You have my sincere sympathy. There is no easy way to deal with the loss of a parent regardless of the circumstances. Only those of us who have gone through this life event can truly comprehend.
My sisters and I have been through the loss of both of our parents. Our Mom died suddenly, without any warning and our Daddy after a long, slow, extremely distressing - for many reasons - decline.
We were in shock after we lost Mom and I didn't actually start the grieving process until about about four months later when I realized I was in the middle of dialing her phone number to ask her a question. That's when it really hit me.
We were with Daddy when he died and even though we all knew he was ready to go, it was still very difficult.
So good that you were able to make peace with him at the end. Sometimes angels do watch over us.
The three of us now live in different parts of the country, none in our home town or state. We had been planning a big birthday bash for Daddy's 80th, but then all decided we'd go home and celebrate his 79th birthday too. He was doing quite well then and we had a great time. He began to decline rapidly not long after then and passed away the next June -- two months before his 80th.
It will help in time that he left this world on a day that has other, happier significance for you --- gives you something else to focus on. We lost Mom on New Years Eve. |