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Originally Posted by Alliec1 Adoption is a great thing, but can you handle that emotionally, as well?
I must honestly say that if I were in your shoes, I would choose an abortion. I understand how you may feel about your unborn child, but you must remember yourself. I know it sounds selfish, but in this situation, you have every right to be selfish and do what is right for you. Your future matters to you, you are living, breathing, here right now..the fetus isn't. I'm sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but it's just my 2 cents. It reminds me of a situation that's often been talked about: If a pregant woman would get into, say, a car crash, and they could only save her or the baby, which would they choose? I say the mother; the baby has no real 'life' yet. The connection I'm making here is that it is your life that you will have to live, despite the decision you make. |
I'm sorry, but I just don't see how someone can ask: "can you handle that emotionally" meaning adopting. I think knowing you saved your babies life and put them first and foremost would make you and everyone around you know you loved that child before you ever saw it, enough to put it before you. That is important. I personally couldn't live knowing I had ending my child's life.
I know this would be hard. But my sister-in-law had 2 children by the time she was 17 and had no parents, and she made it. She is now happily married to my brother, who adopted her kids and they have another child together. She is going to deliver kids when she finishes college and she wants to counsel young girls in the same position as you. She is 25 now and her life didn't straighten out until about 4 years ago when she met my brother. Her 2 kids "biological" dad is horrible but you will find that man who will love and support you and your children. God always has a reason, even if it takes a while to see.
I hope this helps, and I will pray for you.