I just had to step in, i've stayed away from this because i kept seeing it over and over and just knew it was turning for the worst.
I dare say, once upon a time not so long ago I sounded exactly like the OP here. I know how she must be feeling and i know that she's frustrated with her situation. I can understand a need to vent, i did that and took some heat for it. I cannot believe how i must have come across to all of you. Looking back, if i did sound the exact same way to you all as the OP does here, i can see why you would have gotten after me. I was feeling threatened and attacked and hurt back then and taking things far too personally and letting the slight little snips in comments make me fuming mad and upset. Now that we're past all that and i've stuck it out on YT and didn't walk away from it, i've learned that those of you on here i thought would be my worst enemies are now my biggest supporters and help...i've made so many good friends that i love and trust...we have learned enough about each other after some time and patience to be friends and to help each other back and forth.
OP, it just takes time. you have to learn to not let comments offend you, don't go looking for the negative in every comment. when you get upset and feel attacked, it's easy to keep assuming all comments are going to attack you when most of them actually weren't trying to, you are just looking for it now. does that make sense?? you have to ignore the truly hurtful ones, and the ones that are sorta in the middle, you have to learn to stop taking it the wrong way and looking for the snippy parts. sometimes you read too much into a comment and take it totally wrong (BEEN THERE DONE THAT)
just stick it out, we're all here to help, most of us, even those with very strong convictions and opinions are only offering what worked for us, we don't care that much if you use our advice or if you like what we have to say or not, we really don't care if you agree with us, we're just trying to help, trying to share how we've done things and what worked for us.
i will repost the one post that made the most sense to me on my own troubles with YT in the beginning. someone on here asked where TOY was, well here she is in Spirit!!!
hope this makes you feel better....ask me anything you want about crate training a puppy and anything you want about learning to make friends and get along better on here, i've been through the process, came out on top, and i think (tell me if i'm wrong YT) i have gained the respect of others on here and made lots of lasting friendships!!
here's my thread much like your current one:
Fussy Puppy
here's toy:
Good luck!!
