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Originally Posted by roseylovestosho  Thank you Nancy. I wasn't planning on going down the sexual harassment path--it's definitely not something that I'm willing to put myself through. I only have one older brother and never really went through much teasing in that respect, but growing up I did always end up being "one of the boys" as I always got along better with boys than with girls. Somewhere along the lines that changed however, and I think I may have just become more sensitive than I once was due to my own insecurities. I think I have stepped on their egos as you've said because one time when one of them tried embarrassing me in public I embarrassed him right back...and I'm pretty sure after that was when I stopped being invited to group study sessions/social activities. After that, I stopped being sarcastic right back and really nothing has changed except that the comments have gotten pretty harsh and I'm still isolated. As I mentioned a little earlier, this is only in a group setting when all 4 of them are together. Whenever I talk to any of them one on one they are extremely nice to me, even complimentary...which is why I am extremely confused by the situation. I know I have to grow a thicker skin, but I guess I just feel lonely not only having to do schoolwork all the time, but then not even really having any friends here that I can talk to...either way what I'm trying to say is that yes at first I thought it was just them making me out to be one of the guys, but when I started being excluded from group work is when I thought that the way they were treating me was a result of something else... |
First understand that men's egos are so inflated. So, your comment really hit hard.
Let me offer a bit of advice. I worked in a man's world and managed men in a man's world. It's very difficult to be taken seriously for your intelligence. I know we shouldn't have to play the game, but we are women and that's the way it is. I worked hard at playing down my feminine side. In the way I dressed, spoke and conducted myself. I'm not saying I took on a masculine roll just very professional.
However, remember you can use your femininty to manipulate men in the work place.....they're so stupid they fall for it everytime and you can make them do stuff for you by knowing how use it. Hone that skill....it's very subtle but, it works.