[dakotama95]

Connie,

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Trust me , there is one in every family. My SIL is accusing us of stealing from her parents and they haven't even passed yet. She has dis-owned my husband, and we even purchased a house in 1998 so that his parents could live with us since their Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers. After 3 years of living here, and several attempts at running away, becoming extremely aggresive and abusive to everyone and almost destroying our house,my Father in law- fell and broke his hip and was wheeelchair bound. Then her twin Sis had a car accident 3 days later and crushed her pelvis and had to be flown to St Louis for surgery. She went with her sis and we stayed here and took care of the parents. Well, according to her, we planned all of this and was just waiting for a chance to place him in a nursing home and get rid of him. (She is an RN, by the way and says that her dad doesn't have alzheimers). This was 6 years ago and I am still taking care of her parents, he is in a nursing home and I take care of her mother who has severe dementia. She never comes to see her mother, who lives in the lower level of our house that we have converted into a 2-bedroom apartment. When they do pass, I am sure there will be big problems. And this is not even half of the saga. Their will states that if anyone contests it that they receive nothing. Time will tell. Please do check the will. I am doing what her parents had told me they wanted. And I know there will come a day when she takes us to court, but I am ready for her because I know I am doing what they requested.

Just know that you were there for your mother and did your best for her and that is what matters most. I pray this works out because I know what a toll this can have on a family.