[Monday]

Originally Posted by tumblnstar

he talks about marriage all the time... its just never including me in it. he's not a good decision maker in any situation in life.. he likes to go to every store and compare every aspect.. so he usually depends on me to give him advice on everything... i just dont want to scare him by saying... hunny im ready to think about getting married...

I hate to be the 'bubble buster' here, but didn't your Mom ever tell you the expression "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free"? Not only are you 'giving him the milk' ... you are being drained of your time ... you are only 21....
You are doing everything for him .... You are supposed to be going out, having fun, raising the roof and being very careful about whom you marry.
IMHO, you see him as "security" since you mentioned you have been on your own since you were 16 <????> so you have been with him since you were 19? Could you pick out your wedding gown in 19 minutes? No, you would need more time and that is what I suggest here.
Don't be so available to him, make g'friends your own age, go out with them, show him hez not your "where all and end all" ...
He may see you as someone "needy" and figures you will be there when and if he makes up his mind. (and it seems you may have to make THAT decision for him also, if he can't pick an item from a store.)

I don't mean to be harsh, but does the expression "stringing you along" mean anything to you?

Of course, only you can make this life altering decision .... I know what a good marriage is, I have had 2 ... both men passed away younger than it should have been ..and I waited more than 12 years to find my 2nd Prince Charming! .. Now that I have had filet mignon, I can't settle for hamburger!