[Brookef18]

My Mom and Dad divorced when I was pretty young. (8 years old) i must have blocked a lot out because I have no memory of him ever living with us... My two sisters both remember. Weid thing is I am the middle child!

Well My dad came every Sunday for a short time then one day took off and we didn't know if he was alive or dead till I was 15! He came back into our lives for about 10 years but was more like a friend of the family to me then a Dad... I had no idea what having a Dad was like really. Then he decided to get mad at us all for not being closer to him!!! He wound up cutting us all off again! I was only too glad...All he ever did was put on the guilt trip, exspsect way too much from us, and he was all self obsorbed. When I found out he died...(Two days before Christmas) I felt very sad but not for him... for what could have been. Non of us went to the funeral but he lived across country and after writting us all off twice we didn't feel like we owed him much! Don't feel guilty, do what works for you... I really never felt guilty at all... never thought I should have done more... and wished I hadn't allowed him to come back into my life as a teen to drive me crazy for the time he was there!!!!