[Latuya]

Well, I am a mother to a son. He's only 13 but I do find myself already judgmental when it comes to these girls. My husband tells me I can't be that way. But I can't help it! He's my only boy. I have 2 girls and although I'm very protective, my 16 year old does have a boyfriend and I am fine with it. He seems to be a good kid and as long as he is good to my daughter, I am ok with it. But my son on the other hand,,, is a different story. He still is too young for a relationship and hasn't come home with a girl besides friends that have been around since they were little. But there was this one time he invited on of the friends who brought a friend. This little girl liked my Timmy and did everything to get his attention. I got a bad vib about this girl right off the bat. And seen how aggressive she was at such a young age. Boy,,, I did keep my eye on them the whole time! My husband says I'm going to be one of these mothers who thinks no girl is going to be good enough for her son. I don't see that happening. I would never ask my son to do what this guy is doing to you. My son is a mommy's boy but I would never stand in is way of happiness.

I've seen first hand what damage a meddling mother can do. My dad came down with polio when he was 3 and when he was 7 he had an head injury which caused him to have epilepsy which caused violent grand mal seizures if not controlled by medication. My dad was a very handsome young man and was quite the chick magnet. But with his illness, he didn't think they would stay around once they witnessed a seizure. So he never thought of dating, let alone marriage and kids. But when he met my mom all that changed. He was upfront with her and even after she seen first hand how bad his seizures can get she stood by his side. They snuck off and got married without telling anyone. He was 25 and was happy. But his mother did not let go. She would call everyday to make sure he was taking his meds. She would even come and look through their frig and point out all the stuff my dad shouldn't be eating. Yeah she was that bad. And when I came along,,, for get it. She jumped in and just took over. My mom just couldn't do right by this woman. And eventually it's what ended the marriage.

I would have a long talk with the guy. If he's already told you that his mother will always come first I would have say,,,,, move on. Tell him I hope you and your mother have a happy life together and leave him. I would much rather be alone then to come in second in someones heart. There's no way I would be in a relationship that I would have to compete with him mother! Best of luck you to!!!