Im sure this is an extremely hard decision.
My nephew is 22 now but my sister at 26 yrs of age kept him as a single mother and she did very well but she was poor, even working hard at a steady job (no college degree) SHe didnt have to pay rent because my mom owned the home and also routinely brought care packages of essentials...There wasnt much time for play and definitely lil money for cool clothes and handbags as before. It was rough and my sister had help thru family. Getting child support from the father was laughable. He was pretty much a bum, and to this day does not work steady and hes 51. As soon as my sister would get a check or two after hunting down where he was working this time, he would quit then no child support and the process started all over again. Finally it was exhausting trying to hunt him down as to where he worked etc and she gave up. She never had support from him at all, emotionally or almost zip financially.
I would take a good look at the father and see what his track record is with work, women, responsiblities. This can give you an excellent indication of the financial support you might get in the future. Past behavior can indicate future behavior. My nephews father never changed in 22 yrs. |