There is absolutely nothing wrong with adoption. Sadly a lot of folks in our society will look down on a mother who decides to put their child up for adoption, but they have no right to judge. Raising a child is such a huge responsibility and there is nothing wrong with knowing you can't handle it. I personally think it takes great amounts of maturity and brains to be able to acknowledge that you are not ready for parenthood. There is nothing selfish about acknowledging that and acting on it. I also don't believe that there is any such thing as a motherly instinct. That is simply a social construct and many women often do not have the socialization necessary to feel that motherly instinct, and those women often feel as if they are broken, or feel they are terrible people becuase they don't feel instantly bonded to their children, and they don't automatically know how to raise a child. It this is soemthing that a woman is feeling, be assured that she is not alone. A lot of women do not talk about their feeling of this nature becasue that are so afraid of social stigma. Please understand that making a decision that is in the best interest of the baby is never a wrong decision. Good Luck and I hope you find peace with what ever decision you make.
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