Wow - great thread - I have read every one of your stories and was totally consumed in trying to think about how it must be being you all
You are all so very interesting and warm people and I am blessed to share this forum with you!
My childhood was sad and lonely and though I don't mind sharing it, I myself feel it much more interesting to share the good stuff.
I started educating as a psychotherapist 4 years ago when I was 34 - and as part of the education you have to go into therapy yourself. Even though I was reluctant, it would turn my life around and make me see that I had potential for being happy too and not just surviving. So after searching for the perfect man for a number of years,
he found
me! I lived in Copenhagen and he lived in Skagen and even though my mom had been on vacations in Skagen every year since she was a child and always babbled on about how beautyful the place was, I was
not gonna live there. Or so I thought...
My husband and I saw each other for the first time on January 25th 2003 - I went to see him in Skagen. (I thought it would be easier for me to go than to throw him out did I not like him). We spend a few hours together and none of us had any doubts. I stayed with him for a week and after the first 3 days we knew we were ment to be together, we had never had feelings like the ones we had together.
He lived in a small house next to his parents and shared bath and kitchen with them, so I met my parents in law on the very first morning I had slept at his place. They were
so nice, warm and loving.
On april 24th he took me to see the sun rise over Grenen (the nothern top of Denmark) at 4am and just as the sun popped over the horizon he kneeled and asked me to marry him. I of course said yes
Picture of Grenen:
http://www.toppenafdanmark.dk/images...hjemmeside.jpg
I stayed in Skagen for the summer and even though my dad got us an apartment in Copenhagen, we decided to stay in Skagen. It really is a beautiful town.
Pictures of Skagen:
http://www.skagen-tourist.dk/images/...hjemmeside.JPG http://www.cs.aau.dk/~marius/aalborg...skagen_org.jpg
But my family in law was a very important reason for me to move to Skagen - in them I found the family I had always wanted, they are capable of true love and support.
On the 6th of September 2003 we got married at the Hostel in Old Skagen (which my family in law built in 1930-something and owned until it was sold in 2004)
Pictures of the wedding:
http://www.metteogthomas.dk/images/2...p/vedbilen.jpg http://www.metteogthomas.dk/images/2...gespisning.jpg
We decided to buy a house in Skagen and found a really lovely house that needed a BIG hand - so we live cheap and have lots to do for the next many, many years! We moved in on October 15th 2003.
Picture of the house:
http://www.metteogthomas.dk/images/2...t03/udefra.jpg
In the beginning of 2004 we talked a lot about wether we should have kids or not, but since we have met each other so late in life we feel we would rather spend our time together, so my husband suggested we get a dog and said he always wanted a yorkie (and I thought: A YORKIE!? That is an old peoples dog!) but we found Kali and we love her so much. Now we have 2 lovely girls!
Picture of the girls:
http://www.metteogthomas.dk/images/2...nuttegrise.jpg
I am on the extra education training to be psychotherapist for groups and families as well as couples and individuals and I finish that this december.
This august I open up a new clinique together with an acupuncturist, a massuese and a zonetherapist - a House of Health - in the heart of Nothern Jutland
Actually I am not a workaholic, so what I really like to do is cuddle up on the couch with my husband and talk about life, visit friends and take long walks in the beautiful nature here and be with my new family
My husband is a commercial diver and he loves what he is doing and I love that he is able to do what he loves, as am I.
I thought I was going to work with dysfuntional families as a therapist, but "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get":
I was asked to do a course for overweight women in Skagen in fall of 2003 and it went well, except for the fact that the class was all about eating right and exercising - and for me, it looked like all the women already knew all about healthy food and exercise.
So that wasn't what was wrong - something else was amiss. I took it upon me to find out what and now I run groups for overweight women here with focus on motivation and selfacceptance.
It turned out that many of these women would always put everyone else before themselves and all they had time to do for themselves was stuff themselves with food =(
Some of them were emotionally deprived and tried to repress feelings of low selfesteem, boredom and unworthyness by overeating.
We work on that in a 10 month long course where they get grouptherapy and individual therapy and it works wonders for these women.
Now someone further down south in Denmark has taken the method into use and it is slowly spreading - and I am so happy for all those women who has often tried to loose weight many many times and failed miserably because society and the media has fooled them to think that it was all about nutrition and exercise...
That's a small view of my life - thank you all for sharing yours as well