I don't know what to say in response to all of you. Thank you so much.
I am fortunate to have a son and daughter-in-law living in Florida and they visit Mom from time to time. The facility will call them when mom runs out of test strips and such. So I feel good about that. Unfortunately they too are devils and avoid her as much as they can. They helped take care of her before she went into senior living care.
I think I could take this whole thing a lot better if I hadn't gone through a 7 year battle with bone cancer with my mil. Her two sons weren't a lot of help either. She no sooner died then my husband had to start having back surgeries. (three so far) He is on so much medicine that it is hard to deal with him a lot of the times. If I really think about it I guess I have to say I've been through the ringer but the strong survive don't they? I'm just having trouble dealing with being hated by the woman who thought the world of her little (only) girl. Sometimes I get so mad at my father for dying that I just want to scream at him for not being here to deal with her.
She has sundowners too. It is really bad. That is when she is her most abusive. So far she hasn't hurt anyone where she lives but if she does she will have to go to a nursing home. She slapped my daughter-in-law and then took to her bed all day the next day crying. Sigh. I never thought I would look forward to the day my mother passes away, but then that woman isn't really my mother. My mother died three years ago and left this retched old woman in her body. I have to go now, I need to stop crying.
Hugs to each of you.
L |