I hate to say it but both you and your mother are enabling your aunt. Even though your uncle left he is still emotionally and financial responsible for his daughters. Some one needs to contact him (if you know how) and let him know what is going on and that his soon to be ex is living rent free for 3 months. Unless he offers some financial support to provide his daughters with a place to live, your mother will have no choice but to evict her.
You will need to follow thru on the eviction process too. Another thing, since your aunt is on disability and unable to drive, she needs to get with the appropriate government entity and find out about low cost transportation service or free transportation service. There are ways to get around if you don't have a car and she needs to get busy and find out what her options are for herself and her girls.
I know this seems harsh, but honestly, you and your mother are just not responsible for her. She is responsible for herself and her and her ex-husband are responsible for the girls. Any thing you do to encourage her behavior by offering to help her in anyway, is to enable her, simple as that. I think that you can be there for the girls, without helping your aunt out of her responsibilities.
I feel for your mother and you. You sound like good people and I know this is hard for both of you. You both have good hearts and that is to be commended. |