[QUOTE=kitty]No, his father is not in his life. He gave up parental rights when he was only 4 1/2mos old. My husband now, is gone alot. He works in the oil field and is also in the National Gaurd. I've been sick for the last 3 wks and just don't have the stength to deal with him. He has my 10 year old son thinking he can't do anything right and that he is dumb. He beats on my 7year old son that has behavior problems. My 6 year old daughter is the only one he doesn't pick on. I just don't know right now what to do. I tried getting him counciling through the school but he won't talk with the councilor and I don't have the funds to put him in counciling right now.[/QUOTE
So the boys father is no longer in the picture. Your husband is away alot. I get the picture.. May I ask when he hits his siblings do you punish him? He really needs to be reprimanded. He is a child of 11. I agree someone gave you advice to let your father and stepmother have him for a little bit. But that is if only he is afraid of grandpa, and listens to him , not to go stay there and they spoil him. I am a mother of two, boy 21yr and girl 19yrs. Thank God I never had this problem, yes my daughter was mouthy but I always punished them. They turned out to be great kids. Your son is just acting out of rebellion, the guidance counselor at school should be of some help, even though he doesnt talk to he or she. They are trained to deal with all problems and should do something. Try to set rules for him at home , when he hits , put him in his room take the tv, computer away from him. Or I suggest if he likes to play with his friends, punish him that way . I am old fashion and if my son would ever had raised a hand to me. I would hit him in the butt, today you have to be careful , some parents take it to the extreme. Believe me they won't die from a smack once in awhile...I hope things go better for you... |