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Important ? I AM FEELING GUILTY ????? I was wondering if anyone else has simular feelings as I do. Trying not to feel guilty, but I am. I dearly love all three of our girls, they each have their own special personalities and adore all three, they all three get mine and Jack's devoted attention however there is just so much about Prairie Bea that draws my inner feelings beyond understanding why I am feeling so partial to her, is it because she is so tiny and I worry about her unknowingly? She is so strong and oh my gosh her bark is louder than Baby Blessing's, thankfully Dollie Dae hasn't picked up on the barking she does the whine talk to us LOL, I have just been trying to understand my feelings, I don't want to love one more than the other, and I really don't but am trying to understand my train of thoughts. Gosh, hope all this had made sence, found it kinda hard to post. We have never had but only one fur baby at any one time, so maybe my thoughts are normal :confused: They are each such a blessing to us and I don't want to favor one over the other and am really trying not to, I truely appreciate others posts on this. Thanks. Patti and Jack |
I think it's kind of normal to feel a special affinity for one over another. It may be because she seems tinier and more vulnerable...like she needs you more. I am one of those people who are often drawn to the 'underdog' or the weak or sick ones...even the funnier-looking ones sometimes. Who knows? Somehow we bond with one more. I feel guilty sometimes too...but then I pay attention how I feel for the other one or ones, and they are also very special in their own ways :) |
I don't want to admit it, but I'll always have fonder feelings for Chip. I watched him grow up since he was 7 1/2 weeks old into the big ol' brat that he is now. I loved watching him grow and change. On the other hand, Smokey is my rescue... the one who has been through so much and is still an amazing pup. I do love them both with all my heart. |
Patti -- I know how you feel. With my six it seems like each has a special place in my heart for different reasons... Chattie -- she has my heart. After I lost my cherished Laciebug, Chattie was the first Yorkie I opened my heart to. She is regal, snobbish, and she loves only me. And I do love her so much for helping to fill the hole in my heart left by Laciebug. Chizzie on the other hand is my Laughter. She is a wild funny girl with one mission in life -- to play ball, any time any place with anyone. She runs around the house like a mad woman keeping me laughing. Scarlett -- I loved her before she was born -- I've watched her grow from a tiny little newborn into a beautiful young adult Yorkie who has the looks and regal bearing of her mother, Chattie. Scarlett, like her mom, has given her heart to me. Dovie -- the last of Chizzie's pups has given me companionship and love. During the past 4 weeks that I have in bed recovering, it is Dovie who has laid with me, given me kisses and been a friend.... Peppy is Prince Charming. He is a tiny little 3.5 lb. weewot that thinks he is king of the world. He struts around the house like he is "the stuff". And he has done well to sire both my Scarlett and Dovie. Kooper is the most humble gentle soul here at our house. He wants to be held and loved and is just a sweet little boy. All of the above to say that I love each and every one of my guys BEST in their own little way. It seems like each day their is a moment that I need (or they need) something special -- at at that moment in time, that beloved is the my "favorite" only to be replaced by a different favorite in a moment or two. Hope this makes sense. |
Well you probably know that I understand completely. Your situation is not as extreme as mine since I obviously have a very strong favorite. Spike was bought for my daughter and is very loyal to her and Gracie was bought for me but we just never clicked personality wise. She is very independent and hates cuddling and baby talk and I love to cuddle and baby talk.:p I drove her crazy before I got Sugar- I mean I REALLY drove her crazy trying to force her to be something she just wan't. All three are very loved and taken care of very well. None get preferential treatment but Sugar is my doggie soul mate, I really feel like he was made just for me, and he will always have a special place in my heart. So to finally address your question, I think its perfectly natural.:) |
I love both Boo-Boo and Pheoebe soooooooooooooooooooooooo much, but as Nikki said Boo-Boo is my doggie soul mate as well. When I went to the breader to pick up Pheoebe, Boo-Boo just jumped in my arms and started licking me, almost telling me ''Please take me with you'' so my hubby allowed me to pick up Boo-Boo as well. They were 8 weeks old and from that moment Boo-Boo was mommy's boy, he cried for me(and only for me) when I used to go away, he only sleeps next to me, he is just soooooo special. Pheoebe is very special to but she is more of a daddy's girl.I feel guilty as well but I am always giving them the same attention. |
Awww dont feel gulity patti, Its normal to feel different ways i think, I know for me, karleigh is like that, maybe because she was so sick and still does need constant daily things the others dont, I love all my babies to the fullest like we all do here, they all have such different personalities:D mery christmas to you all and your babies:p :D ;) |
Don't feel guilty, it's perfectly normal to feel this way. You love all of your babies and it's okay to feel closer to one over the others, it's unavoidable;) Sometimes they just touch your heart just a tiny bit more than the others, and that doesn't mean that you love the others less, just in a different way. Luna is my heart and soul. We nursed her to health and spent many hours caring for her, feeding her every 2 hours at first. She needed us so much, and she's still a clingy cuddle bug, she will whine if you don't pick her up:laugh: Izzy is our little comedian and athletic one:laugh: She makes us laugh so much, and we love her tons, but she's not as cuddly and needy. :love: |
I know how you feel! Kevin bought CoCo for me for Christmas '04 and I was so in love and so excited as it had been many years since I had a yorkie and had waited so long for another. Well, she and Kevin bonded instantly - I thought this was very sweet but did feel a little left out. Anyway the following Feb. we got Coffee, and he is all mine:) He is a real mommas boy, the light of my life. CoCo does love me, she often sleeps on my head and will come for love and affection, but Coffee is ALWAYS there. I'm sure I love them equally, but I do have an extra soft spot for Coffee. |
Don't feel guilty, I think it is perfectly normal. Now I love all my dogs very very much. But there is something extra special about Destiny that I just adore. I think it is her baby like qualities where she always wants to be babied and just seems to need more or want me more than the others. |
Well, I only have one Yorkie; but, I do have two 'loves'. Mozart (mixed shih-tzu/maltese/silky) is my buddy. He has given us 13years' companionship (so far!). He's everything one would want in a best friend: loyal, steady, tender and sometimes a tad stubborn. OK, sometimes a LOT stubborn :p He's seen this family through a lot of heartache and happiness. When the time comes, he will be sorely missed. Abigail is the furkid of my dream. I wanted a Yorkie for as long as I can remember. She's funny, precocious, demanding, loving, did I mention hilarious?, energetic, beautiful, and yet can be a little snot to Mr. Mozart! She is my constant shadow, and I can't imagine not hearing her close on my heels. |
I understand totally. I waited so many years for Kalina that I just opened my heart to her. When we were stranded in Indiana together we had hours to just sit and bond. She is my angel and is so totally devoted to me that I feel guilty not taking her everywhere with me. I could spend hours (and I do!!) just looking at her. She is gentle and sweet and so smart. It was so easy to train her and housebreak her - every moment with her has been sheer pleasure. Then, two weeks ago, along comes Matilda. She is wild and not interested in the "learning", but she makes us all laugh with her antics. Poor Kalina - sometimes I think Matilda is going to pull her hair out by the roots. I love Matilda and I know over time I will come to love her even more, but there's a special place in my heart for my sweet Kalina. |
LOL. I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT THIS THE OTHER DAY. EACH OF MY DOGS HAS ONE QUALITY THAT I LIKE THE BEST. I WAS WISHING I COULD TAKE THAT ONE QUALITY FROM EACH DOG AND ROLL IT ALL INTO ONE PERFECT DOG!!! :D I THINK I DO TEND TO LEAN TOWARD BREA - THE SMALLEST. SHE HAS HAD HIP SURGERY AND THAT WAS A BIG THING FOR HER TO GO THROUGH AT 7 MONTHS AS LITTLE AS SHE WAS. I THINK THAT BONDED US MORE. PLUS I JUST REALLY LOVE THE LITTLE ONES. THAT SAID, I HAVE TWO TANKS THAT I LOVE, TOO. ONE IS THE MOST CUDDLY OF THEM ALL. SO PATTI, YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN YOUR FEELINGS....:) |
Patti, I understand exactly how you feel. I don't like admitting it, but I know that Rusty was/is my favorite. I love Maddie and Tucker SOOOOOO much, but Rusty and I just had something very special. So Patti, I think that what you are feeling is perfectly normal. and it doesn't mean we love our other babies less at all. :) |
I think it's probably normal. I only have one yorkie, but I have two cats too (one I had before Lacy and one I got after). I love my cats a lot, but I love Lacy the most. And even with my cats, I honestly like my younger cat better. She's sweeter, friendlier, more loving, healthier, better bred, and prettier. I still love my older cat but I have to admit I have a favorite. |
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