Umm, 10 years ago last March we lost a baby to SIDS. Doesn't matter who it is adult, child or dog (sometimes strangers), if I can't SEE them breathing, I'm shaking them. It is real scary. We have an older brother of the little girl who died, he was a year and a month older than her and he used to lay so still in the playpen. His eyes are such a dark brown that I couldn't tell if he was using them or if he had died too. BTW, he's a healthy 11 year old now. But I used to see him and wonder if he was breathing and get closer and see his eyes open but not moving and it would scare the he** out of me and I'd go running over and grab him and he'd just look at me. He wouldn't move, even if I called his name. So, if I'm parnoid on the subject of not being able to see people (includes my babies) breathe, I think that's understandable. But I think that as women it is natural for us to panic when we think we see something like that. Well, maybe "panic" is a little strong but I can't think of a better word for how we feel when we see them "not breathing". Sylvia |