I ended up raising six children alone when my oldest son was 11. I admit some nights I would cry myself to sleep wondering how I would make it but I have a deep christian faith and I knew things would work out and they did. Oh, it was hard with no help from their father but they really were better off without him in their lives.
We never had much but we had the necessities. I kept them in a home with food on the table and they were neat and clean. I found myself thinking that I had to be a pillar of steel but we were going to survive.
Yes, I had to have financial and medical help from the state. I was humiliated but had no choice at the time. After five years I got myself together and the only form of help I received was rental assistance. I got a job and ended up buying a house under a special program.
I went many years alone but my children were my utmost priority. Of course they are grown now and missed out on not having a father but they always have had dear ole' mom. I've been mom and dad to them as best I could and each year they'll still call on mother's day and father's day to send their wishes!
I have a wonderful husband now. I was alone for 12 years and met this man at the courthouse where I worked. I knew then that everything had just fallen into place in my life and I have no regrets.
You will be strong and do what you have to do for your child. I hope my story lessens your burden of worry. You will be just fine if you want to be.
Best wishes to you now and always. |