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Originally Posted by yavenay  I know when I bought Dutch home (my second adopted yorkie), I didn't feel close to her at first. I thought it was too soon after Brandi had passed and I couldn't stop making the comparisons to her. But over time the bond between us has gotten so close that now I can't imagine life without her.
One of the things I stopped doing was comparing their personalities. When I stopped doing that I saw Dutch completely differently. I absolutely fell in love with her quirks and instead of trying to change Dutch so that I would bond with her I changed so that she could learn to bond with me. I made special time to play with her with no interruptions (at first I didn't even answer the phone). I get on the floor every night and wrestle, play tag and hide and seek with her every day. She has such a high energy level, it was kind of hard to calm her down to cuddle. Then I got to thinking why should I try to change her youthful exuberance? Instead I encourage it and channel it into positive energy for her (so she doesn't destroy the entire house) I accepted her quirks and let her be who she is.
As a result a very standoffish kind of pup now is beginning to seek me out for cuddles. I just sort of let it happen without forcing it or being disappointed because she isn't what I want her to be. If you do decide to keep her, try to make alone time for just the two of you on a regular basis if it's possible. Play her favorite games and let her learn bond to you instead of concentrating on you bonding with her |
Excellent advice, and it works!