the car but its now at the stage where i cant put her in there. My patner dosnt drive just me and her yelping and crying makes me to the point where i cant concentrate. Maybe he needs to kick up the bum to pass his test and he could teach her to be in the car LOL i really am not giving up on her i just thought it might be a better idea to go to a home where people are around to give her the attention she needs.

She is not loose in my car she is in the back with the dog guard up. i have a nissan micra a crate will not fit in there. she is not loose we have a dog seat belt on her but i cant stop her from moving and trying to jump about. We even taook her on 10min rides to get her used to it but after like 3 months we gave up as she was no better eeek!

It could be worse.....
 

My daughter has a Cocker who is now 10 y/o. I love the dog and the dog loves me.... but am so glad I don't live with him.
He barks many many times per day! Not like yapping...but a big loud piercing "woof". This he does to get your attention.
It seems to have gotten worse since she has had a baby. He's fine with the baby...but the extra excitement around the house just makes him want to join in more often with a bark. And I suppose the fact that he knows there's more chance of morsels about to fall on the floor near the baby's highchair....or a chance to get a cracker from her...add to the chaos
The baby thinks it's fun to just hand over her cracker or whatever.
His other trait is he is interested in one thing and one thing only. FOOD. It is no fun to eat when he's around...because he startes constantly in hopes of getting a tidbit...and if he's impatient the tension rises and he'll bark for one.
Funny thing is that he doesn't usually get a tidbit....it's not like he was spoiled.
I really don't think I could handle a dog that barks allot for no reason.
I do dog sit her dog when she leaves town for a few days. But I am always glad to see him leave.

Retraining positive
 

Hello. Don't know if this would help but has worked for me in the past. You need to take the lab for short trips like down the road to closest store and get her a treat(maybe McDonalds hamburger without the bun and gunk) Do this everyday with trips getting longer gradually and soon she should be looking forward to going. Worked for mine. Praise her greatly in vehicle. Don't take the Yorkie with you as attention is focused on him. All attention need s to be focused on her at this point in vehicle. It is easy to do and requires no trainers. Good luck, Sue

Worst case, if you do find a new home for her, find someone who has a big house with a back yard. Obviously the dog has a lot of energy to burn off.

Good luck!

That's exactly what I was thinking:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup::)

humm!!