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Originally Posted by Lilah Charm  I believe this thread was posted because the manner in which some people within the yt community have been responding within threads has been perceived by a large enough member base as rude and/or innapropriate that a moderator felt it necessary to step in and create this thread. If the tone and atmosphere within these dischorded threads weren't becoming consistently out of hand as perceived by a large enough portion of this community to cause a moderator response then I don't think this thread would exist. That said I don't see the value in tit for tatting the morals and manners as independently perceived by each member. The community spoke that the behavior was innapropriate, the moderator agreed there was a concern and posted a request to communicate in a more appropriate manner and to me, that seems that should be that. |
^^^ That pretty much sums it up. Yep.
I do wish "that could be that" and that was the end of it. But, we can see it didn't turn out that way. And on one hand maybe that's okay bc maybe people *have* to get this stuff OUT in order to move forward in a better way. I can only hope that the conflict in these recent pages could result in something positive such as that...paws crossed.
So, a lot of time was spent arguing intent and it seems there was a lot of sparring on who was right or the most right. And sometimes it's a matter of just passionately wanting to be understood correctly or as *exactly* how you meant it. I think we can all understand that last one. As for being right, I often ask myself "what's so great about being right anyway?" - it can be a very hollow little victory depending upon how you get there.
As far as intent, which started this rather perfect example of how conflict evolves at YT, here is what we know:
** Sometimes we can judge intent and be spot on
** And sometimes we're as wrong as can be
And that's about the extent of what we know of intent, unfortunately. That said - it's human nature, is it not, for us to infer some flavor of intent as we're reading someone's writing bc our brains are formulating meaning for us...so it's a little unavoidable to a certain degree. But, maybe we can all just try harder to not make gigantic leaps about intent.
Some people are asking about or making comments about suspensions, warnings, bannings etcetera. The reason these haven't happened yet is bc we're hoping this thread will serve some sort of purpose and have an effect. If it doesn't - and soon - and we see the same 'ol same 'ol on the boards at large, then we will be taking further action at that time. Just because you haven't been contacted via PM regarding your behavior and/or haven't been suspended, this doesn't mean you're not part of the problem.