I was crying as I read about this story. I get mad at my little Coco, and a light thump on the nose is all she gets, and that's only if she bites me really hard. They are so cute and loving how could anyone treat them like that. The shoe IS his size. But she may be a terrible mother, but you have to nurture your relationship if you want to keep it. I have studied psychology for a long time, so here's the type of conversation I would have with her. Keep in mind that even though some of this stuff may not be your TRUE feelings, you want to be gentle for now and later you can have a more serious conversation.
"Hey, how are you? I'm so sorry for overreacting to the situation. Please don't think that I was trying to be attacking or trying to say anything bad about you. I just love that little guy and it breaks my heart to see him scared. I just reacted emotionally without talking to you about your feelings and anxieties. I would be more than happy to help you with training him, or even adopting him. Whatever you want help with. I just want to see everyone happy, and neither of you are right now. I just want to help, so please let me. Trust me, the more you learn about their behavior (I can help) the more patience you will build. Trust me I know how frustrating it is to have them go everywhere. But he's not doing it to make you angry, he just doesn't know. But if you praise him, he will learn faster and he won't be scared. He loves you, and I know you love him. But if you need ANY help with him at all please let me know, and I don't want to lost your friendship." |