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Originally Posted by chattiesmom Way too many teens today "just don't get it". When my 3 got a bit sassy, I would remind them that they were entitled to food, shelter, clothing, an education, and moral training. EVERYTHING else was optional and was provided because we were financially able and because I wanted to.
A pinto beans, cole slaw and cornbread makes a fairly nutritionally balanced meal
The unheated bonus room above the garage with a matress on the floor fulfilled the shelter requirement
Goodwill and Salvation Army sells some mighty fine clothes 
They can wait in the cold rain in winter and hot rain in summer for the BIG YELLOW BUS to take them to school
I am not obligated to provide computers, tv's, cable, telephones, cell phones, ipods, and will NEVER EVER provide booze, drugs OR condem's  This little speech usually quietened them down for a while -- |
That was great!!! Thanks for that!!!
I think when kids reach a certain age (and it seems to be getting younger and younger) they act out and push boundaries, just to see what they can do. Plus, they are changing so much (physically and mentally)...that they become like a different person.
The bad thing is, you can't push too hard but you can't be too soft either. So where is the inbetween??? They definitely didn't define that anywhere, did they?
My daughter is 13 and she has learned about pushing boundaries, etc. She isn't bad, compared to what I have seen or heard, but still! It gets dealt w/ right away to avoid it growing into a bigger problem.
You can also talk w/ the school counselor too! They are free to talk to and they may be able to give you some ideas as to what you can do and say to help the situation.
I know some people that just let their kids treat them so horrible and let them do whatever - the life and learn lesson, I guess - that is scary to me because I am sure that most of those kids don't learn a lot from what they are doing.....in fact, I bet that those parent's will regret that choice later on. I am not for kids being disrespectful, at all. --and I am a very fun and laid back person, which most kids like...but they know if they do something wrong around me, I will not be happy.
I just hope everything works out......sometimes, these moods, tempers, etc will fade once they get out of these pre-teen years. (I hope). These years are already such trying times for the kids.......I still don't think a quick call or visit to the school counselor would hurt - and he wouldn't even have to know about it!