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Originally Posted by yorkieK9trainer doortego-
That makes sense, and my thoughts have gone there...it just doens't "feel" appropriate, but naturally I would do what I thought was right. And what you've said makes sense and is most likely what I'd do. 
Also, do you think that since I want what's best for this child, that that might be to give it to a home *more* prepared than myself? Or just because I'm not more prepared doesn't mean that a home that is would be better and that I shouldn't try to raise the child myself??
Thanks for everyone's input! It's really helping me to not stress out as much as I would otherwise. |
I think you sound like a very mature young lady with a very supportive close family, who made a mistake. I think the very fact that your parents believe you can take care of this baby and be a good mother says a lot for you. Extended families are also very important and it sounds like yours is exceptional.
Have you ever considered how you would feel 5 yrs from now, 20 yrs from now if you let the baby go? I suspect that you would be distraught, totally heartbroken. Also, what about this extended family of yours, how will your mother be, wondering what ever happened to her first grandchild?
I was never in your situation or your mom's, but I have to think that if my daughter were going to give up one of my grandchildren, I would do all in my power to adopt it myself. Of course, that may be selfish, and talk is cheap -since I've not been in that situation.
No one can make this decision for you because no one else really has all the facts but for some reason, God has entrusted this life to you. I believe that other than your salvation, a child is the greatest gift God can give us. It may feel like an accident and I know it wasn't planned but at any time God could have stopped this process had He so desired.
At the risk of being pushy, I do feel like you need to find (if you don't already have) a supportive church family. There are so many resources available to the Christian parent, single or otherwise, and a church family can be so much help in raising your children if they do not have a strong father figure in their lives.
I'm sure that right now you would like to know what the future holds but God doesn't see fit to share that with us. The fact that you are single now certainly doesn't mean you always will be. There are so many factors that we are not in control of but God is and He will make a way for His children.
You really haven't said how you feel about this baby's father. If you love him, I wouldn't give up on him. He may be scared, insecure and/or immature but he will mature at some point.
I just don't know the answers and don't want to be in the position of mouthing platitudes at you. Only God knows what is best and He will tell you in His time if you are earnestly seeking Him.
God bless you and your family.